The term "school bullying" is very harsh, and there are many related incidents almost every year. In order to prevent this from happening, many places have equipped schools with vice principals for the legal system, with experienced people's police, to stabilize the teaching environment within the school.
However, in order to fundamentally solve this kind of thing, the most important thing is to rely on the child itself, only if the child has the ability to fight bullying, can avoid the situation of school bullying happening to themselves, for this reason, many parents have also begun to pay attention to the anti-bullying education of their children.
However, in the "anti-bullying" approach, parents have different opinions. Previously, at a class meeting at the child's school, many parents proposed various anti-bullying methods, among which the highest call was to "fight back".
Many parents believe that "fighting back" is a brave act, but everyone may not have thought that blindly "fighting back" is likely to cause more bad consequences.
Children who encounter "bullying" and choose to "fight back" may usher in such consequences
The fight could not be won, and as a result, it was subjected to more serious bullying.
Parents who let their children fight back, first of all, need to consider this question, if the child fights back, can he win in the end?
If the child cannot win the fight, then the child's behavior will become an act of angering the other party, the consequences will be more tragic, and even the retaliatory bullying of the other party for a long time, which will pose a serious threat to the child's schooling, life, and even safety.
The battle was won, but the other side was seriously hurt.
When the child fights back, the battle is won, the other party kneels on the ground and begs for forgiveness, and the other party does not dare to bully the child again.
However, because of emotions or other reasons, the child did not control the strength of the fight back, and as a result, the other party was injured, and even sometimes there was a situation of "counter-killing".
At this time, not only the other party has suffered serious physical trauma, but the child will also be affected by psychological, economic and other aspects.
The fight was won, but the child fell in love with this feeling.
There are also some children, who have strong personal ability, have won the battle, and have a good grasp of the strength, and the other party does not dare to bully themselves, but the other party is not hurt.
At this time, the child is likely to have a "sense of accomplishment", and the child may be dominated by this incorrect sense of accomplishment, thus replacing the "abuser" as the next "abuser".
Therefore, "fighting back" does not work in my opinion.
In my children's anti-bullying education, I mainly teach my children three things, and I feel that the results are still very good, at least since I went to primary school, my children have not been bullied in school, nor have they participated in school bullying.
When a child is "bullied", a more effective way than to fight back is to teach the child these things
"Good men don't eat the loss in front of them", they should hide, they should shout
At the beginning of teaching children to fight bullying, in fact, I have seen my own children being bullied by other older children, when I took my children in the community square, I sat on the edge of the square, the child played in the square with a toy, at this time a big child may look at my child's toy, so he has to go forward and grab it.
I didn't know that the older child would grab the toy, and I thought it might be a play between the children, and there was no past, until the child was pushed down by the other party, I didn't think something was right, and rushed to stop it.
In the process, I found that my children did not move, just stood and let people beat, so I found a mistake that many children make, that is, "do not know to hide".
Therefore, I taught my children at that time that when they encounter being bullied, they should be clever, hide when they can, shout when they can call for help from adults, and don't be beaten silly.
"Keep fit and make friends" and make yourself "bad"
I remember when I was in school, a little girl in the class had been bullied, and the perpetrator at that time was my friend, and I couldn't think of my friend bullying that girl, so I asked: "Why do you want to bully her?" And my friend's answer made me feel really ridiculous, he said: "She's a bully." ”
In fact, many times, children bully others for no special reason, just think that the other party is good bullying.
From the little girl who was bullied, I saw some characteristics of "good bullying": no chicken power, usually did not like to talk, and did not have many friends.
Therefore, when I educate my children, I often take my children to exercise, cultivate the child's sunny personality, strengthen the child's communication ability, and make the child become "not easy to mess with".
Strengthen the learning of anti-bullying knowledge and consolidate children's anti-bullying ability
The anti-bullying education for children is carried out all the time. For example, now, I have not stopped the "anti-bullying" education for my children.
However, in order to improve the anti-bullying ability of children more comprehensively, in addition to educating and guiding children, I also used some professional books, after all, as a parent, not an anti-bullying expert, it is inevitable that there will be omissions in educating children by myself.
I have prepared for my children the book "Learn to Say No Aloud: Teach Children to Identify Hidden Bullying and Stay Away from Harm".
This set of books has a total of 8 volumes, using eight stories with different themes, selecting the most classic campus bullying materials at present, expounding eight types of campus bullying to children from eight different angles, teaching children to identify campus bullying in a timely manner, prevention first, and having the courage to say "no" to unreasonable requirements to improve children's self-protection awareness and ability.
The scenes in the picture book are very close to real life, and use the color graphic expression that is easy for children to understand, comprehensively explaining to children what is being bullied, how to properly protect themselves when children encounter such events, so that children have a healthy and happy childhood.
For example, "I don't like to be called: what to do when encountering relationship bullying", this theme tells the child, if he meets other classmates who often like to "call" himself, let himself write homework for him, on duty, etc., what should the child do at this time.
Another example is "I don't like to be touched: what to do if I encounter physical assault" to tell children that if they are touched by others at school, so that children are uncomfortable and dislike, what should be done at this time.
So far, the educational effect is still very good. When children encounter injustice, they can not only boldly say "no", but also skillfully resolve and improve their ability to reverse quotient.
Write at the end
Many people have always felt that school bullying seems to be far away, but in fact, it is around us, if we neglect to educate our children against bullying, then the children are likely to become the next person to be bullied. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their children's anti-bullying education, so that children can stay away from campus bullying and have a happy childhood.
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