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Nowadays, with the liberalization of the birth policy, more and more families have ushered in the era of the second child.
Needless to say, the benefits of the second child are that the two children can be each other's companions, and the parents' later years will also have more protection, but at the same time, in the education of the two children, the parents will be more troublesome, and it is a big challenge to achieve "absolute fairness".
Not long ago, the practice of a boy in Anhui Province made countless parents think deeply: In a two-child family, can parents really do a bowl of water for two children?
The boy and his sister are criticized after a fight, and they gamble in one breath to jump into the river, is fair a lie for the second-child family?
During the holidays, when many children enjoyed the holidays with their parents, the practice of a boy in Fuyang, Anhui Province, made the family experience a "moment of horror".
It is understood that the boy is 13 years old this year, there is a younger sister in the family, and the brothers and sisters will have some small conflicts from time to time, and when they are serious, they will rise from quarrels to fights.
Because of her sister's young age, when the two fight, my mother will always criticize her brother for educating her brother.
This was originally a more normal way of dealing with it, but the 13-year-old child is in a more psychologically fragile stage, so after being criticized by his mother, his brother was both angry and aggrieved, thinking that his mother's approach was not to love his own performance, and he chose to jump into the river for a while.
At the scene of the incident, the firefighters immediately went into the water to save people after the boy jumped into the water, on the shore, the boy's mother held her sister and looked at everything in front of her in horror, and the mother's face changed greatly at the moment when her son jumped, and it was obvious that she never thought that her son would really make a move.
Surprisingly, seeing the firefighters go into the water to rescue themselves, the boy was very emotional, shouting "leave me alone", and finally, the boy who resisted survival was dragged ashore by the firefighters...
After being rescued, the boy squatted on the ground without a word, his mood eased slightly, the surrounding crowd and firefighters comforted the boy, and the firefighter's little brother even told the boy that being criticized by his mother was nothing, and that he was beaten every day when he was a child.
After the matter was exposed, netizens crowded out the comment area.
Some people say that the psychological quality of today's children is too poor to bear a little grievance, and such children will easily fall into society because of the blows they will suffer in the future.
Some people also admit that in the two-child family, it is difficult for parents to achieve a bowl of water for two children, and since the boy will be aggrieved to jump into the river and live lightly, it can be seen that ordinary parents do ignore him.
"Today's children are really spoiled, a little grievance can not stand, when we were young, we were beaten every day and would not be wronged to jump into the river."
"In the second-child family, most parents love the small, everything has to be big to make the small, you must know that the big is also your own birth, how come there is a small one is the big one does not understand things, the big is not wronged?" 」
"Parents should pay more attention to their children's mental health, a strong heart is more important than anything else!"
"Fairness is the biggest lie of the two-child family, ten fingers and the difference between the length and the short, how can parents be absolutely fair to their children?" 」
In families with two or multiple children, due to the age gap between children, their behavioral cognition is not the same, so it is easy to have contradictions in getting along.
As a parent, many people know that they should level the bowl of water for two children, but when there is a dispute, they will always let Dabao unconditionally accommodate Xiaobao, which although it seems to be no problem, it is easy to cause potential harm to the child.
Parents habitually "protect the small", what harm will be caused to Dabao?
First of all, it will make the child feel insecure and alienate the relationship between Dabao and his parents. When parents habitually maintain Xiaobao, Dabao's heart will have an unfair sense of loss, and over time, they will have a complaint about their parents' behavior, thus alienating the relationship with their parents.
Secondly, the parents' act of protecting the child is also easy to make Dabao go to two extremes, one is timid and cowardly, the heart is sensitive and fragile, and it will habitually avoid when encountering difficulties, and the other is to go to the extreme because of anger, and when encountering grievances, it will even use life to blackmail parents.
Finally, the relationship between brothers and sisters will also become very bad because of the "protection" of their parents, and even some big treasures will hurt their younger siblings because of their parents' eccentricity.
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