What should I do if my child is bullied at school?
This has always been a matter of concern and entanglement for many parents, you can talk to each other's children, talk to each other's parents, talk to school teachers and even principals...
The reason is understood, but to tell the truth; when there is a real school bullying incident, when it is still a small matter, all parties blame it. When things become big things, it's too late to take care of them...
April 2, Foshan, Guangdong
The little girl was bullied by the boys at school, and the little girl's father found the boy who bullied his daughter in anger; he directly pressed him to the ground and scolded him...
The surrounding teachers and parents quickly persuaded the father to leave, and also pulled the boy up...
In the process, the girl's father said "How many times have you bullied my daughter?" ”
This sentence may mean that this is not the first time that the daughter has been bullied by this boy at school...
Parents around him advise this dad to let him calm down; bullying your daughter is not right, but there are things you can talk about slowly, don't get too excited.
Not surprisingly, the father's behavior has triggered a fierce controversy among netizens; some netizens accuse an adult of beating a child, which is a bit excessive, and the child will have a psychological shadow.
Another part of the netizens expressed their support for this father, and protecting his daughter is the minimum duty of a father; even if it is by fierce means...
The dissenting netizen said, "You can warn him, but if you do it, it will leave a shadow on the child..."
[On the point of "leaving a shadow", the author's personal opinion is that the psychological quality of those who can do such things as bullying in the first place is not so fragile. Then this kind of statement is somewhat suspected of "double standard", allowing you to bully and bully others, when one day when others fight back, you shout that it is easy to leave a shadow? That's not appropriate, right?
Some netizens think that my son bullied your daughter, and you beat my son in order to defend your daughter; then I can also fight for my son...
Then say that there is something we deal with, and it is a bit too much for adults to bully children!
What the above netizen said seems to be no problem, especially the last sentence is quite reasonable; but in reality, it is often such a parent who is conniving at their children, and they are also quite unreasonable...
His child bullies others, you go to talk to him; he is often perfunctory, not even a word of apology, let alone some "no example" commitment or education of his own children.
But as soon as you hit his child, he immediately put on the above logic; and then he would shout that he could find you for his son or find your daughter... (The so-called bear child must have a bear parent behind it, which is the kind of parent)
There are also a large number of netizens who choose to support this father, feeling that although it is wrong to beat people with their hands; the reason is understood by everyone, but from the actual situation, only after this treatment once, the boy will really obey and will not bully the girl again.
(At least he didn't dare to bully this girl anymore!) ）
In tens of thousands of comments, many netizens have praised the following comment:
On the matter of school bullying
In fact, if it is only to talk about the big truth, everyone will say; consultation, communication, telling the teacher, interviewing parents... There are a thousand ways to solve things like bullying, and they are very simple.
And in fact... hehe
But anyone who has experienced school bullying will understand that these seemingly rational and soft, perfect methods; in fact, farts are not, farts are not top...
The funny thing is that when the above dad behaves like this, there will always be a group of people who jump out and accuse "it will cause psychological shadows on the boy..."
[Author: I have been bullied by schools for 3 years, and the so-called rational and perfect methods you call ... Oh, haha, huh...】
So I know that solving school bullying is a very simple and complicated thing; the simple words are the father's "countering violence with violence" (but this... Although it can solve the daughter's problem, it will bring additional legal disputes to the parents)
Then the other is a very complicated processing, that is, the so-called consultation, communication, and interview of parents among many people... (In this process, you will most likely see the teacher talking to the mud, the other parent is prevaricating, the abuser is perfunctory, your father is worried, and you...) In fear! ）