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Cousin Xiaoyu once had a failed relationship, the relationship between the two people was originally very good, but later after joining the work, boyfriend Kobayashi turned around and accepted the pursuit of a colleague and proposed to break up with Xiaoyu.
The girl was an only child, and her father was the chairman of a local business, which was a great opportunity for Kobayashi. Xiao Yu struggled to keep it, Xiao Lin did not have the slightest thought of changing his mind, but instead sarcastically said, "As far as your family is concerned, it is simply a bottomless pit, a younger brother, a sister, a pair of peasant parents who work in agriculture, are you trying to drag me to death?" ”
After the breakup, Xiao Yu was heartbroken, and I advised her: "Although you wasted several years of your youth on this person, this ending is still good." God is very kind to you, and did not wait until you were married and had children before you could recognize his true face. ”
Later, Xiao Yu told me that my words had really come true. After Kobayashi married the rich girl, he quickly got a career boost. After the birth of the child, the father-in-law retired from his post, and the old couple helped their daughter with the child, and Kobayashi became the leader of the enterprise.
However, Kobayashi began to be critical of his wife, believing that she was ugly and never took him to a friend's party. Several college classmates knew that he looked down on his wife and was not in order in his life outside. He didn't run the original business well, and he always wanted to open up new businesses and try to get rid of his father-in-law's circle.
However, it didn't take long for Kobayashi to divorce and the children to his wife. His father-in-law said very bitterly that he was all resentful of him and should not support his son-in-law to succeed, otherwise his daughter would not have today's end. Now, the economic side can no longer control the son-in-law, can only watch him become a "white-eyed wolf".
Girls hope to change their fate through marriage, which has led to a great change in the mate selection concept of many boys now. Finding an only daughter-in-law is their ideal type because it is of great benefit to them.
The benefits of an only daughter are very tempting for boys
In a family with only one daughter, the future property of the parents must be inherited by the daughter's small family, and the family with only one daughter will also have time to help with the children in the future. The efforts of parents may not necessarily be exchanged for the sincere treatment of the son-in-law.
Writer Li Bihua once said a sentence: "Don't promote a man, yes, don't promote him." Men are not happy to make a promise to each other, once he is promoted, waiting for the opportunity to break through, you are dangerous. No man is willing to sell his life, he always has the ambition to use the money he sold to buy another life. ”
Parents want their daughters to be happy, and it is also the idea of many parents that the son-in-law can stand up to half a child. However, if the parents marry their daughters and support the son-in-law to success, it will be "losing the wife and folding the soldiers." Therefore, far-sighted parents often say, "I would rather my daughter live a mediocre life than support my son-in-law, even if I have to support my daughter."
If the daughter marries into someone else's house to live, if she encounters an unreliable husband and a cruel mother-in-law, the daughter is wronged, how much the parents should be worried. The mother's family is the daughter's eternal confidence, and if you want your daughter not to be wronged, you have to help her when she is wronged.
These kinds of parents are the daughter's greatest luck, and they are not afraid of having a bad life after marriage
Parents have financial strength and are the eternal backing of their daughters.
When the daughter and the husband or mother-in-law have an argument, the mother's home is the daughter's safe haven. Parents' sentence "The in-laws are not good, we will raise you, and the children will follow our surname", which is to give the daughter the greatest confidence. If the parents can't even take care of themselves, how can they give the daughter they marry to shelter?
The daughter of the mother's family with strong economic strength is rarely wronged after marriage. The mother's family is the biggest backer, and if the in-laws are not good to themselves, they can also go back to the mother's house without worry. Therefore, parents with financial strength will not let their daughters be wronged.
Parents have a pattern and can guide their daughters.
After the daughter gets married, it is inevitable that there will be some bumps with her husband and mother-in-law. When the daughter came back and said, "My mother-in-law bullied me." Confused parents may let their daughters go back to their mother's house and never go back, while visionary parents will let their children use their brains to solve problems. For example, to win their husbands to their own side of the camp, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law try to avoid direct conflict, let the husband be the middle of the "shield".
Parents to their daughter's family conflicts, properly handled, the daughter lives a happy life, will not be wronged. Parents who can't deal with problems have made a mess of their daughter's life, and their daughter has also been wronged.
Parents love their daughters very much and give them confidence.
The daughter is the most difficult in the three years after giving birth, and the child is the mother's biggest weakness. Mother-in-law is also prone to threaten her daughter-in-law because of her children. Some women, if the mother's family does not hurt you, the mother-in-law will give you more grievances.
I have a friend whose child is one year old, and because it is a work within the establishment, the child will let the mother-in-law help bring it. She asked her daughter-in-law to give her her salary or she wouldn't bring you children. The daughter-in-law returned to her mother's house in a rage, and then hoped that her parents could help her with the child, and did not go back to ask for her mother-in-law, even if it was for a month, the mother-in-law may compromise.
However, the mother-in-law just did not agree. She said: "Your father went to work, he can't delay making money, and my waist is not good." Then, continue playing mahjong every day. Without the love of parents, the daughter has no family status in the in-laws' family.
If the parents love their daughter very much, the in-laws do not dare to bully her, and if the mother-in-law family is not willing to take care of her, the in-laws will not take her seriously.
Daughters are the intimate little cotton jackets of their parents, and parents are the fur coats of their daughters, warming each other and living happily ever after.
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