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Some bad behavior of parents will hurt their children, many parents do not know, why? Because some parents think that the child is born by themselves, then how can they do it to their own children, in fact, this is a wayward idea, and the child's idea is no different, parents are so willful, then the child can still teach well?
How can it be done for children? This should not be the parent's idea, it should not be the parent's behavior and attitude, as a parent, don't be so willful and for the sake, the child is not only the parent's, the child is social, is the world, the child is small but has his own self-esteem, has his own personality.
As a parent, it is very important to behave and attitude towards the child, and the parent's behavior towards the child can affect the child's life, so it cannot be based on his own nature.
The following behaviors, young parents must quit. Whether your child can take responsibility and live in harmony with others when he grows up depends on whether he can quit these behaviors
01 · Always yell at the child
The child does not say that he roars, the child who makes a mistake can be punished, let him know the mistake, let him not make it again in the future.
But if the child does not make a mistake, then the parent can not casually roar at their child, even if they are tired, they can not vent their bad temper on the child, although the child is small, but he knows why the parents are angry at themselves.
If the child is not wrong, the parents always roar at the child, the child is not convinced, although the child is small and dare not sharpen, but the child will be very unconvinced. Not only children, in fact, parents try to empathize with it, they are not wrong to be yelled at by others, will you be convinced?
If you are roared at for no reason, if you are not only convinced in your heart but also have to accompany the smiley face, people will say that you are cowardly.
Therefore, it is the child who is not cowardly in his heart, and the parents always roar at him, and he is not convinced. If the child is wrong, the parents will scold it, the child will also feel that he is really wrong, and the parents will accept it when they help the child correct it; if the child is right, the parents roar at the child for no reason, the child will not be convinced in the heart, if the parent does not correct himself, the child will not listen to the parents in the future, which will make the parents worse and worse.
02. Use the child as a punching bag
Parents sometimes can't bear the pressure to take their children as a punching bag, which is not right, children are the parents' flesh and blood, not the tools that parents use to vent their temper.
Children who are often used by their parents as a punching bag either become very inferior or become as grumpy as their parents, whether the child becomes inferior or grumpy.
Children with low self-esteem have no sense of security, grumpy children have no one to easily offend people, and parents are not careful, but this is caused by parents, and they cannot complain about others.
03. Crack down on and denigrate children
Children who are often beaten and degraded by bad parents are very inferior, have no confidence in themselves in their hearts, always please others, always like to cling to others, and are arranged by others, so that children are very insecure in their hearts.
If you think about it, a child from childhood to adulthood to the blow and depreciation of her parents, where she still has self-confidence, she originally had self-confidence, but her parents deprived her, where she still has self-confidence, only inferiority remains.
If the child does not leave early to blindly attack and belittle her parents, or the child's parents do not admit their mistakes, the child's life may be ruined in the hands of the parents.
04. Scolding children in public
Some parents think that children do not need self-esteem, children know what, they themselves are so face-saving, they even think that their children have no self-esteem, in front of outsiders in public to beat children or degrade children.
In fact, children also have self-esteem, children are small but also need face, and then parents hit children in public is not right, children have no self-esteem and no face are complaining about parents, many parent-child relationships are so messed up.
05. Always compare children with other people's children
Parents themselves are better than others and always like to compare their own children with other people's children, the child is certainly not convinced, although the child does not dare to take the parents with other parents in person, but the child's heart has already compared his own parents with other people's parents.
People have their own advantages and disadvantages, if parents want to take the child's shortcomings and other people's children's advantages, then the child will slowly become inferior, even if the child is inferior, I will not obey my parents, the child will also think that it is because their parents are better than others, so they are not better than others.
Can this be better than going in the heart? This is teaching waste children!
06· Always put up a parental shelf and talk to the child in a "command" tone
Always put up a shelf in front of the child, with the tone of "command" to talk to the child, when the child is young because of the fear of listening to such parents, but the child grows up he will not listen, even he will not respect such parents, but everything will come to him.
Why is that? Because the child's dignity has been damaged, when he is slightly capable, he will rebel, and the child even thinks that the parents have been suppressing him, so he wants to get rid of the parents' oppression.
Therefore, parents must not always put up a shelf in front of their children, what kind of shelf? Isn't it good to communicate happily with your child? Why do you have to be so nervous? The more tense the parent-child relationship, the easier it is to have contradictions.
07. Conclusion
Parents have any bad behavior for the child must know how to quit, parents to make a good example, it is not difficult to teach the child well, if the parents of the child's behavior is messy, then the child can teach that it is a miracle.
Only parents can set a good example for their children and communicate and communicate well with their children, then parents will accept their children's education and guidance.