A few days ago, a video of a girl being bullied in a primary school in Chongqing caused a heated discussion on the Internet, making many people angry.
A group of classmates not only insulted the girl in dialect, but also kicked her from time to time, slapped her 54 times in just 3 minutes, and finally took out a bottle of beer and poured it on the girl's head.
And the girl, the whole time did not dare to fight back, even more dare not run away, can only stand there and let her classmates bully.
This scene made people's hearts blocked. Every child is a parent's baby, and no one wants their children to be bullied outside. However, school bullying does not exist because parents do not want to.
On May 20, 2017, the "China School Bullying Investigation Report" was released. The data shows that the phenomenon of bullying in schools in China is becoming more and more serious, up to 46.23%.
Moreover, through the investigation, it was found that children who are bullied generally have the following characteristics.
Children who are asked to be obedient
Being required to be good is an education that many children receive. However, have parents ever thought about what is behind the obedience? Why do children behave?
From the perspective of children's psychological development, obedience means obedience and obedience, that is, children do not have their own opinions and ideas, timid and cowardly, and will be willing to listen to their parents' arrangements. Such children, in the process of getting along with their classmates at school, are also more likely to be bullied.
Children who are often hit by their parents
Recently brushed a video of Jin Jing talking about her parents' blows to herself, the video of Jin Jing changed her previous funny style, some grievances said, once her father said that her thighs were thicker than the boys' thighs. Jin Jing said that she has been hit by her parents since she was a child, so she has not had self-confidence since she was a child.
Some parents will verbally attack their children, and they always like to say the opposite. In such a family, children are constantly hit by their parents and will fall into a habitual helpless psychological state.
Habitual helplessness is a psychological phenomenon, and when people make a lot of efforts to no avail, they will think that nothing they can do can change the status quo. Slowly, they will accept their fate and give up resistance.
Once a child falls into a state of habitual helplessness, she will habitually give up resistance when she is verbally attacked by her classmates, or even more serious physical violence.
Single, unsociable child
School bullying is more likely to happen to unsociable children. The survey found that for every additional friend a child added, the chance of bullying in school dropped by 6.76%.
The child has the company of friends, which is equivalent to increasing the difficulty of violence and is conducive to avoiding the occurrence of bullying.
On the other hand, children with strong social skills have strong expression skills, communication skills and the ability to deal with interpersonal conflicts, which is conducive to avoiding the occurrence of conflicts.
Children with discordant parental relationships
Family relationships are essential for the development of a child's mental health. In the book "Psychological Nutrition", Dr. Lin Wencai believes that in the process of children's growth, there are five kinds of psychological nutrition that are indispensable, one of which is a sense of security. And children's sense of security mostly comes from the family.
A stable and harmonious family will bring children enough security. Children who grow up in this environment are more confident and braver. Children who grow up in a family where the relationship is not harmonious and the parents quarrel all day long will become sensitive, timid and cowardly because of insecurity.
In order to make our children grow up healthier and avoid the harm of school bullying, parents should pay attention to cultivating children's self-confidence, assertiveness, brave qualities, and good social skills in their usual family education. Making children stronger is the best way to resist bullying in schools.