Nowadays, many parents like to give their children one or two kinds of physical fitness interest classes, for example, taekwondo and Chinese martial arts are very popular.
The purpose of parents to enroll their children in classes is, on the one hand, to hope that their children are physically strong, and on the other hand, they hope that their children will have a little skill so that they will not be bullied. But to prevent violence in schools, being physically strong is an advantage, but it is not the best way.
Qiang Qiang was a strong boy, but after he went to junior high school, he was always bullied by a boy who was shorter than him. Mom and Dad taught him to "fight back" and he cried and said, "I don't dare." "Angry parents can only find each other's theories, but the children behind them are still bullied, and they are even worse."
Later, his parents could only transfer him to a new environment. However, children often appear to be afraid to communicate with teachers, and they often have conflicts with their classmates and are bullied. Mom and Dad are very worried, growing tall, but they are often bullied, and it is really incomprehensible.
The height and weight of the child are not the cost of not being bullied. If we want our children to stay away from school bullying, we should start with the child's character growth and cultivate the child into a "bad" role.
What kind of children make people "unbearable"? See if there are any such children around you.
Confident, cheerful, and good at solving problems, such children are not easy to be bullied.
My two children, the son has an outgoing personality, is a very friend-making little boy. Occasionally, however, he also has some difficulties in interpersonal communication.
We moved to a new home last year, the house is spacious and the community environment is also very good. Moreover, in this newly built community, there is also a large children's playground, which has many children's play facilities such as slides, rock climbing, trampolines and so on.
The first day my son went to the Children's Fun Park, he encountered difficulties, just climbed to the slide, there was a little boy at the entrance of the ladder intercepted him, he crossed his waist and said: "I came first, don't let you play, go down!" ”
The son looked at the two children below, obviously bullied by him, and did not dare to go up the slide. The son also walked down the steps. He took out his basketball and said to the other two children, "Come on, let's practice shooting together!" ”
The joy of the three children attracted this "little bully", and he couldn't help but join the "basketball team" and may become good friends in the future.
My son's fist may be small, but his brain is strong. Children who are good at communication, diligent in thinking, and can use their brains to solve problems are generally not bullied outside. They will take the initiative to solve the problem of the person who is causing him trouble, which is also a great threat to the bad guys.
Children with principles and bottom lines have their own temperament that I am "not good to mess with".
There are some children, they are all introverted children, do not have any good friends. But some of their unique characteristics are something that others dare not bully. For example, integrity, bravery, and a bottom line are also the cost of not being bullied by others.
Although some children are young and not very strong, they are not willing to bow to the evil forces. A body of righteousness makes him constantly resist, ask for help, to deal with and fight bad people.
Bad people always have a weak heart when they do bad things, and he is certainly afraid of being constantly investigated, so when children have principles, have bottom lines, and are not afraid, they can keep the bully away from them.
Such a child has a sense of security in his heart and believes that everything that is wrong should be corrected. And there is a bottom line of zero tolerance, which is also the capital for children not to be bullied by others.
Children are kind and friendly, popular, and many friends are not easy to be bullied.
Most of the children who are bullied have one thing in common is that they are more withdrawn. There is no one to help when you are bullied, and there is no one to talk about. You see kids who are often in groups of three or five, always talking and laughing with their friends, and their group is power, which will make the bad guys automatically stay away from you.
In reality and on the Internet, I often have friends who ask me how to teach children to protect themselves.
I think this is not a sentence or two of "be brave" and "fight back" can be changed, but should be from the child's character growth, a little bit to infiltrate the child.
For example, give children more role-play, let children learn how to correctly face the bullying of others from the game, the more they practice, the more children can become more and more difficult to provoke; in addition, they must take their children out to play, make more friends, and exercise more physically; of course, you can also let children read some anti-bullying picture books, so that children can learn from books to "resist" and protect themselves.