One day, on my way to work, when I was passing by an elementary school, a little girl of about 6 years old complained to her mother: Mom, many people say that you are my grandmother! Mom was stunned for two seconds and then replied: Grandma is Grandma! This answer of the mother is full of deep meaning, both the happiness of having a daughter and the helplessness of reality. Compared with the mothers of other children, the mother of the little girl is indeed old and cannot keep up with the situation in thought and behavior!
After the state let go of the second and third births, many post-90s, post-80s, and even post-70s began to have second or third births. From my heart, if there is financial and mental strength, the more children the better. Children are the wealth of their parents, and when they are conceived, they are the mountains of gold, silver and happiness. But after experiencing the baptism of years, I never had the courage to have a second child, one is economic reasons, the other is physical and mental reasons, I have struggled for most of my life, I want to leave more free time, do a little favorite thing.
Most of the classmates and friends around me have two children, and they all join the ranks of the second or third child. Many people are over forty years old when they have a second child, holding a child or leading a child out of the house, it is indeed like three generations. When a young child sweetly calls Mom and Dad and pampers in his arms, that moment is extremely happy, but when the body can't eat, stay up late to burden, and have no personal space, it is also a kind of suffering.
One of my cousins, the first child was a daughter, bent on a son, the emperor did not pay off, when her daughter went to college, she finally had a son. Looking at her son's cute little appearance, she was happy from the bottom of her heart and bubbled happily. The cousin and the cousin-in-law were radiant all day, doing everything energetically, and finally there was someone to succeed them, and the great family business was inherited. Happy, they also bear the pain of raising children, since having children, cousin's waist has been hurting, not to mention holding children, is to see more children can not stand!
My sister-in-law also had a second child when she was forty years old, and when the girl landed, it was undeniable that our whole family was very happy. But then came the sister-in-law's boundless complaints, one is that the body can't eat, and the other is that the energy is not allowed. The sister-in-law has her own job, not only to be busy with work, but also to take care of the children, but also to take care of the eldest son, even with the help of brother and mother, it is a little inadequate.
In fact, at that time, my sister-in-law and I both wanted a second child, but my sister-in-law moved faster and took the lead in having a child. Before the birth of the child, my sister-in-law was still persuading me to have a second child, and I was in a hurry to take advantage of my youth, and the more I dragged on, the more I did not allow it physically and mentally. But after the birth of the child, she sincerely advised me not to want a second child, and she described her life after the second child: there is no love in life.
Indeed, before the sister-in-law gave birth to her second child, she often traveled, went wherever she wanted, as long as there was a holiday, always said to go, and life was smooth. She can pick up a camera to take pictures of the scenery, she can pick up a paintbrush and sketch outside, she can hold her mobile phone and write some beautiful little articles, and she can also change the sheets, covers, and curtains into her favorite shape according to her preferences. My sister-in-law lived a life of as she pleased at a young age, a beautiful word.
But since the birth of her niece, she has a small tail, and when the little tail is always glued to her mother and does not get down, the sister-in-law is indeed loveless. Eat to hold, usually to coax, sleep to hold, there is no room for themselves. The body of a forty-year-old to take care of two children, one petite, one rebellious, for a few years, the sister-in-law is indeed in the water, a word is difficult!
One of my college classmates, after she gave birth to her eldest daughter, vowed never to have a second child again. When she was first born, there was no one to take care of her confinement, it was all her own efforts, and her hand fell into gout. She no longer had the courage and energy to have a second child, but when the second child was released, she secretly gave birth to a son. The arrival of her son has brought countless joys to the small family, but at the same time it has also thrown her one problem after another.
The daughter competes with her son for jealousy, and even the son's milk powder, the daughter has to share a piece of the pie. My classmates took care of their youngest sons, comforted their daughters, and earned money to support their families. Although her husband works in the metropolis and earns a lot of money, she also has to make an effort to give her children a better job. At this moment, my classmate's in-laws had physical problems, she herself was helpless, and her body and spirit were in a state of crushing.
Undoubtedly, my son and daughter grew up healthily, and my classmates gained a lot of happiness, but at the same time, they also paid a lot. If we want the second and third children to gain and lose, the key is what we value. Like the 6 year old girl said: Mom, a lot of people say you're my grandma! Mom answered: Grandma is Grandma! Since the elderly have children, they must make all kinds of preparations and pressures, and they must stand up and go down beautifully.
Friends, to the 6-year-old girl said: Mom, many people say you are my grandmother! A: Grandma is Grandma! What do you think? What do you think about the second and third children? Welcome to leave a message, comment, bookmark, forward!