Early love, star chasing, my daughter scored 690 points in the middle school entrance examination, I finally dared to say these words

Yesterday afternoon, the results of our high school entrance examination in Hefei, Anhui Province were finally announced in a thousand calls.

My maid is also a high school entrance examination student this year.

The 17-day wait for scores was really excruciating.

As others say: "Afraid that it will not come, and afraid that it will come." ”

In the days of waiting, at the beginning is anticipation, expecting the child to get a good result. Later, it was anxiety, my relatives and children did well, and I don't know how the girl did in the test. Then came the crankiness.

But by July, the scores had not yet been announced. I also have no temper anymore, thinking about love.

The scores were finally announced, and our family also carried out the important work of checking scores, and in the end, I had the honor to undertake this important work.

When I entered the admission ticket number, my husband also played the song "Good Luck" on his mobile phone.

With a full score of 750, the girl scored 690 points in the test and successfully landed, and the girl and I hugged together excitedly.

Because many relatives and friends have been paying attention to the results of my girl, I quickly posted a circle of friends and spread the word.

Although it is not a very high score, I told the girl that we should be satisfied with this achievement, after all, hard work and grades are directly proportional.

The reason why a high school entrance examination touches the hearts of so many people is because the high school entrance examination is now also a big test in a child's life.

Not all children can go to high school, and some of the children who are diverted go to key high schools and ordinary high schools, while the other part of the children go to vocational and technical high schools.

Hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is a common mentality of parents, and no one wants their children to be squeezed into the water at the level of the middle school entrance examination.

The child's point, the parent's life.

A good way to "save your life" is to "add meals", eat earlier, eat more, and eat well than others.

This is why make-up classes are so popular.

To be honest, when my girl was in elementary school, I was a Buddhist mother, and I only started to get nervous after she went to junior high school, because of the diversion of the middle school entrance examination, I was worried about what to do if I couldn't get into high school and couldn't go to college.

Therefore, they began to pay attention to some things that children learned, and they also knew some "gossip".

Although the state has not allowed all kinds of cram schools to be opened in the past two years, parents can always think of ways to make up for it.

Some parents with good relationships will "fight lessons" together, and the place to make up classes is to take turns to go to the children's homes.

In the past, cram schools were designed to check for shortcomings and fill gaps, but now children apply for cram schools in order to catch up with others.

Many children, in the fifth or sixth grade of primary school, will go to the preparatory department in advance to learn the knowledge of junior high school. After entering junior high school, I will prepare for high school knowledge in advance.

If you learn earlier than the children of the same class, learn more than the children of the same class, the score will naturally go up.

But the children who are pushed in this way and accelerate forward have suffered a lot of psychological pressure, and in the past two years, more and more children have dropped out of school due to depressive choices, and even suicide.

A friend I know, her son has always been very good, but she wants his son to be better, others sign up for a cram school, she signed up for his son for two, weekends and holidays, either doing cram school homework, or on the way to cram school.

But the child's grades did not rise but fell, which made her worry.

Giving more, giving less, friends begin to have a little imbalance in their hearts, and occasionally nag.

After a mock test that didn't work, in the room, bang your head against the wall.

The friend was frightened and dragged his son to a psychological hospital with her husband, where he was diagnosed with moderate depression and needed to take a break from school and cooperate with medication.

A friend said that she originally hoped that her son could become a "man on top", but she did not expect that she would not be able to achieve speed, but would harm the child.

I said that the girl's grades were already worthy of her, not because she didn't work hard, but because in junior high school, she didn't make up classes.

In fact, at the beginning, because of the diversion of the middle school entrance examination, I was also anxious for a while, but "the eunuch died in a hurry, the emperor was not in a hurry", as long as I mentioned the matter of signing her up for a cram school, the girl only had a few words waiting for me:

"I don't like my time being dominated by others"

"It's okay if you insist on signing up for classes, I don't guarantee that your grades will improve"

"Learning is my own, why should I control how I learn?"

Obviously, if it is thankless for me to sign up for cram school, why bother?

There are no cram schools, and the time for the girls' weekends and holidays is very free. On weekends, the family of four goes out to eat, vacation, and a long trip, the days are also very pleasant.

