Build a house first and then retire! The wife refuses to give the mother-in-law a pension, the reason is that the husband dares to be angry and dare not speak!

Build a house first and then retire! The wife refuses to give the mother-in-law a pension, the reason is that the husband dares to be angry and dare not speak!

Husband and wife not only need to let each other cherish enough in daily life, enough mutual understanding, and maintain each other, so that a long-term husband and wife relationship can continue to change, and constantly develop in a better direction, if there is a lack of tolerance and understanding, there will be a lot of contradictions and estrangement in the remaining life between husband and wife, which is beyond doubt.

On the long road of life, there will always be too many things that need to be discussed and solved together with each other, whether it is about themselves or about their parents, we must learn to communicate in time, communicate in time, and consider problems from each other's point of view, so as to avoid more quarrels!

Ms. Sun's life with her husband, Mr. Chen

Ms. Sun and her husband Mr. Chen have been married for more than ten years, the relationship between the two people has been relatively stable, although in the weekdays will often make some quarrels, make some contradictions, but it has not really affected the feelings between husband and wife, the two people have also been living a dull life, I thought this marriage can go to old age, but recently because of the parents' pension things are inseparable.

The thing is this, two people are the only child in the family, there are no brothers and sisters, now the parents of both sides are older, how to provide for the elderly has become a matter that two people need to think of, at the beginning of the time Ms. Sun did not have any complaints in her heart, after all, married to the Chen family, the pension of the Chen family's parents naturally also needs to be put in the heart, these ten years have also been enough to pay for the family, and their parents have always lived in their hometown, usually Ms. Sun will give her parents some money every month, As pension money, but in recent years, successive events have made it necessary for couples to rethink their parents' pension problems.

A few years ago, the father-in-law died of illness, there was only one mother-in-law left in the family, and Mr. Chen naturally took the mother-in-law to the couple's home, more convenient to take care of the mother, Ms. Sun did not say much, a person took care of the elderly and children, but there will always be some accidents, the house where their parents live is in disrepair, and there is no special money, so Ms. Sun will discuss with her parents to repair the house, so that the parents will also be at ease, they will also be at ease, they will also be at ease, However, this matter was immediately rejected by Mr. Chen, Mr. Chen:

"Our family now has so much money, the children still have to go to school, all kinds of expenses are not few, and my mother now lives at home, and now there is no money to help your family repair the house." 」

And Ms. Sun said:

"You know my family's house, it should have been repaired a few years ago, but my father's health is not good, my parents' income is less, there has been no money, now that they are getting older, it is even more difficult to make money, they can only rely on us, if the house is not repaired, what to do after this, and the house in the village can not cost much money, it is good to improve it slightly."

Despite this, Mr. Chen refused, still on the grounds that there was no money.

Because the two people have their own opinions on this matter, they have never been able to get a reasonable solution, which also makes Ms. Sun more and more anxious and angry, and also said another method:

"If you don't take my parents to live in the city, your mother lives in our house now, and the previous house will be uninhabited, idle is idle, or let my parents live where, I can take care of them more conveniently." 」

Mr. Chen was also angry when he heard it:

"Then my parents' house, now let your parents live in it?" What do you think? ”

Ms. Sun said:

"I know it's not appropriate, so why don't you vacate our basement and let my parents live here, just sleep at night, and doesn't the one upstairs still rent out the basement?" When the time comes, my parents will come to the house to eat during the day, rest, and sleep in the basement at night. ”

Seeing that Ms. Sun's words were spoken, Mr. Chen still refused:

"The two of us, raising three old people and a child, do you think you are busy?" Are you going to exhaust me? And let your parents live in the basement, and the people outside know and start saying that I don't understand things. ”

Mr. Chen's refusal made Ms. Sun lose patience, angrily saying that Mr. Chen did not want to give his parents a pension, and finally couldn't help it:

"Your mother can live at home when she is old, and my parents will not care about the pension?" Either build a house first and then retire, or I will not give your mother a pension! ”

Mr. Chen was also angry and clamored for a divorce, but Ms. Sun's next words made Mr. Chen dumbfounded:

"They are all children, if one day your daughter grows up, your son-in-law does not care about you, does not give you a pension, will you be happy?" I give your parents pension I have no regrets, these years at home have also been taking care of the old, taking care of the small, now my parents are older, the income is basically gone, I just want to give my parents to repair the house, let them live in peace of mind, so that I can also rest assured, but you say do not agree, how much money in the family, how much can be done, I have calculated, obviously can be rebuilt, but why do not agree? You told me that if you were me, how would you give your parents a pension? I want them to live here, even if it's the basement, it's me who works hard, you still don't agree, you just don't want to give my parents a pension, right? If yes, get a divorce, if not, build a house or let them move over! ”

Ms. Sun's words left Mr. Chen speechless, after all, he had some reasoning, and finally agreed to rebuild the family house, which resolved the contradiction between the two people.

Write at the end:

I have to say that for the only child family is very easy to face these things, both parents will have an older day, there will be a day of retirement, if the parents are alive, can accompany each other, support each other, then may let themselves worry a little, but if the parents lack the ability to live, or lose one of the timely timely help, and at this time whether it is the husband or wife, whether it is to the in-laws, or to the mother-in-law, should maintain the same attitude, Discuss well, so that both parents have the ability to retire and take care of the feelings of the elderly.

So if you are Mr. Chen or Ms. Sun, how do you give your parents a pension?