A few days ago, a mother left me a message: What should I do if my child is bullied at school?
I think I should have a particular say in this question, because our family was bullied at school when they were young.
Guo Guo was a very introverted child, did not like to talk, looked thin and small, and when she was three years old, we sent her to kindergarten.
In the first few days, Guo Guo was very happy, and shared interesting things with me in the kindergarten, and then Guo Guo began to become unhappy, and even pretended to be sick and did not want to go to kindergarten, I killed her for this, looking at poor Baba, I asked her: "Baby, why don't you want to go to kindergarten, don't you like kindergarten very much?" ”
Guo Guo cried and told me: "Mom, there are children in the class who bully me, kick my legs, take my snacks, and smash my face with clothes, I don't want to go to kindergarten."
I was very angry when I heard Guoguo's words, and I asked her: "Why don't you fight back when others hit you, do you just stand there and let others beat you? ”
Probably feeling that I was angry, Guo Guo did not dare to come out, standing there and even forgetting to cry, after about five minutes, she said grievously: "Mom, you said you can't bully others." ”
In the evening, I added the WeChat of the parents of the children who bullied Guoguo, told her this problem, and after she apologized, she said that she would educate her children and let her children apologize to Guoguo.
This matter was solved, but the fact that Guoguo was bullied made me very worried that there would be other children without this child.
In 2019, UNESCO released a survey called Behind the Numbers: Ending School Violence and Bullying, which showed that 32% of students worldwide were bullied by their peers at school at least once in a month, and almost one in three students had been bullied in school.
CCTV once released a news report that the fatality rate of school bullying was as high as 11.59%, of which 31% of children were seriously injured and 38% of children were slightly injured.
These are all painful numbers, school bullying will have an impact on children's physical health, it will also have an impact on children's psychology, they want to use their lives to heal this scar, and many children's lives are ruined on campus bullying.
The popular movie "Young You" tells a story of campus bullying, Chen Nian's classmate Hu Xiaofei ended his life because of long-term bullying by campus bullying, Chen Nian knows the cause of all these things, but she does not dare to tell the police, because she knows everything, the bully in the class began to bully her, isolate her, insult her, hit her with a ball, but she has been hiding.
When I watched this movie, my tears fell, school bullying turned out to be so terrible, in order to keep our children away from school bullying, parents must teach their children to say "no".
Why do others bully Guoguo?
For why Guo Guo will be bullied, I specially consulted a children's expert, the expert said that because the child is too introverted, does not like to talk, coupled with thin and small, looks very good bullying, the expert gave an example, in general, the bully will not bully people who are stronger than they look or that kind of very confident child, because they are afraid of being bullied in turn, they will only pick soft persimmon pinch.
Why guoguo did not fight back when she was bullied, on the one hand, because she did not know how to do it when she was bullying, and even did not understand how to fight back, on the other hand, it may be that she knew how to fight back, but she felt that it was not a good child to fight back and hit other people's children, so she did not dare to fight back.
I told Guo Guo: "Baby, it's not that beating people is not a good child, but what kind of situation to beat, if he bullies you, you have to bravely return it, and your parents will protect you." ”
Guo Guo looked at me and nodded, in order to make Guo Guo understand what is school bullying, and what to do when being bullied by school, I found a set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" on the Internet with Guo Guo to see, this set of books has a total of 8 volumes, common bullying behaviors in the campus have appeared, such as being excluded, being nicknamed, being wronged, being insulted, being beaten, etc., this set of picture books can tell children what to do, the picture book form can well reflect the bullying scene, through the small protagonist is bullied to make children feel empathy, Thus learning the solution of the little protagonist, so as to stop being bullied.
Teach everyone a little trick, when taking children to read picture books, parents can role-play, imitate bullying incidents to make children cope, hands-on practice can deepen children's understanding, so that children can react quickly when facing bullying events in the future.
Guo Guo made great progress after reading this book, once again I took Guo Guo downstairs on the swing, several children came to drag her down, a child also pushed her, I thought she would leave silently, did not think that Guo Guo directly pushed the child, but also told him: "Standing there is my mother, do you want me to call my mother?" The kid heard it and ran away.
Guoguo's coping method is learned from this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", many parents feel that their children will not be bullied by the college, in fact, this is not the case, many children will not tell their parents when they are bullied, which leads to bullies becoming more and more bold, more bullying children.
In addition, when the child is bullied, it may be too late for the parents to do what they are doing, and parents must teach their children to deal with bullying in school and build a better future for their children.