It's a "daddy of somebody else", as inspirational as the Indian movie "Wrestling Daddy", staged in the Chinese city of Hohhot.
From the time my daughter was in the sixth grade, my father began to accompany my daughter on morning runs every day at dawn.
He rode a motorcycle and silently accompanied his daughter.
For the daughter, the father is both a competitor and a companion comrade-in-arms, and if there is no father, it is difficult for him to persevere.
The reason why the father encourages his daughter to practice middle and long distance running is because the child's physical fitness is weak when he is a child.
In order to increase his daughter's physique, the father, as a veteran, chose the path of running for his child.
In order to make it more convenient for his daughter to train, the father also built a simple gym for his daughter at home.
Use wood, tires, slings, blankets and other waste equipment as fitness tools.
From the sixth grade of primary school, he ran to the first year of high school, and his father accompanied his daughter's side rain or shine.
Under the constant persistence, my daughter broke the record several times in the sports meeting, and her physical fitness was getting better and better in all aspects.
Dad's car was also upgraded from a bicycle to a motorcycle.
Dad said his daughter's goal is to become a first-class athlete and be admitted to Beijing Sport University.
The teachers and classmates in the class also praised their daughter for her perseverance, no matter whether she studied or did things, she never gave up.
Dad is willing to spend so much energy and time with his daughter, encouraging her daughter to "pay the price of superhuman to have superhuman gains",
This is probably the most precious treasure he left to his daughter.
The book "Special Heart, Special Love" says: "Father's love is a kind of wisdom,
It is the most precious treasure that accompanies her daughter throughout her life, and it is also a priceless inheritance. ”
How powerful the father really is, we can't know exactly.
But as the saying goes, father love is like a mountain, a good father, not only can take on the heavy responsibility of the family,
It can also give children a sense of security, not only the object of children's learning and imitation, but also to illuminate the child's way forward.
Now, many fathers are busy with their careers every day, busy socializing, and when they come home, they play games and mobile phones.
The responsibility of raising and educating children is all entrusted to the mother, which is what many people often call "widowed" parenting.
Some people also joke that the current situation of family education in China is that absent fatherly love and anxious maternal love are equal to out-of-control children.
Although this sentence is too extreme, but looking around the living environment around us, the mother does contract the child's food, clothing, shelter and transportation.
We often hear about full-time moms, but rarely do we hear of full-time dads at home with their babies.
Some fathers always feel that I am responsible for making money and supporting the family, and the life and education of the children should be the mother's business.
But in fact, dads should have a clear understanding that dads are important participants in family life.
The role is also irreplaceable for mothers. If a child lacks paternal love,
It will have a great negative impact on his psychological development and personality development.
Especially for boys, there is a lack of fatherly love, without the guidance of a father,
It is difficult for children to have the courage to face the difficult challenges of life.
The famous English writer Hubbard said: "A father is better than 100 principals." ”
For children, father is more than just a title, and children need more than just money in their father's pocket.
The famous psychologist Gerdy also once said: "The father is a unique existence, which has a special power to cultivate children."
Some dads may say that they are really busy at work, and there is no way to make a living.
However, no matter how busy it is, it should not be as busy as the leader.
When former U.S. President Barack Obama was first elected president,
He said he was most proud of not missing a single parent-teacher meeting during his 21-month campaign.
And after he became president, he would have dinner with his daughters every night.
Patiently answer their questions and advise them on making friends at school.
So don't always use busyness as an excuse not to accompany their children,
Otherwise, when the child grows up, it will be more difficult for the father to establish an intimate relationship with the child.
So how to let dad participate in family life and learn to be a good dad? Here are a few things we can try:
First, put down your phone and games and set aside an hour of solitude for your child every day.
There is no interruption of work, no other people's participation, sincerely accompany the child, and have in-depth communication with the child.
And this fixed time can be a conversation in the car on the way to and from the training class every weekend;
It can be a father discussing a common interest or sport with the child;
It can be a conversation between helping family members share housework, such as washing dishes, folding clothes, or cooking;
It can also be an evening game or reading with your child.
As a father, you should also take the time to learn about your child's social life and his friends, and meet the parents of his friends.
In short, family life is full of countless opportunities depending on whether the father is willing to communicate with the child or alienate the child.
You know, the growth of children is inseparable from the company of the father, and it is difficult to make up for it if you miss it, after all, the child's growth is only once.
The movie "Like Father Like Son" tells the story of a pair of children who have been wrongly held and return to their original families.
Gyeongdo, the wrong child, returned from the city to his family in the countryside.
But this huge change did not bring much uneasiness to Kyanto.
This is because the rural dad is one who can tell stories that interest him,
A fun dad who fixes broken toys and bathes and fights together.
It is very different from the life in the city in the past, and the father in the city always does not smile,
Serious and deep, he rarely spoke to Qingduo, and practiced an elite education for him from an early age.
He never enjoyed intimate paternal love. In the movie, the dialogue between the rural father and the urban father is thought-provoking:
"You're younger than me, so spend a little more time with your children!"
"Isn't it great that there are all kinds of parent-child relationships in the world?" ...... I don't think it's enough to just take the time. ”
"To spend time, to the child is to spend time."
"There's still work waiting for me that only I can do!"
"Father is also a job that no one can replace!"
Why fatherly love is so important, because in a family, parents play different roles in their children.
Compared with the gentleness and delicacy of the mother, the father represents strong and powerful, responsible and responsible.
The company of father's love allows children to reduce their feelings of inferiority and loneliness, so that they are more independent and willing to accept challenges.
Second, be good at encouraging your child instead of labeling them negatively
Psychologists have done research and found that the perception of underage children on themselves depends entirely on the evaluation of those around them.
In particular, the father's evaluation, even if it is a sentence and a look, has a huge impact on the child.
Some fathers are not good at reflecting on the impact of their words and deeds on their children.
Always blindly complaining that the child can't do this or that can't work, it is easy to turn the lively and cute child into a self-defeating, mediocre child.
I have such a Kochi dad by my side, who is also engaged in education.
He has a smart and cute child, but this father nags all the time that this child is not the material for growing up.
As soon as the child has any bad performance, he immediately accuses and criticizes.
As a result, the child slowly became silent, and the father was more convinced of his prophecy.
Shaking my head all day long and thinking that my child can't be a big tool.
The American psychologist Beckel once said:
"Once people are labeled in a certain way, they become the people who are labeled by the label."
The child's mind is immature, lack of self-awareness, if the adult constantly emphasizes some kind of negative label on the child,
Even if he is very smart, he will form the cognition of "I am stupid".
So dads don't let their prejudices hit their children's self-confidence.
In fact, many parents are limited by their own knowledge level and vision.
Without discovering the uniqueness of children, they cannot use their wisdom to guide and tap the potential of children, so they cannot be held responsible for the children.
Some psychologists have found that the level of children's intellectual development has a lot to do with the degree of intimacy of their father's contact.
Children who often have close contact with their fathers have significantly higher IQs than those who have less contact with their fathers.
What's more interesting is that fathers have more influence on girls than boys, which you may find a little incredible.
But that's the way it is. So dads, get along with your kids.
When you have time, take your child to the outside world to see it, play games with your child,
Or communicate patiently with your child. For children, having a father's company in childhood is more important than anything else.