Hello everyone, I'm lemon not too cute, today to talk about school bullying.
Yesterday in the neighborhood, I saw the mother of a boy of about five years old cursing downstairs. I went up to ask about it, and found that the thing was this: according to the little boy's mother, it was a boy of about nine years old who frightened the little boy and said: If you dare to go out, I will cut off your head. As a result, children are afraid to go out to play. When the little boy's mother was scolding loudly downstairs, the little boy cried and shouted and grabbed his mother's arm to cover his mother's mouth and prevent his mother from shouting. Seeing this scene of the little boy, I really hurt him.
In the past two years, school bullying incidents have been frequently talked about, and my daughter's school often sends some articles to prevent school bullying to guide children. As for the school bullying incident, I think I have a say.
My daughter is in first grade this year. Some of the children in his class are very naughty, although there is no such a very bad phenomenon as intimidation and abuse of classmates, but sometimes they will push the children down or pull the braids of the girls. Once a little boy hit my daughter, (this is not the first time, before I thought my daughter slowly pushed her to the knee.) My daughter is usually a more squeamish personality, and when she comes back, she immediately tells me. I realized that this matter must be solved in front of my daughter, because I could not let her be afraid of this kind of thing or avoid it, and I thought that if I told the teacher, the teacher would definitely be with the mud. So I was ready to communicate directly with this boy.
At the end of school, we were walking with this little boy. I asked him: Have you ever beaten a grain of rice (my daughter's name)? He said he didn't fight, I said you guys are good friends. If there is any conflict, you can quarrel, but you must not hit each other, this little boy has always said that he did not move, and later, he said: Who let her (my daughter) say mine first. I knew the problem because this little boy was naughty in the class, and my daughter said he did. He hit my daughter. He did admit that during this time the little boy's mother walked by and did not speak, and she said to the little boy: This is your little child's own problem, and you will solve it yourself. But as the parent of the victim, I don't think it's a kid's business, it's a matter of tutoring. Because the child comes to this world, just like a blank piece of paper, the adult may not specifically teach him to beat people, but when the child hits someone for the first time, the adult does not stop it, and even some old people will think that my child is making a profit, this subtlety has led to his current personality, of course, I can't educate him, I just told him: You can't hit the grain of rice, you hit others I don't care, but I absolutely don't allow anyone to beat my child. At that time, he didn't speak at this point. When I got home, I said to my daughter: You can continue to play with him, he does not dare to hit you again, if he hits you again, you still have to tell me, you can rest assured to play with him.
I think it's over here. After that, it should be the little boy's mother who went to their teacher to ask about the situation, I don't care how the mother will educate the child after confirming it, but the teacher's approach makes me very speechless. The teacher found my daughter and she said: The little boy is so naughty, he hit you, he doesn't know it himself. Shall we forgive him? It really shocked me, should we be beaten by him just because he was naughty? Can't we criticize him after we've been beaten? I think the teacher's approach must have fueled this bullying. I believe that any student involved in the school bullying incident is a small fight at the beginning, and it is impossible to push other children downstairs or gangs to bully a certain classmate as soon as he comes up. He must have been mischievous in the beginning. Most of them are verbally educated. Parents do not take things seriously, teachers do not take things seriously, including the parents of the victims. So it has created today's campus bullying.
If the child is naughty at the beginning and has a parent or teacher to educate him, then he will not go down the path of the abuser. If the victim's parents had stood up at the very beginning and bravely spoken up for their children, there would have been no victim being humiliated and afraid to tell the parents and teachers because he felt that no one would support him. School bullying is ultimately a problem for adults.
If even the parents of the victims think that it is normal for their children to be beaten, and that other children are naughty and resign themselves to it, then how can it not be a normal phenomenon that has evolved into today's school bullying incident?
Do you think I'm right? Welcome to leave a comment!