The 42-year-old Shen mother was depressed after giving birth to the child, left alone, and did not return to the hospital for a long time. The police found Ms. Shen in the rental house, found that her emotions were almost broken, and wanted to give up for a while. She said it was too tough! Still working on the first day of labor, "what woman would want to bear so much." She cried and said, "Eating is a problem, I ate two slices of bread on the day I gave birth, and the nurse gave me." According to Ms. Shen, she came to Hangzhou to work ten years ago, and her sick husband raised a pair of children in his hometown. Life is hard. After the local authorities learned of her situation, they reached out to Ms. Shen.
Compared with Shen's mother, who is 42 years old and can still get pregnant and have children, another group of young people who can't conceive at a young age is in stark contrast
Not long ago, the state opened up the three-child policy.
Suddenly, there were many opinions.
Too many people say that being born is not a problem, but not wanting to be born is the biggest problem.
The series of realistic pressures brought about by having a child have deterred most families.
But in the matter of fertility, there is actually such a large number of groups.
Not being able to give birth became a protracted battle in their lives.
"She has a child of her own, not mine, but hers."
"No, let him find another one."
"I only have one son, how can I not have children?"
"Passing on the generations is something I should do."
There is even a saying on the Internet: "A woman who cannot have children is a chicken that cannot lay eggs."
Full of sharp irony and realistic helplessness.
Seeing this sentence, Yang Yuancao couldn't sit still.
As the creator of "The Voice of China", the "Queen of Variety Mode" is known as "the woman who wears 10 cm high heels to sell copyright".
This time, she decided to turn her attention to "fertility".
This documentary with a very realistic and ironic name was made - "Wonderful Egg Birth".
On the direct cause, because when she was 39 years old, she officially unlocked the new design of the elderly mother.
After becoming a mother, she has more understanding and thinking about her identity and responsibilities.
Although many young people on the Internet play terriers and say "unmarried, infertile and safe", it seems cool.
But in fact, if anyone is really infertile, the real situation is ashamed to say.
Therefore, since the official decision to do such a show, the degree of difficulty is far more than imagined, which is far more than Yang Yuancao's expectations.
After all, infertility is a private matter that is difficult for countless families in China to talk about.
He and the team interviewed 70 or 80 subjects, and only 20 or 30 cases were finally presented.
From the aspects of fertility difficulties, assisted reproduction, fertility willingness and families who have lost their independence, the various sentient beings behind fertility are discussed.
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Wen Xia, a Sichuan girl married to Jiangsu and Zhejiang, was 35 years old and had a habitual miscarriage.
Prior to that, she had had three miscarriages.
Because of this experience, she thought that she was ashamed of her husband's family and could not raise her head in her husband's family all day long.
However, Wen Xia, who was pregnant during the second IVF, eventually miscarried.
Unexpectedly, he was really kicked out of the house by his husband later, and even claimed 600,000 yuan.
After Yang Yuancao learned the news, she flew back to Wen Xia's husband's factory with the film crew the next day, hoping to listen to him talk about the ins and outs.
When the host asked Wen Xia's husband: "Wen Xia did test tubes and experienced so much pain physically, wasn't she also adding a child to this family?" Why pay it back? "
But wen Xia's husband sneered in response: "Do you have the ability to be born?" You can't even give birth now if you want to. "
When Yang Yuancao came to Wen Xia's hometown of Bazhong, Sichuan, the first thing Wen Xia blurted out when talking about this matter was: "It is really not worth it at all." "
This time, Wen Xia seemed to have woken up.
Even with the assistance of science and technology, it is difficult to achieve true "equality between men and women" in the matter of childbearing.
Women always take on more responsibilities and pressures in childbearing.
In China's shy, silent, and shy family relationships, having children or even women is the best way to express their love for their husbands.
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Coincidentally, Wuhan, a young couple after 90 who came to Wuhan from Anhui to seek a son, Xinxin and Yanghao.
