Yu Minhong revealed the growth experience of the second generation of creation, and success is never easy to achieve

Recently, Yu Minhong, chairman of New Oriental Group, said in a speech that his son was in his junior year and worked 18 hours a day as an internship, and called him to say that it was too hard.

Yu Minhong encouraged his son: "You have to endure the hardships, and you all survived like this in the beginning." ”

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He also joked: "Although Dad is still rich, it's Daddy's money, it doesn't have much to do with you, you have to work hard to earn money yourself." ”

Unexpectedly, as soon as the video was released, many netizens expressed their lack of understanding: "Workers can't empathize with the PUA of capitalists." "Working 18 hours is a violation of labor laws, why stay up?"

These comments are not unreasonable, but calm down and think about it, in the financial and consulting industries of big cities, Internet factories, or startups, let alone work 18 hours a day, when catching up with big projects, it is normal to stay up all night.

However, for ordinary people, whether parents should encourage their children to regard work as the whole of life depends not only on personal choices, but also on the environment and opportunities.

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The future that children dream of is not within reach

Yu Minhong's educational philosophy for children is easily reminiscent of the "oil tycoon" John Rockefeller, who, despite his huge wealth, still requires children to live a simple life.

From an early age, he let the children do housework to earn pocket money, beat flies for 2 cents, sharpen pencils for 1 dime, in order to tell the children that money is not easy to get, and that you must use your own hands to start a business.

In "Rockefeller's 38 Letters to Children", there is this passage: "In this world, there is never a hereditary theory of poverty and rich, nor is there a hereditary theory of success or failure, but only the truth that I struggle for my success." ”

This is why, although it is often said that "you are not rich for three generations", the wealth myth of the Rockefeller family continues to this day.

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Jiang Chengzhi of Far East Holding Group is also a post-80s generation founder, when he was young, he first studied abroad, then entered investment banking, experienced the grind of the workplace, and then returned to the family business.

Even though he has become the chairman of Smart Energy, he has not slackened, waking up every morning to run, read the news, and often working late into the night, regardless of weekdays and weekends.

The young second generation of creators is not as singing and spending money as people think, but there are many excellent and self-disciplined people who work silently in their own fields.

This is especially true for ordinary people, without the wealth and status of the family as a backer, young people can only rely on themselves to fight.

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As described in the TV series "Twenty Not Confused", in the years from college graduation to entering society, everyone will encounter countless pressures and challenges: overloaded work, unspoken rules in the workplace, layoffs and departures.

Only young people with ideals and willing to struggle, if they want to get a foothold in a big city, they all have to go through those difficult moments.

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Lying flat mentally is a happy life

In the movie "Chang'an 30,000 Li", Li Bai and Gao Shi met a friend Pei Twelve Niang in Yangzhou, she was the only person among Pei's sons and nephews who won the true biography of Pei's sword, and also won Gao Shi's Gao family gun in the competition.

Helplessly, as a daughter, Pei Twelve Niang can neither participate in the imperial examination, nor can she go into battle to kill the enemy and serve the country, and there is nowhere to show her talent.

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Her father, General Pei, had also made great military achievements, but in the stable era, he became a victim of court struggles, and the sword in his hand was reduced to a banquet and dance.

There is such a plot in the movie, Gao Shi is dissatisfied with Li Baiye's night song, thinking that he is not enterprising and wastes time. Pei Twelve Niang untied her coiled hair and asked Gao Shi, "Can you serve the country if you have talent?" He was speechless.

In real society, there are also many unfair phenomena, perhaps because of wealth and status, or because of age and gender, some people will not be able to go to Rome in their lifetime, and some people will be born in Rome.

In the face of disparities in input-output ratios and efforts that exceed physical loads, sometimes lying down mentally is also the way to a happy and stable life.

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Nowadays, more and more graduates choose to take the public entrance examination, do not want to go to big cities, enter large enterprises to fight for high wages, just want to have a stable job in their hometown, self-reliance to stand firm.

For them, contentment is not a pejorative term, but their own wisdom in life.

Everyone's resources, abilities and energy are different, not all of them are suitable for a fast-paced life, if children put their minds flat and take the initiative to lower expectations and goals, they are not far from a happy life.

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The life that can't survive is also worth living

"That's how I survived in the first place!" Looking back at Yu Minhong's entrepreneurial journey, he is indeed qualified to say such words.

He went to Peking University for three years before taking the college entrance examination, and was later forced to resign from Peking University because of illegal schooling, leading New Oriental School all the way through difficulties. In 2021, after experiencing a double reduction, New Oriental was almost cut off, and he led the team to actively transform and find another life.

It's just that Yu Minhong's story tells about the desperate situation and the hard work of people who will not live up to it, and on the road of entrepreneurship and work, there are many people who can't survive.

A high school classmate with excellent academic performance was admitted to a medical university and entered a tertiary hospital after graduation. However, a sudden medical dispute forced her to leave her job as a doctor.

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After more than ten years of struggle on the road of medicine came to an abrupt end, she was depressed for a while, and then with solid professional knowledge and clinical work experience, she found a teaching position in a local university.

When I met her later, I found that she was in good spirits, and she was much more optimistic and cheerful: "Fortunately, I didn't stay in the hospital because of a mistake that year, and being a teacher seems to be more suitable for me than 996's busy work at home." ”

There is no road taken in vain, and every effort in the past is foreshadowing for the future.

The life you have worked hard to live, even if you don't become what you want to be, is just as commendable.

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There was once a very popular movie line: "I have heard a lot of truth, and I still can't live this life." ”

Whether it is the entrepreneurial story of an entrepreneur or the parenting experience of children, in the final analysis, it is just someone else's life philosophy. And the child's life, after all, must be written by himself.

What parents need to do is to let their children see more possibilities in life, and allow them to follow their hearts and choose the life that suits them. a