As the saying goes, "Rely on your parents at home and rely on your friends outside". Friends are essential for everyone. How lucky it would be to meet one or more good friends in your life. So making friends starts with children. This is the only way for children to grow.
The process of making friends is also the process of slowly adapting to society. In the process of making friends, children can let children understand more about human feelings and the truth of how to behave in the world. But not every child can succeed in making friends. In the park or downstairs of the community, we can always see groups of children getting together to play, they are happy to talk about what they are interested in, play with their favorite toys, laugh and play together, and the relationship is very harmonious. However, the most conspicuous and prominent in the crowd are the children who are single, and they seem out of place. This shows that the child has been rejected in the process of making friends.
If your child is also rejected in the process of making friends, what should parents do?
Parents patiently comfort their children's wounded hearts
Children are full of expectations and confidence to make good friends, but they have been rejected, this time the child's heart is very hurt, the child will come to the parents' side after returning home, telling the grievances and loneliness in their hearts, at this time what parents need to do is to patiently listen to the child's sad things, and constantly comfort the child, so that the child's heart is not so uncomfortable, parents can gently tell the child, "In the process of making good friends, rejection is not a failure, nor is it shameful, it can only show that you are not suitable for being friends, I'm sure you'll find good friends who can play with you." Parents' words of comfort can encourage children and help them build confidence.
Second, analyze the cause with your child
There are no two identical leaves in the world, nor two people with exactly the same personality and appearance. There will be a certain gap between people, so when we make good friends, the personalities will complement each other and be more in tune with each other. You will also get along better. However, children will not have a smooth ride in the process of making friends. When a child makes good friends and is rejected, parents can analyze the reasons with their children.
Parents should guide their children to find problems in themselves. Is it that in the process of making good friends, your personality is too domineering and disrespectful to your friends, which leads to others' reluctance to become good friends with you. If it is the child's own problem, then parents should tell the child that if they want to become good friends with others, then they need to have a sincere, sincere, and respectful attitude, so that others will recognize you from the heart, and will become good friends with you and play with you.
If the problem is not in the child, the child has a sincere and sincere attitude to make good friends, but the other party's attitude is very bad, and there are certain problems in character, then at this time, parents should warn the child to stay away from such friends. Because "near Zhu is red, near ink is black". Avoid your child from being influenced by bad habits and develop some bad habits.
Third, parents teach their children the tips of making friends
Children should take the initiative to make good friends.
Good friends never fall from the sky, they all develop in the process of communication. If you want to make good friends, then the first step for parents to teach their children is to take the initiative, use an optimistic attitude, actively make good friends, take the initiative to communicate and communicate, and let two strangers understand each other. In the process of making good friends, we must be proactive, must be sincere, and learn to share, in the long run, children will form a tacit understanding, and slowly they will become good friends.
In the process of communication, be true to yourself, not too accommodating.
Parents need to tell their children that in the process of making friends, be true to themselves, the relationship between the two sides is very pleasant, mutual understanding and respect, such friends are very happy to get along, such friends are worth playing together. I've seen such a real-world case.
A little girl recently made a good friend of the same age, one day, the girl's good friend came to play at her house, at first the two people had a very good time, but her friend looked at a teddy bear in the girl's family, he wanted to take it for himself, let the girl give the teddy bear to her, the girl showed great reluctance, because she also liked it, but the girl friend threatened her, if you don't give me the toy, I will not play with you! The girl wanted to lose this friend, so she gave the teddy bear she also liked to her friend, and the girl's friend took the toy and went home full of joy.
After a few days, the girl's friends came to the house to play with her again, and then looked at the girl's newly purchased drawing board, and wanted the girl to give it to herself, but this time the girl was unwilling, so the two broke up unhappily, and the girl's friends never looked for her again. It made her very sad. Every time in the process of playing, the girl is always wronged, but does not want to lose friends, always to accommodate and please friends, for a long time, the girl's mood is always very low, often compromised and snubbed. Therefore, when children make friends, they should let children understand, be true to themselves, get along as equals, and find real happiness.
Parents should not interfere too much in their children's social life.
Many parents are very precious to their children, afraid that their children will be wronged or bullied in the process of interacting with others, so when there is a contradiction between children, parents will immediately participate in it and deal with the contradiction between children from the perspective of parents. Parents and children think differently, so the way to deal with social is not the same, so parents may wish to give their children a little space, parents can give their children some suggestions, but the specific solution to the child to deal with themselves.
Children who want to make good friends are rejected, parents should patiently guide their children, learn these tricks, and the road to friendship between children will be smoother.
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