Many medical consultations have pointed to Xinxin's problem.
In fact, in addition to the matter of childbirth, the life of the two also has sweetness and warmth.
But when it comes to having children, the only way to do that is to wait for the love to give the eggs.
However, this wait will take 3-5 years, and there is no guarantee that the surgery can be completed.
Shin Shin's face was full of sorrow, and she washed her face with tears.
Because of the matter of childbirth, Yang Hao's parents have given her an ultimatum.
Immediately after, the host Yang Yuancao asked Xinxin's husband Yang Hao: "Do you think you will still be together if you don't have children?" "
"Anyway, just do your best to take one step at a time." Yang Hao did not reply in the affirmative.
Later, he returned to His hometown in Anqing and sat at the dinner table together with Yang Hao's parents.
Yang Hao finally confided in his heart: "Reality does not allow me to do this." "
He said that if he did not have children, he would be pressured by the public opinion of various families, believing that the world of two people between husband and wife was not a world of only two people.
Yang Hao's parents are even more adamant that marriage without children can only be divorced.
At some levels, childlessness due to female reasons is indeed rarely tolerated, and divorce or family splits are more likely to be filed.
But what if this happens to men?
Will the ending be good?
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In Shanghai, in an andrology clinic, Xiao Wu and his wife have been married for many years but have not had children.
After various medical treatments, it was concluded that Xiao Wu suffered from "azoospermia".
The only way to do that now is to provide sperm.
That is, using someone else's sperm to conceive a wife.
And the child who will eventually be born will have no blood relationship with Xiao Wu.
Undoubtedly, such an approach is unacceptable in traditional belief, and it takes a lot of courage to make such a move.
Faced with this helpless move.
Xiao Wu said: "If she wants a child and I can't, then I myself will feel sorry for her, although it is not mine, but it is hers, very good, at least she gave birth." "
In terms of family, in addition to Xiao Wu himself, the parents of Xiao Wu and his wife did not raise objections or exert pressure.
It seems that in some sense, men seem to be more inclusive than women.
According to statistics, behind the small advertisement of "treatment of infertility" on the street pole is more than 50 million pairs of patients in China.
In 2019, China's infertility rate was as high as 16.4%, which means that 1 in every 6 couples cannot give birth.
In 1995, the rate was only 3 percent.
What is even more pinching is that young patients aged 25-30 account for the largest proportion.
In countless fertility dilemmas, women almost all point the finger at themselves.
"I hope that starting from this fertility documentary, the power of women's thinking can be gathered into a new social voice, so that people can open up new horizons for the concept of fertility, let more women understand the various possibilities of fertility, and alleviate fertility anxiety." Yang Yuancao thought so.
Throughout the filming process, Yang Yuancao's team from the beginning of the anger and regret of its misfortune, to the later can gradually understand and respect the choice of the female interviewers in the film.
Through the show, they hope to let women choose whether to be born or not.
Others say that the film should have no interviewers.
But when it comes to something as intimate as childbirth, if no interviewer interviews in the form of a "documentary diary," who wants to speak out to the cold machine?
Not to mention telling your story truthfully.
As a participant and an audience member, Yang Yuancao is doomed to have difficulties in bringing fertility issues to the screen.
From the beginning of the planning, Yang Yuancao hoped to make a documentary that was different from "Shengmen" and "Human World".
As a result, the first documentary in China focusing on women's fertility issues was born, and it is currently broadcast to the 3rd issue, and the subsequent 3 issues are temporarily suspended for unknown reasons.
Delaying childbearing, not having children, and not being able to give birth are still problems that most women always have to think about and face on the road to growth.
But because of the long-standing inequality of fertility, the road ahead is doomed to have all kinds of difficulties and obstacles.
Life too much needs more understanding, inclusion and communication voices to weaken these obstacles.
It's a long road.
It is expected that one day, at least in the matter of childbirth, women will have the right to dominate the womb and the right to choose themselves.
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