My cousin, who had just sent my child to kindergarten, came to me to complain.
Saying that her daughter was only in kindergarten, her face was colored, and she was caught by a classmate.
The reason why my cousin came to me so furiously.
First, because it is true that the child is encountering this kind of thing for the first time, the parents are extremely distressed in their eyes.
On the other hand, it is also more worrying that after the child returns home, he still refuses to tell the family, and he does not tell the teacher. Once such a character is cultivated, the consequences will be unimaginable.
In the future, children may be extremely sensitive and cannot withstand setbacks; they may also become flattering personalities and suppress their own needs; they may also avoid being cowardly and dare not fight for their own interests.
From my cousin's words, I also experienced her heartache, but instead of this, it is better to cultivate the child's "unworthy" temperament.
Here, I would like to introduce 2 ways for parents to keep your child from being bullied in the class.
Method 1: Be the backing of the child and give the child encouragement and support
Parents are always the best teachers for children, and parents' words and deeds are the best way to educate, so as a child's role model, parents must become the child's backing, and for the child's unprovoked harm, we must learn to stand out for him.
Looking back on my experiences as a child, I think my father did a very good job. In the first grade of elementary school, because I was relatively short, my classmates liked to bully me, and my newly purchased stationery was only used for one day, and they broke it.
Back at home, my father, after asking me about my situation, decided to send me to school the next day, and waited until all my classmates and teachers came to the classroom, named the little boy who bullied me, and asked him to apologize to me. As a result, the little boy has since relented a lot, not only me, but also other children who have been bullied by him, and they have not been bullied by him again.
Therefore, parents must give their children a feeling that if I suffer injustice, my parents will definitely stand up for me.
Only in this way will the child have a sense of security, and it is precisely because of the sense of security that the child will be confident and strong.
Method 2: Let children understand and resist "bullying"
Many children don't know that this behavior is called "bullying", they will only feel uncomfortable about it, and they do not know how to fight back.
Only when they understand the harm of this kind of behavior can they establish a sense of self-protection and form a "bad" temperament.
Since my cousin's children are still in the lower grades of elementary school, I suggest that she take her children to read the Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book, which is very suitable for children aged 3-9 years old, helping them to recognize bullying and learn how to deal with bullying.
This set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" has a total of 8 volumes, each volume corresponds to a theme, in addition to the traditional robbery, shoving, scolding and other bullying behaviors, some new types of bullying such as isolation, ridicule, etc., can find the corresponding explanation and coping methods in the book.
Only when children are fully aware of the harm of these behaviors will they take the initiative to resist these harmful behaviors or ask teachers and parents for help.
The biggest highlight of the book is the use of scenario description methods to restore various real scenes in the school, so that children can more deeply appreciate the various plots in the story, and immerse themselves in various bullying behaviors and how to fight bullying.
If parents are worried that their children may lack certain practical operation ability by reading these stories that deeply restore the real scenes of the school, then parents can play "anti-bullying games" with their children according to the instructions in the "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book".
Through the interaction of the game, children can obtain "practical ability", strengthen children's "anti-bullying awareness", enhance children's anti-bullying ability, cultivate a "bad" temperament, and keep those bad children away from their own children.
Let your child live with confidence, live bravely, and live a wonderful life!