Girls are bullied resulting in perforated eardrums, not every flower in the "dark" can wait for its own "glory"

The recently popular Korean drama "Dark Glory" tells the story of girls who spend their lives taking revenge after being bullied at school.

The plot in the TV series is shocking, watching people's blood pressure soar, and before it slows down, the realistic version of "Dark Glory" has been staged, and the details of being bullied are more than comparable to the TV series.

Some time ago, a 13-year-old girl in Hainan was bullied by many classmates and caused her eardrum to be perforated, covered with multiple scars, and a foreign object was inserted into her eye, causing irreversible visual damage.

The girl was threatened not to tell others about being bullied, until relatives saw the video uploaded by the bully from the Internet and rushed to the police in shock.

Subsequently, the girl was taken to the hospital for treatment, and the police intervened to investigate, found the perpetrators, and found that they were all minors, and the reason for the violence was simply "looking at her unpleasantly".

It is also a young man and girl in the flower season, but the bullies have no empathy, good and evil, turn a blind eye to the suffering of others, take pleasure, and record a video to show off on the Internet, which is really creepy.

Not every flower in the "darkness" can wait for the day of "glory", and for children who are bullied, the damage is irreversible and more difficult to repair.

When the child's strength is not enough to solve the problem of being bullied, the intervention of parents is particularly important.

Only by understanding the causes of bullying and recognizing the universality and indiscriminateness of bullying can we better improve vigilance and provide effective protection and help for children.

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The distance between youth and evil is closer than we think

Why do bullies do evil? Whenever we see incidents of bullying in schools, we can't help but ask questions like this.

First of all, the child's own psychological and behavioral characteristics are the main cause of bullying, and adolescent jealousy, misplaced self-esteem, and blind pursuit of a strong position may lead them to use their fists to solve problems.

This happened in my son's kindergarten: several girls played the game of "teacher and student" together, and a few children with strong personalities would pretend to be teachers and appoint several other children to play "students".

Children who pretend to be "teachers" will label "students" who they think are "good students" and get rewarded, while for what they see as "bad students" they will be punished with false mistakes and used as an excuse to punish these children.

Fortunately, a girl told her parents about her beating in kindergarten, and the parents came to the kindergarten angrily and asked the teacher to investigate the incident and give an explanation.

The teacher questioned many classmates, including his son, and gradually understood the truth of the matter. Before that, such a "game" had been going on for nearly a month.

Psychological research has found that after the age of 5, children's self-awareness is basically formed, and the perception of status, conflict, and competition will occur.

Some children see the power and dominance that parents and teachers have, and they will want to imitate it, so as to strive for an advantageous position for themselves. Children often have limited judgment of right and wrong, and if they use the wrong method, it will evolve into bullying.

Violence in the family environment, aggressive factors in movies and games, can become external factors that induce children to commit violence.

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Bullying does not distinguish between family and school, and must not be taken lightly

Some time ago, a short video blogger exposed a bullying incident in an international school, saying that a friend's child "was beaten for 7 consecutive days, strangled by the neck, and could hardly breathe."

The violent child not only beat people himself, but also "paid for murderers", employing three children with 200 yuan to beat people with him.

When the child asks the school teacher for help, the teacher is indifferent and asks him to continue the class; The child's mother approached the school principal to respond, and the principal said to investigate, but there was no follow-up.

Later, the parents had no choice but to call the police, and only after the intervention of the police did the other parents agree to apologize.

The annual tuition fee of this school is as high as more than 300,000 yuan, and the children who can enter this school have a good family, and their parents also attach relative importance to family education, but they did not expect such a vicious incident to occur.

When schools face school bullying incidents, many are reluctant to actively investigate and deal with them, because once such incidents are verified, they will cause an uproar and have a huge negative impact on the reputation of the school.

However, if the school chooses to "make big things small and small things", pretending that school bullying incidents are just petty fights between students, the impact of the incident can be controlled within a certain range, thereby maintaining the reputation of the school.

According to a UNESCO report, some 246 million children and adolescents experience violence and bullying in schools every year, 97% of whom hide in icebergs beneath the surface of the sea.

Therefore, bullying can happen anywhere, regardless of family situation or school, and its prevalence is beyond our imagination.

For parents, if they want to keep their children away from bullying, it is not a change of environment and a better school to sit back and relax, but to solve the problem fundamentally.

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Tough parents are the most solid reliance of children

The girl who was bullied in Hainan, whose parents are disabled, do not understand the law, do not pay attention to the changes in the child, and can provide limited help and support to the child.

In the TV series "Dark Glory", the heroine's mother not only did not help her, but also stood on her opposite side, easily bought by money, and modified the withdrawal application form as a guardian to prevent the heroine from fighting for her legitimate rights and interests.

As a result, the abuser intensified his efforts and physically destroyed and mentally humiliated the heroine.

Therefore, if parents are ambiguous, children are more likely to become vulnerable and be targeted by bullies.

The French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre once said, "I have only one weapon against violence, and that is violence." ”

Although we do not encourage children and parents to fight violence with violence, if the child is bullied, the parents' attitude to deal with the problem must be tough, once the school refuses to solve the problem, or the other parent does not agree, parents should be good at taking up the weapon of the law to protect the child.

Parents should also win an apology from the violent child and parents, so that the bullies can realize that their children are "not easy to mess with", not only to solve the current problem, but also to avoid subsequent children being retaliated against.

In the TV series "Dark Glory", the heroine through her own efforts, let the people who bullied and harmed themselves were punished one by one, and staged a blood-boiling revenge drama.

However, in real life, not every child in the dark has the ability to fight back and wait for their own glory. Their bodies and minds can be irreversibly damaged and they will live in an abandoned world for the rest of their lives.

The distance between the boy and evil is not far away, and the parents are the high wall that blocks the invasion of darkness.

Let us be the most solid support for children, and hope that every child can stay away from school bullying and spend a carefree youth.