The sister-in-law does the homework assigned by the school to the nephew and creates a fruit plate.
My cousin asked, "Why do you find our house every time you make a fruit plate?" ”
The sister-in-law replied happily: "It's not because our family has a fruit store?" ”
Cousin: "Then don't promise to do it next time, it's mainly too troublesome." ”
Sister-in-law: "That's not okay, what if because of this, the teacher has an opinion about us, and then it's not good for the child?" ”
Cousin: "That's true, too!" ”
It was a conversation between family members, and as a mother, I could understand my sister-in-law's feelings. The thing that any parent will worry about is whether the teacher is good to the child.
If the teacher is good to the child, then all aspects will be taken care of, and the academic performance will naturally not fall; But if the teacher doesn't like the child, it will be a big blow to the child.
01. Being a teacher has become a "bully"
On the mainland, children like to be compared to flowers, and teachers are gardeners who care for the growth of flowers. But not all teachers deserve to be called "gardeners."
Fairy tale king Zheng Yuanjie posted two Weibo posts in a row, one of which reads: "Please teach everyone, if a primary school class teacher incites hatred between students, such as saying in front of the whole class that a student has "evil energy" and is an "alien", causing the whole class to ignore the student." Is such a class teacher qualified? ”
There are multiple comments under this Weibo: "Isn't this leading school bullying." I have heard of many school bullies, and the main participants are students, but this time the leading bully has become a teacher! When the four words "school bullying" are associated with teachers, which parent is shocked and afraid?
Xiaowei, the son of his colleague Sister Li, suspended school a year ago due to depression. Xiao Wei had just turned 11 years old, and because he did not make a question, the teacher said in front of the whole class that Xiao Wei's IQ was worrying.
Since then, the students have gradually reluctant to play with Xiao Wei, and Xiao Wei does not like to take this teacher's class, and the teacher ignores Xiao Wei. This negative cycle lasted for nearly a year, and seeing her son's grades getting worse and worse, Sister Li discovered that her son was treated unfairly by teachers at school, and his mental health was also greatly affected.
As netizens said: compared to student bullying, teacher bullying is really terrible. They occupy an important position in the hearts of students, and this position includes not only the imparting of knowledge, but also the authority of teachers.
Just like Xiaowei's teacher, the teacher described in Zheng Yuanjie's Weibo, their words, a representative word, and "nickname" will push a child to the abyss of being bullied.
02. Teachers are guides and leaders
The identity of the teacher is very important for everyone's growth, and a word, an expression, and an action will have a great impact on children. If a sentence or an expression is positive, then a poor student will climb rapidly because of the teacher's "encouragement"; On the contrary, with disgusting and negative energy, it will make a good child slide down quickly.
In the circle of friends, a friend who has been a primary school teacher for 5 years once complained: it is really not easy to be a teacher nowadays, and the school holds meetings and assessments because of a little thing; Parents come to the trouble of the teacher because of a word.
In the role of a teacher, it is necessary to prepare lessons, teach, and understand the situation of each child, various assessments of the school, etc., very busy and tired, and some complaints are normal; But from the perspective of parents, they will worry about whether the teacher will bring bad emotions to the child and whether he will not be able to treat the child well.
Therefore, it is not the school, parents, etc. who are harsh on the role of teachers, but the identity of teachers, the guides on the road of children's growth, and the leaders in life.
1. Teachers not only impart knowledge, but also teach children how to learn
Being a teacher is not simply to tell the knowledge of each lesson to the students, but to impart knowledge at the same time, but also to mobilize students' interest in learning, so that they can master knowledge, like to learn, and put more enthusiasm into future learning.
2. Teachers are role models for children's growth
"When I grow up, I will be you". This is a song that praises the teacher, and from this lyric, you can feel the students' admiration for the teacher and the teacher's influence on the children.
Once at an open day in my brother's class, when the teacher asked the children what kind of person they wanted to be in the future, almost all the children felt their hands high and said loudly that they wanted to be teachers.
In the hearts of children, teachers are not only imparters of knowledge, but also role models. Every word and deed, positive values, will bring positive meaning to students.
03. Teachers are not good at children
Instead of worrying that the teacher will be bad for your child, think about what to do if this happens.
Step 1: Calm your child's emotions
Once something happens that is treated differently by the teacher, the child's mood will definitely be very low. As a parent, don't feel that the teacher's criticism of the baby must be the fault of your own baby. First calm the child's emotions, let the baby know that you can understand him, only in this way will the child confide in their parents about their inner hurt.
For the child, he has already been greatly wronged by the teacher, and the parents must firmly stand on the side of the baby and let him understand that Mom and Dad are his solid backing.
Step 2: Analyze the incident and find the cause
When encountering children being treated differently by teachers, parents should remain absolutely calm. First understand the truth of the incident from the child's mouth, if the starting point of the problem is the child, then explain the reason to the child and tell him that the teacher will not dislike you because of this matter. Give young people confidence so that they don't feel inferior and afraid because of this.
After that, go to the teacher to understand the situation, and sincerely inform him that the child has been troubled and hurt because of this matter, and hopes to find a good way to solve it. In the communication with the teacher, parents should master the skills, neither aggressive, nor grovel, just communicate with the teacher sincerely, the ultimate goal is to help the main child grow better.
Step 3: Establish a good relationship with the teacher and communicate more about the child's situation
The problem of educating children is not the unilateral responsibility of schools and teachers, and do not feel that everything will be fine if you send your children to school. It is still necessary to communicate with the teacher frequently about the child's situation.
In fact, from the perspective of teachers, they prefer parents who can cooperate with the school and co-parenting. Therefore, no matter what kind of treatment the child encounters, it is necessary to establish a good relationship with the teacher and actively communicate the baby's situation.
The other day, I accidentally saw a video of a college student returning to junior high school, putting on his uniform and going to meet his teacher. At first, the teacher did not recognize the person in question as a former student, but after recognizing it, the teacher took the student's hand and walked out of the teacher. From their smiling faces, you can feel each other's happiness and excitement.
Everyone hopes to meet a teacher who can help them in their lives, and only those who become teachers in this way can be worthy of the title of "teacher" and truly achieve "peach and plum all over the world".
Mom came to nag in the early morning:
In the process of children's growth, children will encounter a variety of things, parents can not do it for them, but if children encounter some unfair treatment, parents should give enlightenment, help and solutions in time.
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