Although there is no cram school, the girl will also preview in advance during the winter and summer holidays and follow the learning machine to watch new lessons.

The experience of learning is very good, because she is sleepy and tired, she directly lies down and sleeps.

Unlike children who go to cram school, no matter what their status, they all bite the bullet and cooperate with the teacher in class.

Of course, an adolescent child does not spend money on make-up classes, will learn independently, and everything else is fine.

Early love, star chasing, stealing electronic products, reading extracurricular books, my family has not been left behind.

In the second semester of the seventh grade, I found that the girl and a schoolboy in the same class "met each other".

When the mood first opened, I also understood, after all, I also came from the age of the girl.

However, the way of dealing with it, I adopted a roundabout way, did not expose my routine, but finally "beat the mandarin duck".

In the first semester of the eighth grade, the girl had a crush on a boy in the front position, and I did not move, in line with the principle of not scaring the snake, and the "dismantling" plan was successful again.

Seeing that in real life, experiencing "beautiful emotions" was fruitless, the girl began to switch to electronic products, chasing dramas, and watching others talk about love.

She stole and hidden, and finally, after racking her brains every time she struggled to steal an electronic product before I found it in less than two hours, she finally gave up the fight.

I started to focus on extracurricular books at home, there are not many books in our family, even if there are many books, it is very laborious to hide, and I don't want to destroy the parent-child relationship.

In order to avoid her reading novels before going to bed, I played the emotional card, I will live in high school, and in the third year of junior high school, sleep with my mother.

Finally, sleeping with me, I changed her bedtime reading novels to bedtime chatting with each other, killing two birds with one stone, and I knew everything about her situation at school.

The reason why some problems of the girl can be easily dealt with, here has to cue the parent-child relationship, is the root of all the problems of the child.

In the first semester of the ninth grade, Yatou rushed into the top 50 of her grade (there were 1,080 students in total).

Why are the results of the seventh and eighth grades not so prominent, because many children, who go to the preparatory department in advance, have an advantage. But good grades are not afraid of being late, because the high school entrance examination will not be advanced.

In the three years of junior high school, what touched me the most was that adolescent children are fragile and need our understanding and tolerance.

Happy learning does not mean that the higher the score, the happier the child.

Blindly allowing the child to speed up is a great loss of the child's "machine".

From the girl, I understand that happy learning is that children feel happy, and the motivation to learn is stronger.

Learning is not a one-time thing, step by step, make-up classes may be able to live a temporary high score, but the child's independent learning ability is destroyed, which will make the child suffer.

Every step of the child's growth, will encounter a variety of problems, the problem is never a flood beast, the problem, does not mean that the child is bad, stand in the child's point of view, and the child to defeat the problem, not with the problem, to defeat the child.

No two leaves are the same, and I don't have to demand that children are all equally good.

Children have different sides, don't always take your own children's shortcomings, to compare the advantages of other people's children, this is unfair.

There is a saying that God has prepared a dwarf branch for each child, and when we are not strong enough to stand higher, we can also touch the dwarf branch and tell ourselves, "I have a branch of my own." ”

Finally, I gave everyone a poem by Su Shi and two verses: May the child be foolish and reckless, and there will be no disaster to the public secretary.

Since the beginning of Potato school, I have always adhered to the principle of happy learning.

But to be honest, this word is simple, but when the baby's grades are at the bottom or very unsatisfactory, neither the parents nor the baby can really be happy.

For a while, because the potatoes were so bad, I began to wonder if I was really too Buddhist.

Not to mention the parents who are in middle and high school.

And the domestic high school entrance examination diversion policy, really put a lot of pressure on everyone, a colleague in our studio, the child is only in the first grade is anxious to the point of not working, saying that he has no time to tutor the baby at work, go to cram school, expensive not to say, transfer is also a problem, the most fatal thing is to be afraid all day

It was hard for me just to listen to it.

Fortunately, now that science and technology benefit mankind, the learning resources and teaching of many learning institutions before the double reduction have been systematically organized, and the babies can also do a good job of preparing and consolidating the course with the learning machine, which can help parents reduce some of the pressure.

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