Many elderly people in their own old age, their own pension problems will become a top priority, good health, with a wife, may live together with two people, do not bother their children, but also for those who live alone, they will often choose another way to retire, or live with their children, or live in a nursing home, or ask a nanny to take care of themselves.
In fact, no matter which way of providing for the elderly, children should also support the elderly, help the elderly to spend the second half of their lives, be happy, be happy, this is the most important, and as an old man, in the face of their own pension, they also need to consider clearly, especially in the face of some practical factors.
After the sixty-year-old man wanted to go to his daughter's house for the elderly after dividing up his property, the son-in-law said bluntly: If he dares to come, I dare to divorce
Uncle Zheng is 63 years old this year, he was originally a worker in the factory, and now he has retired for a few years, and he also has his own pension, although it is not much every month, only about three thousand yuan, but it is also considered to have some protection for his own life.
Uncle Zheng's wife died a long time ago, and there were two children in the family, an eldest daughter, a young son, and two children also became a family early, and the son stayed in the small county where he lived to work, although the salary was not high, but it was good that life was comfortable, and the eldest daughter was married to the city next door, like most families.
In fact, at the beginning of the life is still very stable, Uncle Zheng lived in the unit building assigned by his own unit, the eldest daughter had a dowry of 150,000 when she got married, but she stayed at home for 50,000, and this 50,000 in the end became the cost of the younger son's marriage, when the family also almost paid all the continuance, only to buy a house for the younger son, married, Uncle Zheng also to the younger son from time to time to patch some money as a family.
In the past few years, Uncle Zheng was still living alone, the son often came to the house to take care of himself, the number of times the daughter's words came home was very small, but as he got older, Uncle Zheng's body was not as good as a day, in such a situation, the younger son also took Uncle Zheng to his own home, in order to better take care of his father, and Uncle Zheng naturally did not shirk.
After living in the young son's home for half a year, Uncle Zheng had a disease, which was not very serious, but after staying in the hospital for a long time, Uncle Zheng also had a feeling in his heart, the first thing he did after he was discharged from the hospital was to divide the property, he called his daughter, called his son, and said:
"My body is now worse than a day, but also want to explain the things in the family as soon as possible, you are all married, many things I also have to explain to you clearly, there is a house in the family, that is, in the early years of the factory subsidies, we bought it ourselves, the house is now under my name, the house is left to your brother, his family life is not very rich, the daughter-in-law is not working now, taking care of the children at home, he is responsible for making money alone, it is not easy to make money now, he still has two children, Our family is not a rich person, the family does not have any savings, just want to help help your brother, but there is really no way to help, now I also considered it, the house to your brother, or sold, or rented out, are able to alleviate the pressure of life. ”
When Uncle Zheng said that he wanted to transfer the house to his younger son, in fact, the eldest daughter was still a little displeased, and immediately said:
"Dad, it's not impossible, but..."
Before the eldest daughter could finish speaking, Uncle Zheng continued:
"Daughter, I know that it may be a little unfair to you, but you should also understand, after all, you are living well now, your in-laws' life is also good, when you got married, the bride price was only fifty thousand, and in the end you took it away, and Dad considered it, I still have three thousand pensions every month, I plan to move to your house for a period of time, your family is big, and your work is not busy, compared to your brother, living in your house may be more convenient, your brother has two children, I live in your brother's house for several years, I do feel that the family is very troublesome, but you don't have to worry, I will leave you with my pension every month, which can be regarded as my living expenses. ”
In fact, when Uncle Zheng's words came out, for a time the children and the two of them were a little caught off guard, and they did not know how to answer, but the eldest daughter still agreed, saying that she would go home to discuss with her husband to see how to live, and then left.
But when the son-in-law heard about this, he immediately became angry, and asked his wife what she thought very angrily, but the wife said:
"That's my dad, I'm definitely going to let him come, and since I married into your family, I've hardly done much filial piety to my dad, and usually my brother is taking care of him, and I definitely want him to come."
But the son-in-law said:
"If he dares to come, I dare to divorce!" The house is divided among your brothers, the house can sell at least three hundred thousand, in case it is demolished later, it is more valuable, just say that the pension is given to you, but how much responsibility do we have to bear, how much energy do we have to pay? My parents are also older, when the time comes to retire, will all three old people come to live in our house? Do you think you can share it? ”
The husband's words make the eldest daughter also very angry, still saying that the younger brother is not easy, taking care of the father for many years, and also talking about the difficulties of his father, but the husband has still been opposed, all this makes it difficult for the eldest daughter to be sandwiched in the middle, I don't know how to say, on the one hand, the father's pension, while the husband's threat, it is always difficult to make a decision.
In the end, she and her husband still broke up, chose her father, and said bluntly:
"If you must get a divorce, then get a divorce, I can take care of my father alone, I can also take care of the children, I think you are particularly unreasonable, you threaten me like this, have you considered my feelings?" If it were you, how would you do it? Are you against giving your father a pension? Still against your father's arrangement, I don't think my father's arrangement is so unfair, nor do I feel how much grievance he has to suffer when he lives in our house, moreover, busy is also I am busy, your life is business as usual, I don't know what you are minding, if you insist on divorce, I can't help it, I can't refuse my father. ”
Husband and wife still have a contradiction because of this, did not discuss a reasonable solution, and finally Uncle Zheng also heard about this matter, and has not been to the eldest daughter's home, or stay in the younger son's home, because he is also afraid of living in the past after affecting the marriage of the eldest daughter, and the younger son also feels inappropriate, after all these years with the father, he has always felt that the father has paid a lot, not to mention the wife of the younger son, after learning of the final distribution of the property of Uncle Zheng, he also feels that the father-in-law has helped his family a lot. Nor did it go too far against it.
For Uncle Zheng, today's life is still as far as possible not to cause trouble for the younger son and daughter-in-law.
Write at the end:
The elderly's pension has always been a real problem faced by many families, especially in some families with more children, if the brothers and sisters are a heart, then it may be more smooth, but if it is not resolved in time in the face of some contradictions, it is likely to cause the problem of pension, as a child, to understand the old man's ideas, understand the decision of the elderly, filial piety first, and as the elderly, most of the time should also consider the mood between the children, what do you think?