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There is a saying on the Internet that girls and college boyfriends broke up, and when they arrived at the workplace, they found that any one was better than that college boyfriend.
For boys, the opposite is true, when boys are separated from their college girlfriends, they find that they can no longer find girls as good as their ex-girlfriends in society.
Why is that? Are these two groups of people the same group?
Boys enter society and find that girls are realistic
Couples who can come together in college are all because of true love, the two sides are very simple when they are together, and if two people get married when they graduate, both sides can understand each other and support each other to the greatest extent.
Many couples who came together during college, when they got married, were supported by the parents of both sides, and the bride price and dowry were equal, all contributed to the small family.
Some boys' families do not have conditions, and the woman can understand it.
But when boys enter society, the girls they meet, or the girls they meet through blind dates, are directly running to get married, and when they get married, they have to talk about bride price, conditions, houses and cars.
Such a comparison, it is indeed as if the girls who go to college are better and will not put pressure on each other.
Why do you say that the men girls meet after entering the workplace are better?
This is also a vertical axis of time comparison, after girls enter the workplace, the men they meet have experienced a lot of things and become mature.
The boyfriends made in college are often very young, the pattern is small, there is no big picture view, it is easy to think about some small things, and it is not possible to think about problems from the perspective of girlfriends.
In addition, girls in college are encountered with their own learning ability of the same people, if the girl is stronger, into the workplace to meet another group of people, these people not only learning ability and girls match, work ability is also matched, may also be more excellent.
In addition, boys live on their parents when they are in college, have no income, and have their own income after entering the workplace, and men's behavior and patterns will change.
It's actually a bunch of people, just from young to mature
In fact, whether it is a girl in college, or a girl in the workplace, or a boy in the university and a boy in the workplace, they are all a group of people, and the change is that these people go from youth to maturity, and in the process of growing up, the advantages are more and more obvious, and the shortcomings are more obvious.
For girls, from youth to maturity, from ideal to reality, men have different feelings.
When the boy was in college, he did not know how to cherish his girlfriend, and after many years of separation, he recalled the youthful, innocent, aimless love, in addition to the beautiful is beautiful, the girls at that time were also particularly cute and wanted nothing else.
After girls enter society, they become mature and realistic, people cannot always live by ideals, they become realistic, indicating that girls are mature and willing to consider their future and the future of their families.
In fact, it is not that the people that girls meet later are better, but they are more realistic later, and their vision is more unique.
Making yourself good is the last word
Since Wang Xiaofei and Big S divorced, many people have become more and more disgusted with the Xu sisters, but many people have turned to Wang Xiaofei.
The Xu sisters are busy putting on a show, and Wang Xiaofei is only a single shadow.
Wang Xiaofei's mother, Zhang Lan, said in the live broadcast room that making money is the top priority, and men must have money to grasp the initiative.
The specific reasons for the divorce of the two people are not mentioned, saying that it is a good gathering and a good dispersion, and passers-by also know how disturbing this "good gathering and good dispersion" is for Wang Xiaofei, the two children have not been obtained, and the custody belongs to the woman.
The former sister-in-law is still always stirring up the heat, completely negating this former brother-in-law, which man does not bother?
In fact, Wang Xiaofei's mother has already said that the key point is still to make money, which is the most important.
If Zhang Lan had not taken a wrong step at the beginning, if Wang Xiaofei was rich enough, this marriage would certainly not have left.
In fact, whether it is for men or women, this is the truth, we must take advantage of the young age to work harder, make ourselves stronger, in order to have enough confidence, so as not to be passive everywhere.
If you want to simply look at the divorce of Wang Xiaofei and Big S, the woman's choice is beyond reproach, but the subsequent wave of operations is blind, which is really disgusting.
If you have a daughter at home, you should still guide your child to be realistic
If there is a daughter in the family, I think that parents who guide their children to become a realistic girl are good for their daughter's life.
Those simple, kind girls, life is often bumpy, and finally did not get a good life, and the TV series is the opposite, the reality is more logical, because too kind and too simple girls will not plan, easy to be blinded by other people's rhetoric.
On the contrary, it is realistic girls, who can rationally analyze their needs and future, but it is easier to get a good life.
Don't parents just want girls to have a smooth life?
The family has a son, let go early, let the child become stronger is the right thing
If there is a son in the family, what parents have to do is to do less and do less, and if they can let go, the sooner the child is independent, the better it is for the child's life.
People have to go through many stages in their lives, problems that were previously difficult to understand, and then suddenly enlightened, the sooner boys experience things, the sooner they will be better.
There is no need to emphasize unfairness, as long as you are strong enough, the initiative will be in your own hands, when you are strong enough, what dowry, what house and car, is not a problem.
Unlike families with adopted daughters, mothers who adopt daughters can accompany their daughters to grow up, but the earlier they withdraw from raising sons, the better it is for their children's growth.