"I don't bring my grandson, but you have to give me a pension!" Daughter-in-law: Whose mother will raise it! Who should take care of the child?

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Xiao Xu originally called, begging the mother-in-law to take the child, "As long as the child is brought to the age of 3, we will not bother you no matter how hard we are in the future, okay?" ”

The mother-in-law was not moved, "I am not obliged to help you with the child, I am old, I want to dance square dance, play cards!" ”

The husband also persuaded the mother-in-law not to move, and in desperation, he had to resign and go home with the child.

When the child went to kindergarten, she decided to find a good job, and with her wife's income, the family's life gradually improved.

Just when the family's life was flourishing, the mother-in-law was sick in her hometown, the husband had to go to work, and the mother-in-law hated that the caregiver was too expensive, and asked the daughter-in-law to serve her by name.

Xiao Xu was quite resentful of her mother-in-law's abandonment at that time, and she confessed her thoughts to her husband, "I am not obliged to give the elderly a pension, you want to be filial to the elderly, you take leave yourself, the child I will manage, you don't have to worry." "

The mother-in-law only saw her son coming in the hospital, very angry, however, the son relayed the words of his daughter-in-law, but the old man was ashamed, and he no longer dared to mention that his daughter-in-law would take care of himself.

One. The mother-in-law is not obliged to bring her grandson to help the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is obliged to give the pension?

Mother-in-law is not obliged to help the daughter-in-law with her grandchildren, but usually the elderly will take the initiative to help with the children and let the young people go out to work.

After all, women have to take care of their children, so they can't work, and finally they can only be full-time wives.

Not to mention the mortgage, car loan, the family's expenses, the child's education costs, etc., these expenses all make the son bear too much pressure.

One is that the whole family is living in a state of frugality, only being able to afford discounted goods from supermarkets, and worrying about rent every day. Another is to be economically well-off, have no worries about food and clothing, and just enjoy life happily.

No matter how stupid the mother-in-law is, she can also carry this truth, otherwise young people are exhausted for life every day, who has the energy to manage the life of the elderly?

Settle the child, the young man has no worries, and naturally the daughter-in-law will follow the son to filial piety to you.

Most of the mothers-in-law who do not bring children to their daughters-in-law let their daughters-in-law experience the suffering they suffered in the past.

For many years, the daughter-in-law has become a wife, not thinking about not letting the tragedy repeat itself, but recreating the tragedy. Neither mother nor daughter of course has no affection, but relies on the accumulation of affection in the future.

When she was pregnant, she couldn't eat and had to cook for you; when she gave birth, she wandered around the ghost door, and you just played cards.

Coming home after giving birth, because it's not a boy, you never look at the child, let alone help.

When she needs help, you choose to stand by and watch, how can you make your daughter-in-law not chill? Without warmth, without grace, where is the reward?

Even if the daughter-in-law does not care about the previous suspicions and gives you a pension with her husband, are you not ashamed in your heart? What a woman is so hard for a woman.

When I gave birth to the second treasure, due to the injection of oxytocin, the whole production process was particularly painful, and every minute and second was tormented.

Later, when I was pushed out of the delivery room, my mother-in-law greeted me and said, "You have worked hard!" "It's warmer than my husband saying I love you." Or women understand women better.

Two. The mother-in-law does not bring children, does the daughter-in-law want to give the elderly a pension? It depends on the attitude of both parties getting along.

The poem has a cloud: "Vote for me with a peach, and repay it with a lee."

There is no unprovoked love, and there is no unprovoked hate. If the two sides can put aside their prejudices and get along harmoniously. Then the mother's kindness and filial piety, love each other, four generations in the same house, just around the corner.

Otherwise, the two tigers fight each other, the chickens and dogs jump at home, even if you don't have to take your grandchildren and the children don't support you, you will only end up in a desolate situation, after all, the life you ruined with your own hands can no longer be chased back.

Three. Is it wrong for a mother-in-law's not to bring a child to her son?

This problem should be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.

1. If the mother-in-law has a stable job and the income is not low

The daughter-in-law has no job and is at home with children. In this case, it is best to let the mother-in-law continue to work, the daughter-in-law with the child, and everyone divides the work and cooperates.

After all, the economy determines the quality of life. Now there are also many families where the mother-in-law works and the daughter-in-law brings the child.

Isn't it good that the income of the mother-in-law and husband is used to maintain family expenses, full-time, and the daughter-in-law only needs to be at ease at home with the children.

If the son and daughter-in-law blindly ask the mother-in-law to resign and take the child, the mother-in-law is wrong if she does not take the child.

Their thinking is wrong, so that although someone helps with the child, but the mother-in-law has no income, the pressure is all on the man alone, the expenses are getting bigger and bigger, life is getting more and more tight, so is it not to pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelon?

2. The mother-in-law has no job

If the mother-in-law does not have a job, this situation depends on the mother-in-law's own wishes.

After all, the mother-in-law raised her son, and her obligations were fulfilled. Most mothers-in-law will take the initiative to help with the children and let the young people go out to work.

After all, women have to take care of their children, they have to manage transportation, so they can't work, and finally they can only be full-time wives, not to mention mortgages, car loans, family expenses, children's education costs, etc. It is difficult for one person to work to support the family, and the work of two husbands and wives helps balance expenses and improve life satisfaction.

If the mother-in-law wants to take other children and cannot get out, this situation needs to be negotiated with each other, whether to take the child with them or to send the child back to the hometown.

In order to satisfy her own selfishness, the daughter-in-law should not force the mother-in-law to bring only her own children, so that the mother-in-law is difficult to do, and the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat, which is difficult to decide.

3. When the mother-in-law did not bring children to her son, there is nothing wrong with it

Mother-in-law is not obliged to take the child, if the elderly are willing to help with the child, we are grateful to the elderly.

If the elderly are not willing to take the child, we also respect her to live a free life.

After all, the old man has worked hard all his life and has the right to enjoy life. Daughter-in-law should not take whether the mother-in-law has children as a question of right and wrong, and the most important thing is for the family to live in harmony.