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Is your child more sticky to you, or is he sticky to his father? I think it's best to spend more time with dad if the family is a boy, and my nephew is an example.
My nephew was brought up by my sister, but his personality is a little worrying, especially like to stay at home, the guests at home, are hiding in the room, the whole person is like a girl, unwilling to contact strangers.
Usually, I joke with my sister and say that you raised your son as a girlfriend. My sister said helplessly: "No way, he just doesn't want to go out, it's really no different from a girlfriend." Now that he is thirteen years old, he stays in his room every day except for studying, and I am really worried that he will not even be able to marry his wife in the future. "Actually, that's why I spent so little time with my dad since I was a kid.
In our impression, the role of "father" is mostly shown in harshness, especially when the family is a stinky boy jumping up and down, "strict father" has become a magic to defeat him. But in fact, the father is the object of the son's learning, and he is also a person who is very attached to the subconscious.
Therefore, the father can usually accompany more companions, even if not, but also to say the following three sentences to the son, not only does not affect their own majesty, but can make the son double business excellent, grow up more outstanding.
☆ Dad's "I love you" is better than a thousand nagging and yelling
Men recall that when they were young, in the face of their fathers, was they more "afraid" than "dependent"? If something is done wrong, the first reaction is not "Oops, can't let my dad know" instead of "What to do?" I have to find my dad"?
The father was originally a patron, but he became the object of the boy's concealment, why? It is because it is too harsh that the boy is estranged and unwilling to speak out. When they grow up and understand the depth of their father's love, the father and son miss the time of growth that could be incomparably intimate.
Mr. Xiao has undergone such a change of heart and has been seriously disciplining children before. Until the other day, the son was playing with another little boy of similar age, and both of them fell, and a large bag immediately swollen on their foreheads. Mr. Xiao shouted angrily: "Always running around? Look at the fall! ”
The other little boy ran to his father crying, and his father gently hugged him, treated the wound with a tissue, blew a few more blows, and finally said to him, "You must have fallen!" Dad loves you so much, it hurts to see you hurt. You got hurt and immediately told your dad that you did the right thing, and I'll take care of it for you. But you should pay attention to it in the future, and be careful in the place with slopes, otherwise it is easy to slip! You're a little man, you won't cry after a while, will you? ”
Mr. Xiao originally thought that this father's words would not work, but he did not expect that the little boy would soon stop crying, and immediately smiled and said: "Daddy, you see, I don't cry!" ”
After his son was accused, he timidly hid aside. At that moment, Mr. Xiao was extremely uncomfortable. So, he walked over to his son and said, "Come, Daddy help you blow it, don't be afraid if you fall, Daddy still loves you!" Just pay attention later! The son's originally hidden emotions immediately turned into wah-wah-w
Since then, Mr. Xiao has become gentle and expressed his love with his son. Obviously, the son became intimate with himself.
The boy looks grinning, but sensitive to the need for paternal love. Express your love more so that he can truly think of you as a hero who protects himself. Moreover, boys surrounded by love are more confident and know how to love others when they grow up, and their emotional intelligence is relatively high.
☆ Dad said "try again" to let the child find the key to open the door to success
"Mom, do you want to drink water?" The son excitedly asked Mr. Li's wife, who agreed. Unexpectedly, a few seconds later, with a "pop" sound, the cup shattered.
The wife carefully swept the glass debris, and the son was not criticized, but it was clear on his face that he was cautious after doing something wrong. I thought that the matter would end here, but I did not expect that Mr. Li smiled and said: "Son, bring a new cup of water to your mother!" ”
The son hesitated a little, and Mr. Li continued: "It's okay, try again!" Or use the glass to believe that you must have served better this time than last time! ”
This time, the son was visibly careful. When he successfully handed the water to his mother, the son jumped up happily: "Mom and Dad, this time I did not break the cup!" Mr. Lee gave a thumbs up.
Boys must have the courage to rush forward, so that they will not be afraid to do things in the future. So how can we cultivate their bravery? Encouraging children to be brave enough to try, especially when something fails, it is crucial for the father to encourage again. Therefore, I usually say to my son: "How big a thing, bravely try it, try again!" ”
The child bravely tries in the face of difficulties, even if this time fails, it can not stop him from moving forward, so that he has found the key to open the door to future success, that is, to choose the right direction, persevere, so that he will be successful.
☆ Dad's words "We all have to love mom" lay the foundation for his son's extraordinary life in the future
A good relationship between husband and wife is an important basis for the overall atmosphere of the family. But most couples rarely show affection in front of their children, especially fathers, and they are even more taboo to mention love and love in front of their sons, which seem to be very greasy and crooked.
They think that the little fart child does not understand these things at all, and they do not know that the father often expresses his love for the family and his mother, which will subtly affect the son's family view.
Du Jiang and Huo Siyan's son Hum, the performance in the show confirmed this. When the couple kissed in front of Hum, Hmmm looked at them happily, as if accustomed to it. And the follow-up also said in the show that if the mother is not happy, you can buy gifts like the father to make the mother happy. If Dad is not at home, help Dad take care of Mom. This proper warm male performance is actually Du Jiang's good intentions.
The father said to the child, "We want to love the mother together", and also said why, so that the son can understand the mother's nurturing grace, but also cultivate the son's respect for women, and at the same time, he is very relieved and safe in his heart for the feelings of the father and mother. Boys who grow up in this atmosphere, sunshine and self-confidence, will be warmer to run their own small family in the future, and they will get a lot of help in their careers, and it is easier to achieve great achievements.
Raising children is not easy, you need to pay more for your fathers, and mothers need to learn to let go.
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