Friend's daughter is introverted, does not like to talk, and even a little timid, since kindergarten, friends are always worried that she will be bullied in kindergarten, unsurprisingly, the child in the class by classmates not only hair, but also pushed down, scratched, let people look very painful.
Some time ago, when the friend picked up her daughter from school, she saw that her daughter's forehead and face were scratched with several blood marks, and the friend directly broke out of temper at that time, pulled the daughter to the child who arrested the person, and sternly told the daughter to fight back, but the friend's daughter was too timid to fight back, and only cared about hiding behind the friend.
The friend looked at the daughter who shrank her hands and feet, but for a while she couldn't afford the little friend who scratched her daughter, but she was very angry with her daughter, and suddenly made her friend realize where the problem was!
Children with this personality, class teacher: It is easy to be "bullied" in school, and parents need to pay more attention
It is reported that friends have taught their daughters from an early age that "to get along with children in harmony, we must not fight", and her daughter is also very well-behaved and obedient, never fights with others, and even does not know how to fight back after being bullied.
In order to avoid her daughter being bullied again, my friend specifically asked our mutual friend, she is a homeroom teacher who has been engaged in education for many years, she said: Introverted and courageous children, in school is doomed to be bullied by other children, parents must pay attention to it.
The class teacher friend also told a real case: in the class, there was a student, shy, not talkative, and relatively timid, so he was often bullied by other students, she asked many students: Why do you always bully him? The child who beat people said wildly: Isn't his timid appearance bullying?
Bullying soft and afraid of hard has always been the characteristic of bullies, so if you want your child not to be bullied, you must make your child's attitude tough, and it looks very "bad"!
After communicating with the class teacher's friend, the friend decided to help the child cultivate a "bad" temperament, otherwise the child would not know how much to lose in the future!
01, teach children to do this, so that the daughter from being bullied to "not good"
After her daughter was scratched by a classmate, a friend asked her daughter why she didn't fight back at that time? Unexpectedly, my daughter's answer made my friend suddenly gag: Mom, you said that it was wrong to hit someone! Subsequently, the friend let people remember: the next time there is such a situation, you must fight back!
First of all, in order to help children enhance their sense of self-protection, friends choose picture book stories to guide children to oppose bullying.
My friend chose this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", which teaches her daughter to know what bullying is? When being excluded, bullied, and ridiculed by classmates, how should I face and solve it? Who should I turn to for help?
Secondly, he led his daughter to run every day and exercised the child's physique.
Teacher Li Meijin once said: Children have good physique, strong explosiveness, and will not be easily bullied by other children.
In fact, it is not difficult to find that it is often bullied by thin or too obese children, and children who exercise regularly have great physical fitness and fast reaction speed, and it is difficult to become the object of bullying.
In order to exercise the child's physique, the friend takes his daughter to run every day, and gradually, the child's physique becomes stronger and the personality is also cheerful.
Finally, give enough children a sense of security.
Friends seem that as long as the child has enough security in his heart, when he encounters things, he will not be subconsciously afraid, knowing that his parents will always be behind him, supporting her and protecting her, so that he will have the courage to "fight back" the bully, so that people will look "not good"!
02, timid and introverted daughter, finally dared to fight back.
Under the guidance of the picture book story, the child has the consciousness of "fighting back", and after a period of exercise, the child has the physique of "daring to resist".
Once, when a friend was taking his daughter to the park to play, suddenly a boy directly snatched the toy from the child's hand and pushed the daughter directly to the ground.
The friend saw the situation and wanted to directly find the boy theory, but thinking about it, wanting to see how the child responded, only to see the daughter stand up, directly push the boy to the ground, directly take back the toy, the boy who was pushed down and then cry loudly, the boy's mother came looking for a voice, and then directly ordered the daughter: Did you hit her?
The man obviously forgot that he had just bullied his daughter first, and had been complaining to his mother that it was her daughter who had beaten her.
The boy's mother directly ordered her daughter to apologize, and the daughter directly told the story of the incident word by word, and said: He must apologize to me before I can apologize to him."
After the boy's mother listened, she directly picked up the boy and left, seeing this scene, the friend was both relieved and proud, and the daughter, who has always been timid and introverted, finally had the consciousness and courage to "dare to resist", and praised the daughter's good job and was proud of her daughter!
03, school bullying is everywhere, from an early age to cultivate children's courage and confidence to dare to resist
There are special data showing that half of people in life have experienced school bullying!
People who have experienced school bullying are indelible to their children, some directly drop out of school to work, and some need a lifetime to heal.
In school, children can not avoid friction with other students, often before the prevention is more important than after the remedy, in the child's 3-6 years old period is the social sensitive period, this time just entered the campus collective life, and away from the parents, conflicts with other students is a very common thing,
Therefore, as a parent, it is necessary to teach the child what to do when there is a "conflict", so that the other party knows that the child is "not good" when he first contacts the child.
For example, this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books", a total of 8 volumes, the content of which comprehensively contains common bullying phenomena in schools, such as being ridiculed, being touched, being wronged, etc., specially tailored for 2-8-year-old children, to help children establish a sense of self-protection, how to fight back in the face of bullying and so on.
When the friend accompanied her daughter to read this set of picture books, she learned how to deal with being pushed and bullied, and when she really encountered these phenomena, she could help her daughter react quickly, correctly fight back against the bully, and stop being bullied!
This set of books is very practical, the protagonist is bullied scenes, most of them are often in school, colorful illustrations, the content plot is vivid and interesting, so that children in the process of reading is very substitutionary, resonate with children, know that in the face of bullying, do the right and effective counterattack.
If your child is also more introverted, timid, and does not like to talk, parents must pay attention to it, after all, parents are the most solid backing of children, it is important to guide children to have a sense of self-protection, so that children dare to say "no" loudly in the face of bullying, and be the guiding light on the road of children's growth.