What would you do if the hospital told you one day that your child was born and was held in the wrong place? This is the story told by the Japanese novelist Hirokazu Kore-eda in "Like a Father Like a Son".
The wrong children were held by the Nogomiya family and the Saiki family. The Father of the Nonomiya family is Ryoto, who works as the head of the design department of a "super construction company", and his wife Midori takes care of his 6-year-old son, Keita, full-time.
Saiki's father is Xiongda, who runs a small electrical appliance store department, and his mother Yukari, who works at a convenience store, has three children in his family, and Ryuharu is the older brother, who is the one who hugs Keita wrong.
From the day they learned that the child had been held wrongly, the peaceful life of the Nonomiya and Saiki families was shattered, and two families of different classes intersected.
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Liangduo and Xiongda, two fathers with very different personalities
The fathers of the two families, Many and Xiongda, are two completely different kinds of people.
Many are social elites, he values upbringing, but he is busy at work, so busy that he does not have time to rest one day a week.
Xiongda looked very grinning, his every move was not too much to do with upbringing, drinking Coke could completely deform the straw, and the table was full of debris after eating.
The first meeting between the two families showed his sense of superiority in many places. He despises Xiongda, and he secretly observes Xiongda and his own biological son, Ryuharu, who has lived with Xiongda for 6 years.
He saw the same bad habits as Liu Qing and Xiongda, biting deformed straws, eating like a whirlwind, and a table of food scraps. Many coldly despise the vulgarity of the male and the influence of nurturing on children.
Since knowing that the child is holding the wrong one, many questions have been answered. Gyeongdo's weakness, Gyeongdo's piano playing a mess, he can finally find a reasonable explanation from the bloodline.
Gyeongdo is not his own child, which is why he has so many shortcomings and has not become an elite.
The life of the male family is far less prosperous than that of many people, and his three children do not have a piano and cannot attend private schools.
But the lack of prosperity in life did not make Xiongda sad and miserable, they laughed and laughed every day, and the male couple happily hated each other, and this mutual hatred made Green envious, thinking that they were "husband and wife".
Xiongda has a lot of time and patience to play with children, take them to fly kites, play gun games, and repair toys. He has a great sense of humor and can find a reason to explain his tardiness every time.
Xiongda is also afraid of his wife, which is something that many elites cannot understand.
What Ryoto couldn't understand was that in Yukari's heart, the appearance of a big grin was big, and deep inside there was something that seemed to be a belief in survival.
On the surface, it looks like a marshmallow, but on the inside it is tough and strong, but it is not stubborn, but it embraces everything with a broad and broad mind.
For fathers, especially many busy fathers, the foundation of father-son relationship is only blood.
Just like planting a tree, the father is only responsible for sowing the seeds, and it is the mother who waters the seeds and loosens the soil, and takes care of it day and night. Finally the little sapling grew out, and the father looked at the little sapling, and the only bond was "This is what I planted."
But in the eyes of the mother, the child is much more complicated than the small tree, and the child gets along day and night, a little bit to watch him grow up, and the minutes and seconds spent together make the mother-child relationship become heavy and thick.
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Change or not, this is the question
The child is wrong, whether to change back or not, has become a problem that plagues the two families.
Although he once had the idea of winning both children over, but with the death of this idea, he still chose to exchange, and his choice also hurt his wife's heart.
Green was reluctant to be Gyeongdo, and at the thought of being separated from Gyeongdo, her pain was like a knife slashing her body.
In order to adapt the children to their original families, the two families decided to carry out a weekly exchange stay first, and then completely exchange after half a year.
Because of the children, xiongda and liangduo, the two fathers also met more and more, and the initial sense of superiority of liangduo was smoothed out by xiongda little by little.
Xiongda accompanied the children to run wildly in the park, and when he took the children to fly kites, he was like a spectator.
Xiongda said to Liangduo seriously, "In the half-year 'exchange stay', I have been with Qingduo longer than Mr. Liangduo and Qingduo have been together so far." ”
Many sly arguments were that he was busy at work, and Xiongda said, "Being a father is also a job that you must not do." ”
Liangduo said that his father was not the kind of person who would fly kites with his children.
XiongDa said, "You don't have to look up to your father, do you?" ”
Xiongda's seemingly vulgar preaching words stirred up ripples in Liangduo's heart.
He had always hated his father, but in the end he had become the same person as his father. He valued blood relations so much that he was just making excuses for not recognizing his stepmother.
Because he is not related by blood, he can treat his stepmother coldly and be a bystander when his father commits violence against his stepmother, even if the stepmother is there to protect him.
