When I was a child, I always heard my mother complaining, either the price was rising or my father and I were incompetent, or it was complaining that she didn't know what to buy when she bought vegetables.
Every little thing she can expand to the big, and often think of the worst, so that I feel that life is not interesting, the atmosphere at home is in the hands of my mother, every time she sighs, I feel so irritable in my heart, I can't see any hope.
Life is indeed not as simple and happy as we think, but it is not like the negative people's hearts, every day is the end of the world, sometimes negative emotions will affect the mood of the people around them, just like a plague will be contagious, so we have to learn to release negative energy, life will be happy.
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How serious is the impact of the negative emotions vented by the parents themselves on the children?
First of all, the negative energy of complaining makes the child emotionally negative
In the eyes of parents, it is to send "complaints" to trusted people, but they do not know that such frequent "complaints" are like a wide-ranging web, enveloping the child's heart, so that the child's inner world is like the road at night, and it is impossible to feel the light and happiness, and it is impossible to see the dawn of future hope.
"Complaining woman", "complaining woman" and "complaining man" all have an obvious feature, as if the whole world owes him, every word, every thing has a place to complain, long-term negative mentality makes him unable to be happy, people around him often listen to his complaints, will also be greatly affected, in addition to irritability is pessimistic.
The age of the child should be full of curiosity about the surroundings, and actively explore, but deeply affected by the negative influence of the family, they will also have a crowding psychology of everything around them, and even full of hostility gradually become decadent and lose passion and motivation for the future life, and may be seriously depressed.
Secondly, the negative energy of crying poor makes children feel inferior and cowardly
Many parents adhere to the traditional Education of China, advocating that "the bottom of the family should not be exposed". Say to the child, "Our family is poor, you have to study well..." "Mom has no ability, did not give you a good life"...
These words, listening to less can understand the difficulties of parents, if you listen to them again and again, countless times, it will aggravate the child's sense of inferiority, let the child feel inferior, and slowly become inferior.
Fear of losing face in front of others after all "no money!" "Over time, children will yearn for money, and once the interests are too heavy, it is easy to produce distortions of human nature, so as to do some bad things."
The child's growth path should be full of sunshine and rain, do not bring children a bad life experience because of some bad emotions of parents, even the illusion of world-weariness, parents should also be positive, and put an end to bringing this negative emotion to children to increase the psychological burden of children.
Moreover, the negative energy of vanity makes the child conceited and arrogant
"Than" is a phenomenon of vanity at work, some parents like "than", than the child to learn, than the child's appearance, than the family situation, than food, clothing, housing and transportation, after all kinds of high ratios, is the "poor big hand" consumption habits.
No money to swipe the credit card, the card brush burst on the loan, anyway, all day long to eat, drink and have fun the family is not happy to live like a local tycoon. Such a way of life creates an illusion for children, "Our family has money!" "Children are like the rich second generation who generally do not know how to spend money in a big way."
There is a saying called "the poor are good at their own, and the poor are good at the world"! This is the correct perception of money. Parents who are too vain will let their children receive some information and imitate the behavior of parents, so parents should set their own examples, be practical, self-motivated, and let children learn good habits.
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The standard of a happy family
Is there a standard for a happy family? A good family atmosphere is created by every family member in the family. The maintenance of the relationship between family members is also added by each person's own living habits.
The atmosphere of a happy family is harmonious and loving, the members have a happy smile on their faces, a positive attitude and their own courage to take responsibility, such a family is a happy family that everyone yearns for.
If one of the family members often has negative emotions on their faces and the home is full of complaining statements, then this family atmosphere not only makes the home unhappy but also makes the family members want to escape!
Because everyone can't feel the warmth of home, but like a cage, the parents' emotions will infect the children to develop a pessimistic and negative mentality.
Parents must pay attention to their identity and emotional fluctuations in life, and do not let their negative energy vent and affect the healthy growth of their children! The source of negative emotions is caused by the stress of life.
Message:
Contemporary adult pressure is very large, parents need a channel to vent negative emotions, which is understandable to everyone, just pay attention to the occasion and way, it is best to find a hobby to vent this negative energy.
Hopefully, the last straw that crushed the camels doesn't happen. Too much negative energy for mothers is not conducive to the growth of children, and it is not conducive to family happiness, so mothers should also pay special attention.
As a mother is the person who sacrifices the most and pays the most in a family, we must respect the mother's efforts and often care for the mother, so that the mother's negative energy can be released under the care of happiness, the mother is happy, the family is happy!