Marriage has never been a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. Because once you get married, it means that you and the other person's original family are involved. Whoever it is, they have to treat each other's parents as if they were their own.
Someone once joked that after getting married, what was originally two parents became four parents. If the bowl of water is uneven, the family will never have a peaceful day.
Actually, this is not a joke, but a fact. Because your partner's parents, although they are not related to you by blood, have the same family ties.
In his later years, his parents-in-law went to their son-in-law's house with a full body of illness to retire, but the pension was all given to their son. In the face of such eccentric parents-in-law, as a son-in-law, will you willingly swallow this breath and then support your parents-in-law if you have nothing to do?
01, in his old age, his parents-in-law went to his son-in-law's house with a full of illness
When talking about love and getting married, his wife did not abandon her family situation, did not abandon herself, and followed him without fear of suffering and guilt, which made Zhong Ming particularly grateful and moved. He also secretly swore in his heart that he would treat his wife and her parents kindly.
Therefore, since his marriage, Zhong Ming has not let his wife suffer grievances. Even if his parents make it difficult for his wife, Zhong Ming will mostly stand up to defend his wife, rather than letting her fight alone.
When he brought a child to his brother-in-law and brought out his sick parents-in-law to him and wanted to come to his home for the elderly, looking at his wife who was in tears of pain to his parents, Zhong Min finally compromised.
What's more, Zhong Ming, who usually accompanies his wife back to his mother's house every three to five minutes to honor his in-laws, can't bear to refuse. Although his parents-in-law looked down on him at first because of his family situation, under his filial piety for many years, his parents-in-law's attitude towards him still changed greatly, and they were no longer cold.
Zhong Ming vacated the largest guest room in the family for his in-laws. Although that house, it was his selfish heart, wanted to leave it for his parents to retire. But as soon as his wife spoke, Zhong Ming still gave in. In any case, the in-laws will not live in their own parents, and Zhong Ming believes that the two do not conflict.
02, parents-in-law pension to the son
But Zhong Ming miscalculated, and his parents-in-law still lived in their daughter's son-in-law's house for 3 years and never mentioned leaving. During this period, Zhong Ming also hinted at his wife to ask someone to leave, but his wife kept pushing back, saying that his brother was a mud that could not be supported by the wall, and his parents could not count on it.
Since his parents-in-law were unwilling to leave, Zhong Ming could not really drive people away, and could only accept the fact that his parents-in-law wanted to live for a long time. But the parents-in-law had been working at their son's house and fell ill, but now that they had come to the son-in-law's house, all the minor illnesses and pains began to show up.
My parents-in-law go to the doctor every three to five minutes to take medicine, and occasionally stay in the hospital. At first, Zhong Ming and his wife both covered the medical expenses. But the more times there were, Zhong Ming's heart was somewhat unbalanced.
The parents-in-law are not people without retirement wages, but the combined pension of the two people is almost 8,000 yuan. With this money, the parents-in-law can fully afford their own living expenses and medical care.
But the in-laws did not take out the money once, every time Zhong Ming complained to his wife, and was laughed at by his wife, her parents' money was her parents' money, and it was also their obligation to pay for their parents' medical treatment.
It wasn't until his brother-in-law came to the door to get the money and was inadvertently discovered by Zhong Ming that he suddenly realized. It's not that the parents-in-law don't have any money, but that little pension is all given to their son, every month, without exception.
And his wife also knew about this matter, but she had been shielding her parents, but Zhong Ming was like a big fool, blinded by the whole family.
03, son-in-law theory mother-in-law: you are not qualified to manage
Zhong Ming's heart is very unbalanced, his parents are also older, and he also wants to take care of his parents. But the in-laws have always refused to leave, and Zhong Ming is not good at driving people away.
Zhong Ming angrily found the theory of his parents-in-law, hoping that his parents-in-law could give a reasonable explanation. After all, the in-laws eat his drinks his house and his flowers he spends, and he asks where his parents- pensions are going, isn't it too much?
As a result, as soon as he opened his mouth, his father-in-law's face darkened, and his mother-in-law also said with a straight face, how much pension we receive every month is our business, even if it is all used to subsidize our son, it is also our business, you are not qualified to manage.
My wife also echoed next to me, my parents' money, they love to give to whomever they want, as a daughter and son-in-law, it is even more difficult to interfere. But Zhong Ming listened to it but almost his lungs exploded, his parents themselves could not afford to raise, but other people's parents, he spent a lot of money every month to raise, he was very unwilling.
But Zhong Ming is also very clear that his theory with his wife and in-laws has no effect, on the contrary, they will think that he is stingy and unfilial. Zhong Ming did not defend himself, but calmly told his parents-in-law: Since I am not qualified to manage your pension, then your pension, I am not qualified to manage, you pack your bags, go to your son for the pension.
No matter how soft and hard his wife is, zhong ming will not compromise anymore, let alone sympathize. After all, there must be something hateful about the poor man, and there is nothing wrong with that.
He was upset with his wife, and his poor parents-in-law took them in, but in the end, he became the biggest joke, which made him feel bad?
Today's Topic:
Do you think the son-in-law is entitled to interfere with where the parents-in-law's pension goes?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!