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"Raising a child for a hundred years old, often worrying about ninety-nine", the moment the child falls to the ground, parents begin to worry about their children.
When you are a parent, you also know that you cannot shelter your children forever, and your children always have to face the world by themselves, so teaching children to take responsibility is a crucial step. How is a child who cannot take responsibility different from other children?
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Be self-centered
Pippi is a lively, intelligent, and responsive child. But sometimes you can't control your own behavior: when playing blocks, you have to pick your favorite, when you stand in line, you have to be the first, when you play, you want others to listen to his commands, or he will go on a rampage when others play, and there are often children who come to sue him.
A child like Pippi is a child who lacks a sense of responsibility. Lack of responsibility often makes the child become selfish and greedy, and the self-centered child will not think "should" or "should not", he will only think about how I want to be, what must be, and do not want to consider the feelings of others.
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Shirk evasion of responsibility
This type of child will be more prominent in school, such as the teacher assigned tasks that are not completed and the responsibility is shifted to others.
For example, if a teacher asks him to bring something to school, the child who forgets to bring it asks why he asks why, and says, "Daddy didn't prepare it for me, Mom forgot to bring it to me," without thinking that it was his responsibility.
Over time, when you grow up, it is also logical to blame others, unable to recognize and admit your own problems.
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Lack of self-care
Children will not take the initiative to pack their own belongings, toys, school supplies are placed everywhere, shouting when they can't find it, even crying, eating leftover food scraps refuse to clean up themselves and so on.
When children grow up and their parents are not around, they often can't handle things by themselves, work and life are a mess, and a bunch of messes finally have to be cleaned up by their parents.
Be sure to teach your child to take responsibility early
Many parents like to say, "No matter how old, it is always a child.".
It is this mentality that has cultivated many "bear children", who are destroyed everywhere, and their clothes come to reach out and open their mouths.
In order for children to take the initiative to assume and become the pillar of family and society in the future, these 6 kinds of responsibilities must be taught to him!
1
legal liability
The law is the untouchable bottom line.
Starting from the new semester in the autumn of 2017, the mainland has compiled special textbooks on rule of law education in primary and junior high schools, with constitutional education as the core and systematically strengthening rule of law education.
The textbook combines the provisions of the Constitution with the common social affairs in life, starts from the students' experience, and guides students to understand and identify with the status of the Constitution and the spirit of the Constitution, so as to truly identify with the rule of law from the heart and establish faith in the rule of law.
In addition to receiving rule of law education in school, parents can also take their children to increase their legal knowledge through some TV dramas and legal programs.
The law is the basic code of all our behavior, tell the child what age to bear what kind of legal responsibility, so that they have a basic understanding of their own behavior, understand the law to abide by the law.
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Family responsibilities
Doing housework is essential.
Many primary schools have made housework compulsory, encouraging children to help parents do more housework. At the same time, we will also organize everyone to clean up the school regularly and cultivate everyone's awareness of loving labor.
The user @Cathy left a message saying: "It is the responsibility of each family member to build a warm home, children cannot be excluded, and the cultivation of a sense of responsibility cannot be ignored because of age." ”
The ability to take care of oneself in life is an important part of cultivating children to learn to take responsibility.
Simple housework is not a difficult thing, let the child clean their own dishes and chopsticks after eating, clean their room on the weekend, usually help parents to do some simple housework, let the child develop a good sense of service and labor concept, not only so that they can leave their parents in the future life can also live, but also cultivate their patience and serious attitude.
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Learning responsibility
Self-directed learning is king.
Recently, "writing homework with the baby" has become a hot topic of discussion, and the homework written with the baby is often the child's homework is not written well, and the parents are angry enough.
Parents' long-term companionship and learning seems to be a responsible performance for children, but children who accompany them in this way often lack the ability to think independently and are prone to form a habit of dependence.
In addition, having parents supervise and accompany learning will also make children feel that learning is not their own business, but for parents to learn.
In terms of learning, the sooner you learn to be independent, the sooner your child will benefit, so parents should learn to let go, so that children have a goal and plan for their own learning, which is more conducive to his growth.
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Life responsibilities
Learn to do your own thing.
Children always have to leave their parents one day, and they always have to learn to grow up on their own. Tell your children to do their own things, learn to pack their school bags, learn to tie their hair, and so on. As he gets older, he or she has to teach him what he can do on his own.
A mother believes: "Children should be allowed to do what they can, and children around six years old should dress themselves, brush their teeth, and learn to put away school supplies after doing homework." ”
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Responsibility for self-care
Know how to protect yourself.
When children enter the "small society" such as kindergartens and primary schools, they must learn to get along with others, and when children are bullied by others, they must first ask the ins and outs of things, help children analyze fairly and objectively, and tell children how to protect themselves if they encounter similar situations again.
Tell him not to bully people, especially not to bully people who are weaker than yourself, and if others bully you, you have to protect yourself and don't get hurt.
This is not to teach the child to fight back, but to hope that the child will become more calm and have the courage to deal with it.
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Responsibility
Bear the consequences for your actions.
The mistakes they make should be borne by themselves, such as playing football to break the glass of the neighbor's house, at this time, parents should not come forward in time to block things for the child, let the child realize his mistakes, take the initiative to admit his mistakes to the neighbors, and listen carefully to the neighbors' teachings, so that next time he will pay attention, similar problems will not easily occur.
One father suggested: "If a child breaks someone else's things, he should apologize for it." Parents can't afford to pay, but ask your child to write an IOU and pay it back by helping the parents do extra chores. ”
Such an approach is more conducive to cultivating children's sense of responsibility and responsibility, and the mistakes they make should be solved by themselves, rather than blindly relying on parents.
Only by taking responsibility can we control the future.
We can't shirk our troubles; for the future, we have to take responsibility.
Today's life depends on our past beliefs and behaviors, and the enviable life of the future depends on our way of thinking, self-discipline, humility, persistence, choice, etc. today.
The so-called for the future, for success, I am the main person responsible.
Wise parents should root this awareness of taking responsibility for their own future in their children's hearts and make their children's future more brilliant.
Wayne. Dr. Dale once said, "The people who give you responsibility also give you power." ”
Whether a child can have the right to choose in the future and whether he can freely control life all depends on this noble person - himself.