Star Son Kindergarten was beaten many times
Huo Siyan's calm handling was praised by netizens, which can be called a textbook
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The heart of the beloved son is endless, and the return home is happy and tasty
Indeed, since I had a child, I have understood what it is to worry about, and every day, no matter whether morning or evening, the most worrying thing is my own child, and the child is always attached to me, or when I leave work late in the evening, the child will always wait for me. This feeling of mother-child connection, I think every mother-in-law mother has a deep understanding.
However, once the child starts school, after entering the kindergarten, it means that parents can watch the child's day end all the time, and for the child, they also need to learn to live and learn alone in the group. This also means that during this time in school, all the conditions of the child, in fact, the parents are powerless. Therefore, for many mothers, they have a worry in their hearts, afraid that their children will not adapt to students, especially afraid that their children will be bullied and bullied by other children in school.
Once this happens, on the one hand, the child will definitely be hurt, and even leave a psychological shadow, on the other hand, the parents are also very troublesome to deal with, whether it is to find a teacher to complain, or to help the child teach other children, it seems that it is not very good, and even if one is not careful, it will make the child's situation more difficult, so as a parent, especially the mothers, it is very anxious.
Du Jiang's son Hum must be very familiar to everyone, in the impression of many people Hmmm is smart and clever, not only has a high IQ, but also a high emotional intelligence, it can be said that he is a little warm man who is loved by everyone, and his mother Huo Siyan's parenting method also provides samples for many parents.
It brings a lot of inspiration and help. But you know what? Hmmm when I was a child was also "bullied" by classmates, friends who have watched the variety show "Mom is Superman" must remember, Huo Siyan once mentioned in the program, hum in kindergarten, often bullied by children, one day Hum came home from school and cried to find Huo Siyan, sadly said "Mom, I was beaten again"
At that time, Huo Siyan couldn't help it, her heart was both angry and painful, and the sentence "You also hit them" almost burst out, but reason still told Huo Siyan that such a simple and rude method not only could not solve the problem, but also was likely to make the child more hurt. So she calmly took Hum in her arms and asked the child softly, "Baby, you tell your mother what happened", and the result was that Hum was also very excited at the time, and said very exaggerated. However, Huo Siyan had calmed down. Didn't say much more.
She specifically found the kindergarten teacher who hummed, learned about the incident, and the teacher's attitude was very perfunctory, saying that "the children often fight each other, this is not a big problem at all", and asked Huo Siyan not to worry, at that time Huo Siyan said: The child has said this several times, I believe there must be something happening, if the teacher is still so perfunctory, then we are ready to change schools.
After listening to Huo Siyan's words, the teacher paid attention to it and said that he would deal with it seriously. After that, Huo Si reported a lot of interest classes to Hum, mainly to strengthen the body. In this way, Hum became more and more powerful, and learned to protect himself in school.
Huo Siyan's series of handling methods can be described as textbook-level, which is of great reference significance for parents to deal with school bullying incidents. As Professor Li Meijin said, when the child is bullied in school, parents of course must unconditionally support their children, and if they are beaten, they will be beaten back, but Professor Li Meijin also said that if the physical disparity between their children and others is too large, then this way of handling must be cautious!
Chinese there is an old saying "prevention before it happens", in fact, for the phenomenon of children being bullied and bullied, the best way for parents is to prevent it in advance, rather than waiting until the child is injured to pay attention to, the following 4 points, parents must pay more attention in peacetime.
Communicate with your child every day
If parents want to protect their children, the first thing to do is to understand the dynamics of their children's lives, so it is very necessary to maintain communication with their children in daily life. In the process of communication, we can not only know from the child's mouth all the happy and unhappy things he encountered at school today, but also we can also notice whether the child's mood is normal and whether there are any abnormalities in clothes and body by observation. In this way, you can get a good idea of whether your child has been bullied. In addition, parents should also communicate with their children's teachers. Thus achieving the purpose of prevention.
Take your children to exercise more and keep fit
A strong child and a thin child, often the latter is more likely to be bullied by others, so parents should take their children to exercise in peacetime to help children exercise a strong physique, so that children in school, naturally will emit a bad bullying aura, but also to avoid the occurrence of bullying incidents.
Encourage children to make more friends and improve their communication skills
In life, it is not difficult for us to find that those children who are bullied and bullied often like to be alone, and usually have no friends, so it is easy to be targeted by "bad children" and bully them weakly. Therefore, if parents want their children not to be bullied, they must encourage their children to make friends and have a good relationship with their classmates in normal times, so that their children will be protected by classmates and friends in school, and it will not be easy for others to attack him. Professor Yu Minhong once said that when he was a child, because of his weak health, he was often bullied, and later he made a lot of strong classmates by making friends, and as a result, no one dared to bully him anymore.
Today, Miaomiao sister also recommends a book to help children improve their social skills, this book is called "Love Expression", a full set of books a total of 6 books, a total of 6 themes, including communication skills, prosocial skills, self-discipline ability, emotional ability, self-esteem, initiative and other 6 kinds of children's growth needs of the key social skills.
Raise your child to be a strong person at heart, and learn to be confident, strong and brave, to be able to handle things alone and find solutions.
The whole set of books in the form of cartoons, tailored to the various situations that children may encounter in real life, give good advice, with this book, children will be more comfortable in dealing with interpersonal relationships, and will become more popular in the "small society" of the school.
Cultivate children's safety awareness and let children learn to refuse
Many bullied children have a weak personality, even if the other party's actions and words make them very uncomfortable, these children are difficult to refuse, over time, it will make others think that you are "good bully". As a parent, we must cultivate their children's safety awareness from an early age, let them learn to protect themselves, and be a person with principles and bottom lines and how to refuse.
Of course, for children, if parents directly ear the reasoning of life, children may not be able to understand, therefore, Miaomiao sister also recommends that you buy a set of "anti-bullying enlightenment picture books" that are specially designed to cultivate children's courage and make children strong.
This set of picture books consists of 8 books, which cultivate children's safety awareness and self-protection awareness from multiple aspects such as behavior, psychology, home, outdoors, and safety.
Combined with the previous "Love Expression" to keep children will never be "bullied". Well, that's it for today, see you next time.