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"Zengguang Xianwen" has a saying: "The family of filial piety raises filial sons, and the door of disobedience comes out of the rebellious children." ”
The rise and fall of the family is often rooted in the words and deeds of parents.
If parents do these three things, it is tantamount to reducing the well-being of their children, and even causing disaster:
It is the misfortune of children to be greedy for small gains
A philosopher once said: "At the beginning of life, it is like a blank piece of paper, the pen of the environment, depicting its color."
The individual style is actually a mirror image of the surrounding environment. ”
Love is like sunshine, moistening the heart: the love of parents can give their children a bright start in life; On the other hand, if the parents are careful, the children may inherit the shadow of a lifetime.
Poverty is not a dead end, and there is no return to the heart: material deprivation is not terrible, but the barrenness of the soul can affect the family for generations.
A fable with deep wisdom: my father took two bowls of noodles as an example, and one bowl hid eggs at the bottom.
The son was proud of the first egg picking, but he didn't know how to miss more; Again, he took the bowl without eggs, and got only the empty bowl. The father's words are concise: "Those who are greedy for small gains will eventually lose more than they lose." ”
Mirror of life, warn the world: In reality, some people sacrifice their quality of life and precious time for small profits, and their minds and bodies are trapped in poverty, so their souls wither, and they lose the courage and tenacity to face life.
A noble son from a poor family, with high ambitions: Wang Xinyi, the champion of the Hebei college entrance examination, has a poor family background, and his mother's training is constantly striving for self-improvement. In the face of the willingness of all sectors of society to sponsor, his mother declined, willing to leave the opportunity to those who need it more.
Under the influence of his mother, Wang Xinyi was full of heart, devoted himself to volunteer service, participated in teaching, and finally joined the navy and became the helmsman of the aircraft carrier.
She conveys warmth through her actions, and at the same time enriches her spiritual world.
The harm of poverty is far-reaching and long-lasting: if the family is mired in trivial calculations, the child's life will be consumed invisibly.
Spiritual enrichment, brilliance blooming: Only children whose souls are fully nourished can show dazzling light in a broad mind.
There are no poor children, only "bitter" children: Don't let the greed for small profits limit the children's horizons and future.
In reiterating, may these words inspire thinking more fluently, emphasizing the importance of family education, mindset for personal growth, and the right attitude towards life.
Excessive expectations are the sorrow of children
From the perspective of economics, happiness is reduced to a formula: happiness equals utility divided by expected value.
This means that reducing one's expectations is often an effective way to improve well-being.
Similarly, parents' high expectations of their children often become an unbearable burden on their children's shoulders.
Hans in the novel "Under the Wheel" has shown extraordinary intelligence since he was a child, and he is a genius child in the eyes of everyone.
In his early years, his life was filled with diverse pleasures: laughing and running in the garden, enjoying the simple pleasures of fishing and slingshots. However, the trajectory of growth quietly changed all that.
As I grew older, the anticipation of the people around me came flooding in.
With a vision of the light lintel, my father ruthlessly eradicated Hans's paradise and replaced it with endless learning tasks;
The teacher was eager for him to enter a prestigious school and add luster to himself, so the schoolwork and tutoring courses went hand in hand, overwhelming Hans.
Gradually, Hans was physically and mentally exhausted by the overload, headaches flared up frequently, and his enthusiasm for learning was replaced by exhaustion.
Despite this, under his father's eager gaze, he still gritted his teeth and persevered, dreaming of a moment of peace after the exam.
But the reality is that new learning materials are waiting for them, with no end in sight.
The smiling and energetic boy of the past has become emaciated, melancholy, and exhausted.
The long period of mental depression eventually led to the deterioration of his health, and he had to say goodbye to the campus and choose the path of taking a leave of absence.
Expectation, as if it were a bottomless pit, can never really be filled.
From passing to pursuing a perfect score, from the top ten to the top three, the ladder of desire never ends.
Every child is born with infinite possibilities, but gradually loses the edge of individuality in the socially defined framework of success and the high expectations of the family.
The "overlimit effect" in psychology reveals a phenomenon: excessive stimulation only triggers rebellious psychology.
Just as a string that is too tight will eventually break, the result of the seedlings can only be withering.
Therefore, as a parent, the best thing to do is to let go of excessive expectations and not impose a transformation on your child.
In an atmosphere of understanding and love, allowing children to freely explore their vast world may be the deepest and most lasting expression of love.
Too much control is a disaster for your children
Cai Yuanpei's insight in "The Cultivation of the Chinese" points out that it is not academic performance, but comprehensive personality education, that is the key to a child's future.
Overly controlling parents often ignore their children's freedom and independence, over-intervene in their life trajectories, and even build an invisible cage on the spiritual level.
This kind of harsh and depressing education method can easily lead to the shortcomings of children's personality development and lay hidden dangers for their lives.
In an eight-minute Pixar production that won the Oscar for Best Animated Short Film, the story goes like this: a mother makes a bun with her own hands, and the bun miraculously takes on life.
The mother cared for this newly-born little life and never left it.
However, as Bunzi grows older, he begins to crave to explore the world – making friends, participating in games, and enjoying alone time. But the mother's overprotection was always with her: she was forbidden to go out and play, she was not allowed to be alone, and she was even secretly watching.
Under such suffocating control, Baozi's rebellious mood grows day by day, and finally chooses to run away from home.
Although the mother tried her best to save it, she made an astonishing act in desperation - devouring the buns so that the child would never leave.
The extreme desire for control is nothing less than a disaster for children, either creating an individual to whom they will be permanently attached or giving birth to a soul that is constantly rebellious.
The airtight monitoring and suffocating love are like a pair of invisible hands, stifling the sky that children should be happy and carefree.
As the saying goes, parents should be the guiding light on the road of children's growth, not the crutches that they hold on to all the time.
Learn to let go, even if your child falls, it's an integral part of growth.
Don't let excessive control become the culprit that destroys your child's future and turns the family's beautiful vision into an endless tragedy.
Master Nebula said: Parents are like the original, and children are copies.
The growth of children reflects the practice and achievements of their parents.
If you want to be fruitful, you must first devote your heart and soul to the cause.
Enriching the heart, indifferently expecting, letting go of control, and self-improvement are the keys to accumulating well-being for children.
The ideal family is the pursuit and effort of parents and children.
May our family see the truth in the subtleties and build the foundation of harmony and prosperity together.