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How to resolve conflicts is the most critical factor in parent-child relationships. Conflict is an integral part of life, it is not necessarily bad. How to resolve the conflict is the most critical factor in determining whether a relationship is healthy, satisfactory to both parties, friendly, deep and intimate.
About Me Info
After many parents learn the communication method of "my information", they practice at home with excitement, but they repeatedly hit a wall, and even make the parent-child relationship worse.
This may be because:
1. What you think you are expressing is "my message" is actually a disguised "you message.". In other words, what you think is expressing your feelings is actually blaming and criticizing the child.
2. When expressing your feelings, there is too much emphasis on negative and negative feelings.
3. Parents should accurately express their inner emotions and feelings, but do not use their children as a punching bag.
About "No Losers"
In this new approach, which does not involve a power struggle, the solution is acceptable to both parents and children, which is a mutually agreed solution.
The best solution is not the one written in the parenting book or the one advocated by the parenting specialist, but the one that is applicable to one's own family and acceptable to the family members. This program requires family members to participate in the discussion and final decision, rather than relying on the authority of the parents to determine it.
Why is this method so effective? The reasons are:
1. Children participate in the decision-making process, can develop children's thinking ability, and they will have more motivation to implement solutions, and they are more likely to take the initiative to implement;
2. The solution is no longer just from the perspective of one party, but more creative and high-quality:
3. Eliminate the power struggle between parents and children, reduce the hostility between the two sides, and make the parent-child relationship more intimate;
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The 6 steps of the "No Losers" method:
1. Identify and define conflicts: understand the difference between needs and solutions, learn to use active listening skills, and tap the potential needs of both parties;
2. Identify a variety of possible alternative solutions (brainstorming common to parents and children): Do not judge, evaluate, or belittle any solutions your child proposes;
3. Evaluate alternative solutions: Be honest about how you feel;
4. Determine the most appropriate solution: make sure that both parties agree to execute;
5. Execute the solution;
6. Track the effectiveness of the solution and make appropriate modifications to the solution during the evaluation process.
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