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In a family, parents are very important roles, for a child to say, father love and maternal love can not be missing, there is a saying well: no love can be, but do not hurt.
Children who cannot be loved have already suffered miserably, and they have to be hurt by their father or mother, which is even worse.
Today, let's talk about father's love, a girl, what is it like to lack father's love?
Some families, the father is a "devil" role, such as a family, the father is drunk, violent temper, beating the mother, beating the child, son preference, etc., that in the eyes of the girl, this father is a hateful and terrible father, she would rather never have this kind of father, because such a father caused a lot of mental harm to the child, this kind of damage is very violent, for the childhood children is a lingering nightmare.
A family with such an incompetent, irresponsible and grumpy dad is a nightmare for every child, especially girls who are more sensitive than boys. The child will hate and fear such a father, and the nightmares of childhood will accompany the child for the rest of his life.
Girls who have hated and feared their fathers since they were young will either have abusive feelings or fear marriage when they grow up
01. Due to lack of love and desire for love, it is easy to believe in men and establish a marriage relationship
A girl who lacks fatherly love since childhood, she is very eager to get love, she wants to get back what she has missed from childhood, so she will blindly choose her marriage, once there is a man who is better to her, she will be moved and easily establish a relationship with a man.
You can see that those girls who lack love since childhood are like this, especially girls who lack fatherly love, they are easily deceived, just out of society with a man and married, they do not care whether the man is good or bad, how the character is, whether they have the ability to take responsibility they do not care!
Because they are too eager to find the love they have missed since childhood, they are very blind in choosing a mate, and their blindness also gives them more harm, such as encountering scumbags, marriage failures, divorces, etc., they are also forced to embark on the road of leaving, knotting and then knotting.
There are really such girls in reality, of course, after several marriage failures may make them sober up, no longer blindly seeking the love of others, and no longer so blind to marriage.
But some girls will not be sober all their lives, they will be abusive all their lives, because of the lack of love, so they are abusive, the purpose is to long to get the love of others, and as a result, every relationship makes them very disappointed.
02. Because of insecurity, fear of contacting men, fear of marriage
A girl who hates and fears her father since she was a child, she may be very insecure when she grows up, dare not easily contact others, especially afraid of contacting men, and even feel very uncomfortable talking to men, afraid of communicating with the opposite sex or never daring to communicate with the opposite sex.
Such a girl, when she grows up, is easily afraid of marriage, why is she afraid of marriage? Because of the fear of meeting an irresponsible man, what she saw in her father from childhood would be projected onto all men, and she even blindly believed that her father's irresponsibility and violent temper behavior were possessed by all men, so she was afraid of marriage.
For example, if a man has a bad temper, she hates this man very much, and even sees her father's shadow from this man; for example, when she was a child, she saw that her father was an alcoholic, and when she grew up, she met a boy who drank a little, and she thought that this boy must also be an alcoholic, and would resolutely cut off contact with the boy.
People who are insecure are most likely to associate and suspect the words and deeds of others, especially girls who lack security and have delicate emotions since childhood.
03. Conclusion
People who lack love and insecurity are either easily deceived or defensive of anyone, which is caused by lack of love and security from childhood.
Parents have love for the family, children have a sense of security, especially girls, from a small family has love, when they grow up, they also bring love to the new family, let the new family have love, let their children have a sense of security.