From an early age, we must establish good rules for children, let children do things, and have their own set of rules. In the process of establishing rules, how should parents teach? How to teach children to establish their own rules, but also to let children understand the importance of rules?
Professor Zeng Guoqiang once said that children look small at the age of three and look old at the age of seven. Children who understand the rules from an early age will not do too much in the future, children who are not restricted by the rules from an early age, and children who do not abide by the rules will easily do things that are out of line when they grow up. Many young people make lifelong mistakes because they can't tolerate a momentary anger, but in fact, these young people have not obeyed the rules since childhood. The fact that well-behaved people are able to limit themselves even on the verge of collapse and avoid crossing red lines shows the importance of rules. The growth of rules is a must for a person, and parenting must focus on cultivating children's sense of rules.
Why should we focus on cultivating children's sense of rules?
Rules are the red line for a child's growth
Everyone should never do anything outside the law in the process of growing up. If the child grows up from an early age without any constraints, then it is difficult for the child to know where the rules and the bottom line are, only by letting the child know the rules from an early age, so that the child knows what he should do and what he should not do to accept the influence of traditional cultural ethics, can he set a red line for the child's growth. Things outside the bottom line, children themselves know not to do.
Rules are an essential skill for children to integrate into society
Everyone has their own code of conduct, and people who have a code of conduct can better converge, that is, meet the requirements of the collective. Man grows up in the collective without society, and in the sociological definition, man is the sum of complex social relations. Rules are the child's own code of conduct, but also the society requires children to abide by the code of conduct, people who do not abide by the social default rules are easily excluded by society and are not accepted by society.
Only by paying attention to rules can we cultivate a sense of morality in children
In Traditional Chinese thought, there is a special emphasis on ethics and morality, children respect parents, support for the elderly, protection of vulnerable groups, treat wives well, and treat families well, these are the rules that society emphasizes, a person who does not abide by the rules is easy to have no sense of morality, and a poor sense of morality will affect social security and affect personal development. People without a sense of morality are easy to do wrong and outrageous things, in order to grow up within a safe framework, we must cultivate children's sense of morality and cultivate children's sense of rules.
Many parents are worried, before the age of three children have to learn the rules, but the children before the age of three, obedient and talk do not understand, eat need to be fed by the mother, sleep need to be coaxed by the father, the ability to take care of themselves is not yet complete, so how do they teach the rules of the child, how to do a good job in the guidance of the rules when raising children?
How to teach children before the age of three to learn the rules?
Teach well for the first time
Children before the age of three must not only learn the rules, but also understand the rules, in the process of learning the rules, the first time the teaching of the rules is very important, the parents for the first time in what occasion, what place, in what way to explain the rules to the child, have a direct impact on the child's learning rules and awareness of the rules. Everything is difficult at the beginning, parents explain the rules to the child at the first time, tell the child how to maintain the rules, and directly affect the effect of the child's later learning of the rules.
Avoid the effect of broken windows
In the process of growing up, it is also important to avoid the effect of broken windows. Some children have tasted the benefits of the first unruly, there will be more and more unruly behavior, if the parents do not punish the child for the first time, the child will be like a window that has just begun to be broken, and then the degree of tattering has become more and more difficult to clean.
There are penalties for unruly
If the child does not abide by the rules, he should give the child some punishment, and not giving the child punishment in time will directly affect the child's awareness of abiding by the rules. However, punishing the child for too long can not play the purpose of punishment, when the child does not follow the rules, give the child some reminders, if the child does not listen, timely punishment is very important.
Children before the age of three want to learn the rules, and more importantly, they start from the child's first learning, and then in life, the maintenance of rules. If the rules are not maintained in time, it will destroy the results of the previous establishment of rules, and everyone should master some simple rules of behavior in daily life, and the same is true for three-year-olds. What are the rules of conduct in daily life that children before the age of 3 must know?
In daily life, what are the rules of conduct that children before the age of 3 must know?
Dinner must wait for everyone to be together
Let the child in the meal must wait until the crowd before the meal, this is not the child to eat whether it is good to see, but the child has a collective consciousness of the problem, if the child does not consider other family members only consider their own feelings, then when eating will not wait for others to be together. Only by learning to wait from an early age and waiting for all common family members to arrive before eating can children love all family members more and know the preciousness of the collective.
Respect the old and love the young
Cultivate children's rules of respecting the old and loving the young from an early age, so that children can form a sense of protection for vulnerable groups, can know that they cannot bully the weak in life, and also know to protect themselves. Respect for the elderly and love for children is the virtue of the whole society, but also three-year-old children, should know the rules, do not feel that the child is small, so do not teach, from a young age to teach is the most useful, in the process of parenting, we must guide the child, respect the old and love the young.
Don't rob other people of things
In the process of parenting, it is also very important to cultivate the child's sense of belonging, if the child is always used to robbing other people's things from childhood, the child will be happy to rob, so cultivate the child's sense of rules, let the child not seize other people's personal belongings from an early age, learn to respect others, which is very important for establishing the child's sense of boundaries to establish the child's moral awareness, many parents do not pay attention, but this kind of non-attention invisibly harms the child.
summary
In daily life, from an early age, children learn to wait for family members to arrive before eating, learn to respect the old and love the young, and do not rob others of their things. The Chinese nation pays the most attention to traditional virtues, so it pays special attention to giving rules to young children from an early age, in the process of parenting, parents do not feel that it is cruel to establish rules for young children, we must start from an early age and cultivate children's moral concepts.
Today's topic discussion: How do you set rules for your children? Everyone is welcome to discuss their educational experience.