In the face of the increase in the cost of living and the increase in the cost of education, the father in most families is the main support of the economy and bears the responsibility of earning money to support the family. In order to run for life, there is little free time to spend with the family, not to mention to participate in the growth and education of children, this unbalanced family parenting style, there are bound to be drawbacks.
The role of the mother is crucial in the growth and education of the child, the mother's unique delicacy and gentleness, can give the child a diet and meticulous care, the mother's tolerance affects the child's character.
However, the father's love is like a mountain, the father gives the child a sense of dependence, security, etc. This is beyond the reach of the mother, and in terms of character cultivation, the influence from the mother cannot replace the father. Father's love, can not be absent from the growth of children!
The role of fathers in family education cannot be ignored
The Guangdong Juvenile Research Institute once conducted a survey of nearly 1,000 juvenile delinquents and found that 70% of these teenagers with a history of committing mistakes have lacked the companionship and education of their fathers.
Fathers and mothers have different ways of thinking, different personalities are also completely different for children's education methods, and the lack of father's role brings about the lack of education that cannot be compensated.
There is a set of statistics in the United States that shows that more than 70% of juvenile murderers and drug addicted children come from families without father discipline, about 90% of children who run away from home come from families without fathers, and 60% of rapists are not educated by their fathers.
The male authority that the father brings to the child is discipline and restraint, and the absence of the father in growing up lacks supervision and rule education.
The well-known psychologist Gehr once said that "there is no substitute for the power of the father in the cultivation of children, and the role of the father in family education cannot be ignored."
In terms of temperament, the difference between father and mother has different effects on children, and relevant studies have shown that if boys grow up without their father's education, their personality will become cowardly, lack of independence, and poor adaptability to the environment.
The lack of father's company and education of girls makes it easy to be shy, anxious and overwhelmed with men as adults. Fathers are models and role models for boys to grow up, and are a reference for girls to interact with the opposite sex and deal with people.
In terms of physique, men prefer to move, and in the process of accompanying children, they can mobilize their children's enthusiasm for sports through rich physical activities or games, sports, etc., promote physical activity, and have a positive effect on physique.
In terms of cognition, the father's way of thinking and the perspective of seeing problems and solving problems are different from those of mothers, and with the growth of fathers' participation, children's cognition can be diversified.
In terms of education, the mother pays more attention to details, while the father pays attention to rules and principles, and with the father participating in the growth, the child is more rational and regular.
During the two critical periods of child growth, the role of the father is irreplaceable
There are 2 critical periods in the growth of children, but also the stage of character formation and personality gradual development, these two stages of father's cultivation is crucial, and the role of fathers is irreplaceable.
The first critical period: 3-6 years old
Children in early childhood are full of curiosity about the surrounding environment and things, have a strong desire to explore, explore the environment, boundaries, father's authority and rules let children understand the boundaries and bottom line. Tell him what can be done and what cannot be touched. When a child makes a mistake, correct and educate it at the first time.
The rules established in this process affect the child's growth and even life, making him a person with rules and a sense of the bottom line, a disciplined student in school, and a law-abiding person who will enter the society in the future.
Early childhood is also a key stage in the formation of personality and character, love to imitate is the instinct of this age, imitating the behavior, language and methods of the people around them, and the father is an important imitation object of the child. For boys, under the influence of their father's words and deeds in early childhood, children form the characteristics of perseverance, decisiveness, willpower, bravery and resistance to setbacks.
For girls, through getting along with their fathers, they get a full sense of security in their father's love, and their father's personality and behavior habits play a subtle role in the influence of girls getting along with the opposite sex in the future.
The second critical period: 7-18 years old
7-18 years old is an important stage of children's development from childhood to adolescence, and it is also a transitional stage into adulthood. Children at this age are developing their thinking, their cognition is improving, their self-awareness is gradually strengthening, and it is inevitable that there will be rebellion. They go from being completely dependent on and trusting their parents to gradually hoping to be affirmed and wanting to be recognized, and in this situation, there are even words and deeds against their parents.
These are normal phenomena, children want to say goodbye to childhood, strive for and declare growth and independence, but the reality is that the child's mind is not mature, and the scale and standard of doing things still cannot be accurately judged and grasped. It also needs the guidance, companionship and encouragement and support of parents, especially the father, the majesty and authority of the father, so that the child understands the bottom line and principles, so that the child is aware of the responsibility, and the father's encouragement and support make the child feel the strength.
With the company of the father, the child can spend more smoothly from childhood to adolescence and complete an important turning point in life.
Follow the 7 principles and be a qualified good father
A qualified father is the guide of the child's growth and life, to do the following seven aspects, to be a good father.
1. Assume the responsibility that the role of father should assume, and create a harmonious and warm family environment and atmosphere.
2. Spend more time and establish a good intimate relationship with your children.
3. Give your child more support and encouragement.
4. Accept the shortcomings in the growth of children and know how to be tolerant.
5. Do a good job as an example, lead by example, and cultivate children's sense of morality and responsibility.
6, there is strict and relaxed, to give children a good growth environment.
7. Attach importance to principles and help children control the general direction at key stages.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Lack of father's education and companionship, even if the body is strong when he grows up, the lack of inner security cannot be compensated, and such a child is easy to have no opinion, lack perseverance, and dare not explore and try. Because the functions and thinking of parents are completely different, the roles of father and mother in the growth of children and family education complement each other, are equally important, and are indispensable.
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