Xiongda shakes Ryota's belief in blood, and what makes Ryota completely doubt him is after he visits Shoko, the nurse who transfers the child.
Shoko confessed in court that she was jealous that her many families were so happy that she deliberately dropped her two children.
After 6 years, she regretted it, confessed the truth, and prepared a compensation of 50,000 yen as an apology. Quite a few are not prepared to accept this apology, and he goes to Shoko's house to return the money to Shoko in person.
At Shoko's house, Ryodo roared almost uncontrollably, and a one-meter-five teenager blocked in front of Shoko, who was Shoko's stepson.
Many looked at the child and said, "This has nothing to do with you." The child's voice was timid, but he desperately resisted and protected Shoko, and he said, "That's my mother!" ”
The teenager's words completely defeated the 42-year-old. He thinks of his stepmother, his son Gyeongta, who has been raised for 6 years, and his increasingly strange wife, Green.
He began to reflect, to green, to Gingdo, he was always on his toes.
Ever since he knew the child was wrong, he had treated both children with double standards. All of Gyeongdo's weaknesses are due to blood, and all the weaknesses of his own son, Ryuharu, are due to his great upbringing.
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In the heart of a child, there is the deepest love
Gyeongta is an obedient child, just like green. In order to make his father happy, he played the piano he didn't like, obediently went to the cram school class, and memorized the answers to cope with the elementary school interview.
In the answer, his favorite food was his mother's omelette rice, not fried chicken nuggets, and his father took him to camp and fly kites, although his father was so busy that he even had the luxury of saying a word.
Gyeongta experienced an unprecedented liveliness and warmth in Xiongda's home, he and Uncle Nobita played happy games, he cried, Aunt Yukari would hold him tightly in her arms, but he still missed the father who was too busy to play with him, and missed the mother who let him practice every day.
Compared to Qingduo's weakness, Ryuharu is strong. He was mischievous and brave, and he liked to play pretend guns.
Liu Qing arrived in Liangduo, many will accompany Liu Qing to play games, the family of three is happy, very happy on the surface, they are still camping at home, so that the answer made up by Qingduo becomes true.
The family lies in the tent, the sky is streaked with shooting stars, and the green makes Ryu Qing make a wish, in this happy and harmonious atmosphere, Ryu Qing's wish is actually to return to her parents' side.
Liu Qing, who looks stronger and braver, laughs and plays with his father and mother, and seems to be happy and happy, he still can't forget his parents and his home.
That night, many nights were not sleepy. He pulls out the camera that he wants to give to Gyeongta but Gyanta refuses, and he finally discovers the secret of the camera. In the camera is a photo of Kyanthata secretly taking a picture of him, and in the camera is Gyeongdo's "father in memory".
Many of his chests were cracked, and he could no longer hide his feelings, tears overflowing his eyes, sliding across his cheeks, and falling to the ground, and the tears could not be stopped.
Liangduo drove with Lu and Liu Qing and ran towards Xiongda's home. He shouted Gyeongdo's name, but Gyeongdo coldly told him that his father was no longer his father. This father completely broke Gyeongdo's heart.
The paper flowers that Gyeongdo gave him, he didn't know where to throw them, Gyeongdo picked up the paper flowers he gave to his father, the gift he made for his father by hand; Ryu qing sneaked back to the male family, Gyeongdo thought the mission was over, he heard his father's voice, thought he had come to pick him up, and it turned out that he had come to pick up Ryuharu to go home.
Gyeongta hid himself in the cupboard, this sensitive child, how sad he must have been at that moment.
Liangduo desperately held back tears, from playing the piano, to paper flowers, to cameras, one by one to apologize to Qingduo.
He held Gyeongta like a lost and recovered treasure, Gyeongdo's body, from stiff to slowly relaxed, and his small hand finally gently and gently wrapped around the back of the many. At this moment, many people truly became fathers.
Although "Like Father Like Son" is sadistic, it can also be regarded as a happy ending, and many are planning to buy a larger camping tent to facilitate the two families to travel together.
It was a blessing in disguise for many, and he was no longer a father as bad as his father. Xiongda is not a successful person, but he is a good father, and in this regard, he is much better than the social elite.
In real life, how many fathers, like many others, have not fulfilled their fatherly duties and have not experienced the joy of playing with their children. As Xiongda said, being a father is also a job that you must do.
The role of the father will not be naturally established because he gives the child half of the genes, and when the child still craves the father's love, it will allow the father to take root in the child's heart, and the rest of his life can be warm to each other.
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