(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)
The phrase "raising children to prevent old age" has always been in a state of controversy, and many people are questioning whether it is necessary to rely on their sons for the elderly? Why not spend the rest of your life in a nursing home?
However, it turns out that there are many elderly people who feel that they are afraid that someone will abuse them when they go to a nursing home, after all, the Internet is so developed nowadays, what kind of video can't be seen, and such a thing has not happened in real life, as the saying goes: "Once bitten by a snake for ten years, I am afraid of the well rope"!
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Wang Gang is 58 years old this year, and his mother is now 80 years old, and the issue of pension has become a "doubt" at present.
Wang Gang is not an only child at home, but there is a younger brother Wang Qiang below, his younger brother works in other places all the year round, and even married in other places when he got married, and the pressure of his mother's pension is naturally borne on him.
Wang Gang told that his old mother's difference in treatment of her two sons since she was a child is very obvious, because the mother wants to have a daughter for the second child, so that "both children and daughters" are proud to say in the countryside.
Since Wang Qiang was born, his mother's body and mind are almost all on his brother Wang Gang, and he has been very doting since he was a child, and it is precisely for this reason that Wang Gang and Wang Qiang's personalities are completely two contrasts, Wang Gang belongs to the stuffy gourd, and Wang Qiang is in a rebellious period all the year round.
Especially when they were in junior high school, they were also brothers who went out to play, and when they got home, it was always Wang Qiang who was scolded, and Wang Gang lowered his head on the side and didn't dare to say anything, in fact, every time he went out to play, Wang Gang called his younger brother to go out together.
But whenever the mother began to accuse and ask: "Wang Qiang, can you not take your brother out to play all day long, his academic performance is not as good as yours, can't you let him study hard at home?" ”
But Wang Qiang was very unconvinced: "What did I take my brother out with, obviously my brother asked me, and every time he puts the blame on me."
But when her mother heard these words of shirking responsibility, she was very angry: "Wang Qiang, you still learn to talk back now, don't you, and you still put the responsibility on your brother, do you want to rebel?" ”
Facing such a mother, Wang Qiang was already cold, thinking that his mother didn't like him, why did she give birth to herself back then, and didn't she hurt each other in the end?
Because their father runs a big car outside all the year round, the specific things at home are not very clear, and they only know that they are earning money outside to support the family, but even so, Wang Qiang has never blamed his brother, but has a grudge against his mother.
Over time, Wang Gang and Wang Qiang also began to run into their own lives, and each became a family, Wang Qiang in order to escape from his mother, when he was in college, he had to apply for a school in a foreign country no matter what, and the farther away from home, the better.
It is also after graduating from college that Wang Qiang rarely goes home, maybe only two or three times a month, often miss Wang Qiang is only his father, he feels that he is earning money outside all the year round, and does not give Wang Qiang enough fatherly love, which leads to the fact that he is now just a place to stay at home.
After their respective families, his mother has been taken care of by Wang Gang and his wife, and at the beginning, after his father retired, his father could still help take care of his mother, and Wang Gang did not need to worry too much about it.
But since my father went out to buy vegetables at noon that day, I don't know why I had to run a red light, and a car was in a hurry to cross the green light and didn't see my father, which led to the accident.
At that time, my father had passed away before he could be sent to the hospital, this bad news undoubtedly brought a lot of grief to the family, and even his younger brother Wang Qiang hurriedly rushed back from other places, although his father's love was not very much, but Wang Qiang also knew that his father was still very concerned about himself.
During the funeral, Wang Qiang did not talk to his mother, and his mother was still in pain and could not extricate herself.
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After the death of my father, my mother's body collapsed, and my mother, who usually suffers from high blood pressure, suddenly fell unexpectedly that day, accompanied by a cerebral hemorrhage, and was already 70 years old at the time, which is unwilling for any old man to bear, because it is very torturous.
And Wang Gang's task has not been completed, he has to subsidize the mortgage for his children, and at the same time take care of his old mother, and he has quarreled with his wife a lot for this: "Wang Gang, why have we been raising our mother all the time, your younger brother Wang Qiang?" No matter what it was like before, but it was his duty to raise his mother, he turned around and went to other places, didn't come home all the year round, and threw his old mother to us? ”
Wang Gang also said very helplessly: "You haven't experienced that kind of psychological shadow, you don't understand, I know how wronged he was when he was a child, so I also understand his behavior very much, at least he will send me 1000 child support every month!" ”
Wang Gang's wife became more and more angry the more she spoke: "What is 1,000 yuan enough for, is this something that money can solve?" Taking care of our mother, we are like being trapped, and we can't do anything."
Indeed, taking care of the old mother every day is actually nothing, every day is to help her go to the toilet when she goes to the toilet, and then just cook for her, nothing else, but you have to need someone next to you, maybe there will be any emergencies.
At that time, Wang Gang's wife also proposed to hire a nanny to take care of her mother during the day, and wait until the evening after we got off work.
Wang Gang also felt that this method was very reliable, and when he went to ask the price of the nurse, they were both shocked, but they didn't expect to have to pay 3,000 yuan to 4,000 yuan a month, and such an economic situation was really unbearable.
But what could be done, Wang Gang and his wife reluctantly hired a nurse, and after working for about a week, they dismissed him.
It's because although there is no need to worry about it during the day, but at night, the old woman sleeps very unsteadily, screaming and screaming, and Wang Gang and his wife can't sleep with peace of mind.
Wang Gang was also very puzzled: "Why is it that when we are at home during the day, our mother doesn't call at night, and when the nurse comes, my mother keeps calling at night." ”
However, there is nothing abnormal on the outside, so it was decided to dismiss the nurse, and it will be troublesome to save any problems when the time comes.
At that time, Wang Gang also called his younger brother Wang Qiang and said: "Our mother has always been like this, she can't do anything, if I retire, it's okay, it will take a few years to retire, what can I do?" ”
And the younger brother said: "You can do it, brother, I will support you in whatever decision you make, if you need money, you squeak me, and I will transfer it to you." ”
Wang Gang didn't know what to do about it, so he hung up the phone after saying a few casual words, and it was completely obvious that his younger brother didn't want to get involved in this matter at all, and he could pay for it, but it was absolutely impossible to contribute.
That day, Wang Gang's mother suddenly said to Wang Gang for some reason: "Gangzi, what about your brother, I haven't seen him for a long time, and I miss him a little."
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Wang Gang was very puzzled by these words: "Mom, Qiangzi is still working in the field, his career is relatively busy, he has no time to come to see you at home, and after a while, he is not busy, I asked him to come to the house to see you." ”
's mother is like a mirror: "I know why he doesn't want to come, it's because I treated him when I was a child, which made him have a psychological shadow, and he must hate me to death in my heart."
It turns out that my mother also knows that this is the case, but it is too late to regret it, and the harm is the harm.
Wang Gang was at work that day, and he happened to hear a colleague say that their parents had been put in a nursing home to help take care of them, which was not only worry-free, but also much more cost-effective than hiring a nurse.
Wang Gang patted his head, why didn't I think about it!
When I got home, I discussed it with my wife and younger brother, and my 80-year-old mother agreed very much, and said, "I can see it, you can send it to me, and you won't be able to do anything every day!" ”
After that, Wang Gang and his wife finally felt comfortable physically and mentally and were able to sleep a good night's sleep, but do you think it is good to send your parents to a nursing home?
(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)