We dedicate all our energy, time, and money to our children, and since we have children, we have become "supermen" – omnipotent. However, even such a capable mother does not necessarily produce excellent children.
Thinking of excellent children, it is Huo Siyan's son Hmmm. After Huo Siyan and her husband Du Jiang got married, they were almost in a semi-reclusive state, and there were very few film and television drama works on the screen, only occasional cameos in variety shows.
Her son Hum and his mother went on a variety show together, and the image of "Little Warm Man" circled a lot of "aunt powder". Hmmm how much he loves his mom? "Love your mother the most", "Mother is the most beautiful", "buy the most expensive necklace for your mother", these words often hang on his lips, he seems to be a "guardian spirit" of his mother.
Boys should be cultivated to be like this, loving, responsible, and responsible. How did Mother Huo Siyan do it? When she is with her son, she always shows her fragile side to the child, and the mother "can't lift" the heavy things and asks you to help. Mom "doesn't dare" to play with the slide and needs your encouragement and help.
Children also love their mothers, and when their mothers are in difficulty and danger, they are also willing to stand up. It's just that most mothers are always reluctant to give their children this opportunity, and they are always incredibly strong in front of their children, so that their children have no opportunity to reflect their own value.
Mothers who have sons at home may wish to learn Huo Siyan's "spoiled" parenting, which has many benefits for the growth of children
The mother will be spoiled, the family will be happy, and the child will feel safe.
Parents who have sons at home want their sons to be cheerful and confident, and a child's personality has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives. A child's sense of security stems from the stability and harmony of family relations. Therefore, in families where parents love each other very much, children often have good personalities.
Mothers who can be spoiled generally have a relatively harmonious relationship with their husbands. No matter how capable a woman is outside, it is best to become a little woman when she returns home and learn to show weakness to her husband. Men have a "big man" living in their hearts, and women's weakness will stimulate their desire to protect, and they will spoil you very much.
Mom respects Dad, Dad loves Mom, the relationship between husband and wife in the family is stable, the child's growth will be smoother, the child's sense of security is more sufficient, and the self-confidence is stronger.
The mother loves to be spoiled, and the son is more independent.
I think most of the mothers who like to be spoiled, their personalities are relatively soft. The mother's personality is softer, the girl will be as gentle as the mother, and the son will be as responsible as the father, to learn to take care of the mother, to share the hard work of the mother.
Since my son could walk, he rarely let me hold him. I did have a time when I was physically weak after giving birth. So, whenever I walked more, he would ask with great concern, did my mother's waist hurt again? From kindergarten, he used to dress himself, wash himself, and pack his toys.
In life, the mother can take many things and let the children do it themselves. He doesn't want to walk, don't say, "You must go by yourself," but should say, "Mom's arm hurts so much that she can't hold you." "After training children to finish eating and washing dishes, you can say: "Mom went to work for a day, so tired, who in the family still has the strength to wash dishes?" ”
If the mother shows weakness appropriately, the child's various abilities will become stronger and stronger. If the mother always thinks of herself as the big tree in the house, then the child can only be a small grass under the big tree. If the mother is willing to become a small grass, the child can become a towering tree. Therefore, mothers who will be spoiled and weak, their children tend to be more independent.
Mothers who like to be spoiled have a more harmonious parent-child relationship with their children.
We always think that we should raise our children to be what they like, but we have never thought about what kind of mother the child likes. Mom always has a condescending posture towards her children, I am an adult, of course you have to listen to me. As a result, the child does not want to listen to you, and the parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse.
Mothers who like to be spoiled, because they do not have a shelf that everyone grows, so they are more likely to be close to their children. Children also like to be with their mothers, parent-child relationship is harmonious, equal and effective communication, stimulate the child's sense of "being needed", so that they are willing to listen to the mother's command, to do many things for the mother. Therefore, "spoiled" parenting, the mother did not lose her temper, did not spend much effort, but can achieve better educational results.
The intimate parent-child relationship between the child and the mother is a very valuable asset for the child to live in the future. Children's hearts are rich, and they will grow into kind, brave, and wise people in the future, and those who are treated gently by others will treat the world gently.
The mother loves to be spoiled, and the son has a high emotional intelligence.
Visiting a friend's house, she was shocked by her highly emotionally intelligent son. Because my mother was a little uncomfortable, we went to visit, and her seven-year-old son was busy pouring tea and washing fruits for us, and reminding my mother to take medicine. We said enviously: "This is really giving birth to a lover of the previous life, and this life has come to spoil you again." ”
Mothers like to show weakness and spoil, and sons have a higher lover, know how to deal with interpersonal relationships, and are more intimate and take care of people, which is also the case with Huo Siyan's "Hum King". Because in a good parent-child relationship, he learned how to care for others, and also learned a lot of language communication skills, they know how to flexibly see things and do things, which is what children can't learn in many "commanding" families.
There are many different ways of expressing a mother's love, and choosing the most appropriate one and presenting it to the child is the best.