The misfortune of an only child hit the start button the moment their parents got older.
Many parents will be paranoid that my child is an only child and can enjoy all the pampering of our husband and wife, and all resources and materials are exclusive, even if it is our inheritance.
Therefore, even after the two-child and three-child policies have been liberalized, they still will not waver in their ideas, or insist on having only one child. No matter how much the people around you dissuade yourself.
What do parents who choose to have a child think?
Worry about your own uneven bowl of water
When there is more than one child in the family, the problem faced by parents is no longer a problem of life, whether the children can eat and wear warm and other basic needs, but related to whether the children can grow up healthily, of which mental health is more important.
Because children who grow up in a second- or third-child family will be more sensitive, in order to compete for more love from their parents, they will make some strange behaviors, and slowly they will become more and more extreme.
Nine out of ten families will feel a headache, or they are not careful enough, but they cannot fight against their own nature, and they cannot help but be partial to how to solve it?
Children are stronger than we think and don't need companionship
Many parents will have multiple children under the banner of not leaving their children alone, saying that they do not want their children to bear the pain they have felt, and being isolated when they encounter danger, in fact, they are all considered for their own sake.
For example, having two children, when you get old and need child support, you will not drive him crazy because you have been bothering a child, even if one child refuses to support himself, will there be another child to become his hope?
Therefore, many times it is not that the child needs brothers and sisters, but the parents feel that the child needs, and even imposes their own ideas on the child, the desire to control is very strong, and it is not allowed to happen without collateral.
Today, the plight of nearly 200 million only children has arrived
Parents need their own support, and they have become "sandwich biscuits" with old and low
It is said that people can truly feel the hardships of life until they are middle-aged, on the one hand, they come from the pressure of the workplace, and if they are high or low, they can only survive in the current job, and they simply do not have the courage and courage to do whatever they want.
On the other hand, there is pressure from the family. Bedridden elderly people need their own care and support, newborn children are eager to be fed, and they need to pay their own painstaking care and education. Often let yourself feel that you are not satisfied, and you have more than enough and you lack strength.
This feeling of putting pressure on themselves at the same time is a kind of torture and overdraft for their spirit and body, not to mention that children and the elderly put all their hopes on themselves, and they do not have their own time to cry.
The slightest carelessness will bear the infamy of filial piety
When we learn that a child does not support the elderly, we instinctively blame the child, thinking that the child is a white-eyed wolf, and the parents have worked hard to raise them from an early age, how can they do such a big rebellious thing.
Even if you learn that his parents were incompetent and did not fulfill their obligations, so what? After all, parents have given their children precious lives, and children must dutifully support the elderly.
Moreover, you will also feel that the parents' requirements for themselves are increasing day by day, and they are not allowed to make a little mistake, and a little carelessness will cause the reverie of their parents, and they will be labeled as unfilial, and once they are posted, it is difficult to be taken off.
Isn't it because we're easily swayed by stereotypes? The first time I understand what kind of person it is, in the days to come, I will unconsciously make up for my brain and divergence of thoughts, and even do whatever I want.
The only child is tired and insists, and no one will stop and wait for him to rest
For the only child, being the pillar of the family seems like a sacred thing, but in fact the pressure also comes together, and you are not allowed to stop, nor are you allowed to leave it alone.
Could it be that your parents will stop aging and wait for you to catch your breath? Or will your child slow down and let you take care of other things before coming back to them? This is clearly unrealistic.
Today's summary:
Are you an only child? Do you feel any sense of this pressure? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!