Raising children is the top priority in the minds of many parents, especially for boys, many parents tend to have higher requirements, in addition to requiring him to have excellent grades, but also hope that he can grow into a responsible, responsible little man.
There is a mother who posted such a message on the social platform, in the message about her 7-year-old son, she said that her son seems to lack the manhood he should have, usually behaves twisted and pinched, and the courage is relatively small, completely without the temperament of the little man of the boy of the same age.
After further observation, she found that the reason why her son formed such a character was mainly due to her usual education.
She protected her son too well in her daily life, took care of all the things that his son should have done, and let his son miss many opportunities to try, so that his son's personality became weaker and weaker.
In fact, sometimes parents learn to show weakness, but they will let their children grow up.
Trying to show weakness in front of his son is actually making him grow
Sometimes showing weakness is actually making the son stronger in disguise
I saw such a scene on the street some time ago, and I remember it deeply.
It was at the door of the mall, a mother and son were preparing to enter the mall to shop, halfway to the mother's shoelaces fell off, at this time the mother did not bend down to tie the shoelaces, but pretended to forget how to tie the shoelaces, asked the son to help him tie the shoelaces.
Unexpectedly, after hearing his mother's words, the son slowly squatted down, seriously tied his mother's shoelaces, and after tying them, he also got praise from his mother.
In fact, sometimes we as parents do not have to act omnipotent in front of our children, and there are some things that we can let our children do.
For example, tying shoelaces, doing some simple housework, folding quilts, etc., giving these things to children to do, can not only play a role in improving children's life skills, but also allow children to learn to be independent in this process, gradually form a sense of responsibility, and begin to become responsible.
Appropriate weakness can make the son understand the difficulties of his parents
A single mother said that her son is usually very naughty, many things told him several times did not listen to, until one day she finally couldn't stand it, emotional collapse and cried with her son about her not easy, and when the crying was over, she thought that things had passed.
But I didn't expect that since then, my son began to become sensible, knew how to understand the difficulties of his parents, and began to try to assume his own share of responsibility.
In fact, the child's world is very simple, sometimes parents think that children can feel the hardships and difficulties of their parents from life, so they have not "shown weakness" to their children, and have always shown a strong look in front of their children.
This is also the commonality of most Chinese parents, whose love is more subtle and not good at expressing it with their children. In fact, sometimes showing weakness to children can make children feel the difficulties of parents.
Learning to show weakness in learning will stimulate children's desire for knowledge
In an interview, an education expert talked about one such learning method, saying that when he educates his children, he disguises himself as "stupid."
When the child comes to ask him some simple questions, he will pretend not to know the answers to these questions, and then, let the child look for it in the book, and when the child finds the answer in the book to tell him, he will take this opportunity to praise the child.
In this way of education, his children have a full sense of accomplishment in their hearts, and they begin to love reading more and more, and they like to look for answers in books when they encounter things they don't understand.
This learning method is very efficient, because the child has something he does not know, the parents will help him answer it, so that the answer will come too easily, the child is not deeply impressed by this matter, and it is easy to forget the answer in a few days.
But if you let the child go to the book to find the answer, because there is a process of searching, the brain will have a deeper impression of the answer, and the memory will become more profound.
These points are also very important in the process of raising boys
Let him have a grateful heart
Now many parents have done all aspects of life for their children, but they have not been able to exchange their children's gratitude, but let the children take all this for granted.
In fact, sometimes we, as parents, must learn to try to "show weakness" to our children, so that he can find out what his parents have paid for him in life, so that he can appreciate the difficulties of his parents and have a grateful heart.
Make him feel responsible
There are many times when it is clear that the child should do it himself, but it is arranged by the parents. The reason why parents will do these things is because on the one hand, they feel that their children can't do these things well, and on the other hand, they are afraid that their children will be tired and touched because of this.
But as parents, it is impossible to help children do things for a lifetime, and children will one day start their own lives and have their own families, and at that time he will become someone else to rely on.
Therefore, as a parent, when the child is young, you should let the child understand the truth that he does his own things, so that he can learn to take on his own responsibility and become a responsible person.
Let him have the opinion
After surveying 1,000 families, one agency found that the stronger the parents, the less assertive the children became.
Because he is used to his parents helping him make decisions, he will become hesitant and do not know how to deal with it when faced with the need to make his own decisions.
As parents, we should pay attention to this matter, try to entrust some things to the child to make decisions, and let the child gradually become an opinionated person.
epilogue
There are no omnipotent parents in the world, and sometimes they learn to show weakness, but they will let their children grow up because of this.
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