In recent years, it is common to see some children on the news, because of quarrels with parents and scolding from teachers, and choose to take their lives lightly. What I want them to be unable to bear, in addition to these blames, is more that their lack of self-confidence leads to a sense of worthlessness. A confident and strong child can better adapt to the environment, meet challenges, cope with setbacks, and get out of life's adversity. We can't be with our children all the time, nor can we help them solve all the problems they encounter in life, so we need to understand how to cultivate children's self-confidence.
Self-confidence is so important to a person's development, how can parents help their children build self-confidence in their daily lives?
1. Cultivate children's sense of ability. In sports, learning, social interaction, etc., parents should consciously create opportunities to exercise their sense of ability, so that children can experience the feeling of success in doing a thing.
2. Correctly guide the child's desire to win or lose. Teach your child to accept failure, and tell your child that failure is also a part of life. Comparing your own children with other people's children will greatly damage your child's self-confidence.
3. Parenting style of parents. Parents adopt a gentle, supportive, and encouraging parenting style, which is more conducive to raising confident children.
Expert studies have shown that by the age of 4-5, children have built up a sense of meaningful self-confidence. But in the age group of 4-7 years old, most children will be "overconfident.". They feel good in all respects (enigmatic confidence). After the age of 8, their evaluation of their own ability begins to slowly close to the evaluation of others. This requires parents not to blindly spoil their children before the child is 8 years old, nor to overly hit the child's self-confidence.
I am Teacher Wang in the parent class, and it is not easy to create, and I ask for attention. I will often update my original articles in [Parent Classroom 008], mainly talking about some thoughts and methods for improving parents' education for their children. The highest level of companionship is to "live out the admiration of children". Friendly discussions are welcome.