Recently, I saw a video like this on a well-known media platform, a 3-year-old autistic boy sitting on the piano bench and playing "To Alice".
(Note: Video hits the network)
It may be that for many piano children who are learning to play the piano, playing such a song is not a new thing, but it is worth saying that the children in the video are suffering from autism and have no way to communicate with people in language. As his mother said, the child is not aware of the piano score and music theory knowledge, through their own video imitation of the teacher's movements to practice piano music, and for different pieces, he only needs to play a few more times can be skillfully played down, music will also make him quiet, focused on it.
Such a warm and touching picture has aroused heated discussion among netizens, and everyone generally believes that this little boy can look forward to the future and is a proper genius pianist. There are also many parents of piano children who cast envious eyes, they sigh, it is someone else's child, and it is difficult for their own children to sit on the piano bench in peace, let alone follow the video to learn by themselves.
Indeed, there are many children who have loved music since childhood and are curious about certain instruments. However, when parents support their children to begin to explore learning, some children gradually become "unable to sit still" or even impatient. In this regard, parents will inevitably be helpless, angry, and sometimes "train" children, "When you first wanted to learn, you signed up, equipped you with a piano, and now you are not good at learning..."
In fact, not only the children of ordinary people, but also the children of many celebrities and even well-known entrepreneurs will also have the "three-minute heat" of learning the piano. It's just that they may deal with it in a more special way, which is easier for children to accept. In the case of Venus, she has also been actively training her daughter to learn piano.
Once, she and her daughter came back from an outing, and she didn't want to practice that day. In other words, the average parent may persuade the child to practice quickly, or some parents think that occasionally "lazy" is not a hindrance. However, Venus neither gushed out that the child must practice, nor did he act indifferent.
She said to her daughter, "Baby, I can accept that you don't want to practice, but you have to say hello to your friend (the piano) and wipe it." Go home and rub the keys, at least prove that you still care about it, and tomorrow when you practice, the piano will be very good. ”
After listening to her mother's words, the daughter ran to wipe the piano again. Maybe it was during the period when she felt bored and had nothing to do, and then she bounced up.
Not only that, in Venus's view, the piano is a friend of her daughter's and can always accompany her child. One day, my daughter complained to her that her brother wouldn't take her to play, and she was lonely. In this regard, Teacher Venus's answer is also very special, she said: "You are in a bad mood, your mother will not accompany you for a lifetime, brothers and sisters have their own lives, you will definitely be lonely, when you are in a bad mood, go play the piano, that is your friend." After listening to her words, the daughter sat quietly in front of the piano, slowly began to play, and gradually plunged into it.
What a warm education to treat the piano as a friend! Also having the same educational concept as Venus is Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental. When Yu Minhong's daughter wanted to give up the piano, he said: "Baby, when you grow up, everyone will have a lot of lonely times, if my mother and I are not around you at that time, if you can have a piano and music to accompany you, you will not feel lonely, because you can talk." 」 Whether or not to continue to decide for yourself, this is Dad's consistent principle for you. ”
Whether learning piano or other instruments, when a child has passed the stage of curiosity about the instrument, in the repeated practice day after day, he may show some negative emotions, for example, feeling tired of learning the piano, or feeling that it is difficult to learn the piano, or feeling that he has not made progress.
At this time, the education and guidance of parents is very critical. If it is blindly blaming the child, it is likely to make the child's frustration stronger, at this time, parents may wish to learn from the educational concept and communication methods of Venus and Yu Minhong.
Particularly appreciate a passage of zhou Haihong, a professor at the Central Conservatory of Music, in an interview, he said: "Parents should appreciate his children as soon as they learn the piano, they will understand him if they learn it, and comfort him if they make a mistake, so that the child thinks that learning the piano is a very interesting thing, do not always compare their own children with other children, it is easy to make children feel frustrated." ”
In Professor Zhou's view, when children are unwilling to practice, parents may wish to change their concepts, encourage more, and blame less. Don't put "other people's children" on the lips, do not rush to make quick profits, but let children find the joy of learning the piano in the process of learning and groping, and feel a sense of accomplishment and self-affirmation in the concerns of parents.
In the face of children who do not want to learn the piano, reprimanding or even "adding sticks and sticks" may not be the ideal educational concept, let the piano be the child's friend, more support and appreciation for the child, perhaps a more enlightened way of education.