The approach taken in educating boys and girls cannot be the same, after all, boys need manhood, while little girls are more tender.
Therefore, when educating boys and girls, fathers and mothers need to distinguish between role sharing, and girls may have a greater influence on mothers.
But in the process of educating boys, if the mother occupies too much, it may make the boys lose the qualities they should have.
And the boy who has been absent from the father's love since childhood is more obvious, and the following takes everyone to understand what the child who has been absent from the father's love since childhood will look like when he grows up, right?
1, will not empathize with the empathy of caring for others.
In traditional Chinese culture, men are the most responsible person in the family and an important presence in balancing good relationships with the family, including mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as well as the relationship between children and mothers.
When coordinating these relationships, the need to analyze the problem according to the hearts of different people and the different situations of each person, at this time, the ability to empathize is particularly important.
These are given to the child by the father in daily life, and for the child who has lacked fatherly love since childhood, this ability may not be learned in time, and the ability to cherish others cannot be developed accordingly.
2, there is no courage to take responsibility.
When we watch TV series or movies, we can always find that when the child makes a mistake, the mother always tries to protect the child, afraid that the child will be hurt, and the father can often face the fact that the child makes a mistake.
And encourage children to have the courage to admit mistakes, at this time the difference in the way of thinking of fathers and mothers is reflected, the difference in education methods is also obvious, in fact, at this time, the different ways of education on children have different impacts.
The mother's moderate love can give the child a happy, carefree childhood, but the father's love is more responsible for the ability to correct the child's behavior, which is a supplement to the soft love of the old mother.
Because excessive indulgence is coddling, and the role of the father can control this love within a reasonable range, educating children to take responsibility will also help children become a real man who dares to take responsibility.
3. It is difficult to believe the true feelings of the world.
Parents are the child's first teachers, and the feelings between parents affect the child's definition of feelings and affection, and for children who are absent from fatherly love from an early age.
It is difficult for them to believe that there are two people around us who can be completely trusted, and the children at this time will not give their hearts and minds in their future lives and interactions, and will not invest in their feelings.
Over time, it may make the child become an autistic child, affecting the child's future life and interpersonal communication, in fact, the integrity of the family and the growth environment of the original family have a lifelong impact on the child.
And it will determine the child's values and emotional views to a large extent, so an incomplete family or an incomplete father's love and mother's love will have a lifelong impact on the child.
Now that society has been greatly developed, the convenience of transportation also allows us to travel back and forth between several cities in a day.
Therefore, we must make use of this condition, maintain communication with the child while working, exchange more feelings with the child's mother, and communicate more about the child's situation.
We are not there when the child needs education the most, and that is the real unqualified father.