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The benefits of parents loving their children
Strong and positive family relationships are enjoyable because a warm and loving family can make people feel good. However, positive family relationships are also important in many other ways. They can:
1. Help children feel safe and loved, give them the confidence to explore their world, try new things and learn.
2. Make it easier to solve problems and conflicts within our families, and be able to respect different opinions.
3) Give children the necessary skills to build their own healthy relationships.
That's why it's worth it to maintain and improve our relationships with our children and other family members. We can develop positive family relationships by doing a lot of simple things.
So how can we build positive and harmonious family relationships?
High-quality time utilization
Quality family time means making the most of the time our family spends together. Here are some ways to do it:
1. Use the time of day to chat and laugh together. For example, family meals and car trips are good times of the day to reminisce about the past.
2) When we are a family together, turn off electronic devices such as mobile phones, tablets, etc., which helps everyone to focus on what we are doing or discussing.
3. Have one-on-one conversations with family members to strengthen personal relationships. Your child may only be able to talk to us for five minutes before going to bed.
4) If we have time, make time for our partner. We can explain to our children why, having time alone with our partner is good for a relationship, and that a parental relationship is important for a child.
5, the family often do some interesting things. This can be a family football game in a local park on Saturday, or a weekly family board game night.
Positive and effective communication
Positive communication is to listen without judgment and express your thoughts and feelings openly and respectfully. It helps everyone feel understood, respected, and valued, and it also strengthens our relationship with family members. These positive communication methods can be tried to strengthen our family relationships
1) When our child or partner wants to talk, try to stop what we're doing, listen intently, and then everyone comes to express their views and feelings.
2. Open up and talk about difficult things you encounter, such as mistakes and feelings, including anger, joy, frustration, fear, and anxiety, but it is best to wait for strong emotions such as anger to calm down before talking about it.
3. Be prepared for spontaneous conversation. For example, young children often like to talk about their feelings while bathing or going to bed.
4. Prepare for difficult conversations, especially with teenagers. For example, sex, drugs, alcohol, academic difficulties, and money are topics that are difficult for families to talk about. Before these topics arise, it is helpful to think carefully about your feelings and values.
5) Encourage your child with praise. For example: "Leo, it's a big help for me to be able to take the box in on your own initiative." Thank you!"
6, let everyone in the family know that you love them and appreciate them. It can be as simple as saying I love you every night when your kids go to bed.
Active nonverbal communication
Not all communication takes place through language, so it's important to pay attention to the non-verbal feelings our children and partners have. For example, sometimes a child may not want to talk to us, but sometimes they still come looking for the comfort of a hug.
It's also important to pay attention to the nonverbal messages we send ourselves. For example, hugs, kisses, and eye contact convey the message that we want to be close to our children. But when we do things together, a grumpy tone or a frown may send a message to the child that we don't want to stay there anymore.
Appreciate each other
Mutual respect is at the heart of good family relationships.
1. Care about each other's lives. For example, take time to see each other's sporting events, theatrical performances, artistic performances, and so on.
2) When you talk about what happened that day, get everyone involved.
3. Share family stories and memories. This can help children appreciate things that are less obvious or have been forgotten, such as mom's athletic performance as a child and the way an older sister helps take care of her younger brother after he is born.
4. Recognize each other's differences, talents and abilities, and use each other's strengths. For example, if we praise and thank our teenage children for their patience in listening to their younger siblings read, children will begin to feel helpful and cared for by us.