Blind date occasions often seem to be peaceful, the two talk and laugh; behind the scenes, there is a shadow of a sword and light, to judge whether a person is suitable for continued interaction, a few sentences are enough.
Obviously, you have not yet had time to show one-tenth of your charm on the blind date, but the other party has already pressed the stop button of this relationship in advance with action, and firmly pressed you who are preparing to rise up in place, so that you have already lost the blind date before you are aware.
Why do you lose so many battles on a blind date? We've summarized three reasons for you:
Admittedly, most people choose blind dates to get married.
Some people will have such a thought: everyone must want to talk about a love for the purpose of marriage, so why not be honest with both parties?
They thought they had the mentality that the ming people would not say secret words, and at the beginning they wrote the three words "want to get married" on their faces.
In the process of blind date, too enthusiastic to show themselves, overly affectionate to each other, ask each other how they feel about themselves, repeatedly mention marriage-related topics, and even begin to imagine and plan a better future as soon as they meet.
Not only do they not feel that such enthusiasm is easy to "burn" the blind date, but they also think in their hearts that the other party will feel their honesty, and may be impressed by this frankness and multiply their good feelings.
Don't be silly, this so-called "honesty" will not add points to your performance, and such nonsensical enthusiasm will scare the other party away.
He/she will only think that you are such a strange person, maybe there is something that cannot be said explicitly, and he will be so anxious to send himself into a stable relationship.
In the end, it is very likely to evolve into such an ending - you are still laughing at yourself for your honesty, and the other party has already felt uncomfortable, and you have been removed from the choice of heart-pounding early.
Many people always hold a "in fact, I am very good, are forced to choose blind date" mentality to go on a blind date, feel that they are so good can not find a partner, so far single is just a busy day of work can not find time to fall in love: "Then I must be superior in the dark."
So the first time they met with the blind date, they couldn't wait to put up a shelf, and before the eight characters were skimmed, they pretended to be reserved, and began to pick and choose the blind date from the bottom of their hearts.
I think the other party's appearance is not good; although there is a house in the city, it is too far away from his work; he is an only child. I am afraid that the problem of supporting the elderly will be difficult to solve in the future; it is not an only child, and I am worried about the dispute over the property problem after that...
In the final analysis, blind dates are carried out under the premise of mutual respect and equality of both parties, which is essentially a two-way choice. Since everyone is already in this situation, it is better to put away the shelf you have put away and use this energy to sincerely understand the personality of the blind date.
There is also "same-sex attraction" between people, and what kind of person you are will attract what kind of person.
That is to say, if you treat others sincerely, you will be able to reap the sincerity of others to you; if you pick and choose others, others will naturally feel that you are not pleasing everywhere.
"Overly restrained" is the well-deserved number one killer of blind dates, and if both parties do not take the initiative to find a topic and let the atmosphere fall into embarrassment, the relationship is not far from over.
Some people feel that more words will be lost, especially in this kind of occasion that hopes to leave a good impression on the other party, if they are not sure what the other party will react to, they can try not to say it, and only pick some remarks that can make the other party feel comfortable.
Every time you say a word, you have to think about it in your heart for half a day, and when you finally think of a decent reply, you are embarrassed to find that this topic has ended for a while, and then continue to chat and the atmosphere is more solidified, then don't say it.
In the end, it will only lead to the whole blind date becoming a quiz game where you ask me to answer, the other party throws a question and you answer a question, and after the answer, they will look down at each other and brush their mobile phones to cope with the blank time without words to talk.
No matter what the chat situation, the most feared situation is "the most afraid of the sudden silence of the air", especially during the blind date.
The over-enthusiasm mentioned above can indeed be frightening, but the other side of the extreme , excessive restraint leads to awkward cold dates , and only makes the other party want to get out of the place quickly and end this curled up date as soon as possible.
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