Dr. U+: The biggest failure of homeschooling is that children are increasingly not respecting their parents

"Ten years of trees, a hundred years of tree people", education is an eternal topic that has existed infinitely since the birth of human civilization. Many of the child's problems are created by the parents, and if the parents' problems are not solved, the children's problems cannot be solved.

Hello everyone, I am U+ Doctor of U+ (shi) education instructor, today I talk to you about the importance of family education, understand the importance, in order to stimulate the parents to take the initiative to learn the motivation, master the scientific family education methods. It's about children, we must persist, persist, and persevere!

The biggest failure of homeschooling is that children increasingly do not know how to respect their parents. There was a news story that a little boy was reluctant to go to school, and his mother advised him to play with his mobile phone indifferently for most of the day. Mom asked him helplessly, "What do you want to do before you want to go to school?" His son said, "You kneel down for me and I'll go to school." The mother listened to her son's words and knelt down to her son on the spot. His son, seeing his mother kneeling on the spot to persuade him to go to school, was so happy that he cocked Erlang's legs. Then, he took the mobile phone, took a picture of his mother kneeling, and sent it to the circle of friends to show off.

The child's cold, dismissive expression made people shudder. And news like this one is endless.

"Life is short", the tasks that parents should complete in their lives, summed up only two things, one is to realize themselves in society and achieve career success. The second is to educate their offspring well, complete an important part of self-continuation--- educate children. To educate children how to behave, to teach their children by example, every parent has a long way to go.

The growth of children should be three-dimensional, multi-directional, multi-ability growth, and the education of children is also three-dimensional. All-round education, relying only on school education and ignoring family education, is a pity for the growth of children.

Every family spontaneously carries out family education, so what is family education? In family life, the education and influence of their children and other young children is carried out by the parents, i.e., by the elders of the family, mainly parents. Family education includes two aspects: parents educating their children and mutual education between family members, the main aspect of which is parental education of children.

Family education is an education and influence process between family members, and the education and influence of family education is two-way and interactive, it is a kind of family education that is full of affection, stable, lasting, non-formal education. It not only requires parents to have knowledge and insight in this area, but also requires parents to know how to better communicate with their children, mobilize their children's enthusiasm, and let their children seek knowledge. Dating. behave. Self-cultivation and other aspects of getting a good education, prompting children to fully develop their potential.

There is no fixed mode of family education, everything is carried out anytime and anywhere in daily life, and the influence of parents on their children's education is more transmitted through the words and deeds of parents. And family education is complex and diverse, it is all-encompassing. The family should not only be responsible for the child's food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but also take on the heavy responsibility of personality development, and also cultivate the child's living ability, physical development, learning habits, and character cultivation.

"Hope that the child will become a dragon, and the daughter will become a phoenix" is the greatest wish of parents in the whole world. This kind of wish can be achieved from a small place, and from a small point of view, it may create the pride of a nation, and even become a representative of civilization and progress. Unfortunately, for some parents, the wish of their children to become talents is difficult to achieve. The root cause is the impact of the family environment on children.

The family environment is divided into a physical environment and a spiritual environment, which have an overall impact on the growth of adolescents.

The physical environment of the family includes the living conditions of the family, economic income, etc., which is directly related to the material living conditions of the family, the learning environment of the children and the health. In the past, it was generally believed that the good physical environment of the family could create good living and learning conditions and opportunities for the children, which was conducive to the development of the children. However, sociological research has found that when the family's material conditions reach the basic guarantee, economic re-growth does not have a positive effect on the growth of children. A large number of facts have also proved that many successful people do not come from famous families, but from ordinary families. If the children of rich families lack a good education, they will often become idle and unrestrained mediocre people. Blindly giving children high consumption and satisfying children's eating and drinking pleasures has developed bad habits and hindered children's development. As a parent, it is necessary to reasonably arrange the family's economic income and provide a good material environment for the child.

The spiritual environment of the family includes the relationship between family members, the cultural atmosphere of the family, and the literacy of parents. Under the premise that the physical environment of the family is guaranteed, the quality of the spiritual environment of the family plays a decisive role in the development of the child. In a good family spiritual environment, family members can get along harmoniously, husband and wife love and affection, parents love to learn, consciously and continuously pursue new knowledge, have a healthy lifestyle, parents also attach importance to the education of their children and can use the correct methods, forming an atmosphere of love of truth, respect for knowledge, diligence and studiousness, such a family environment must be conducive to the physical and mental development of children. On the contrary, some parents behave vulgarly, do not read books or newspapers, treat their children despotically and lack methods, are busy eating, drinking and having fun, family members have tense relations, and make a small quarrel for some trivial matters of life for three days and a big quarrel for six days. The creation of a good family spiritual environment depends on the joint efforts of family members, and parents should consciously improve their cultivation in all aspects, pursue noble and beautiful, resist ugly and vulgar, and set a good example for their children. Educating children well, we have no shortcuts, we can only forge ahead.

As early as 1,400 years ago, the Northern Qi thinker Yan Zhitui advocated starting from prenatal education, "Pregnant children do not squint or listen in March, and the taste of music is polite." This still seems quite meaningful today. Parents should take the initiative to start appropriate family education as soon as possible, and when young children can perceive the joys and sorrows of adults, they must teach them what to do and what not to do. Early family education is not only conducive to the formation of good habits in young children, but also can make children remember deeply. Parents can not give up the good opportunity of education, whether there is a good start is the key to the success or failure of family education in the future, parents should have a correct understanding of this.

For young children, family education should promote parents to lead by example. Because young children can not fully understand the truth told by their parents, but the adults' every move, they all see in the eyes, especially the imitation ability of children at this stage is very strong, they will imitate, parents should make a good example for their children, parents lead by example, this is the best, most convincing education, requiring children to do, parents themselves first have to do.

The ancients said, "His body is upright, he does not act according to orders, and his body is not right, although he does not obey orders." Only by strictly demanding themselves can parents grasp the initiative of education and have an effect. If the parents who ask their children to do it cannot do it themselves, they will lose their prestige over time. The impact of family education on children is all-round and complex, not based on the will of parents, the most critical one is to fundamentally strengthen their own cultivation and use their personality to infect children.

Thank you, I am the U+ doctor of U+ education instructor, as a fusion of the wisdom of 15 deeply funded parenting experts, I will live up to the mission, and work with you to "learn family education, be a smart parent", and successively dedicate more professional and systematic family education knowledge. Thank you for your attention, and I hope that parents can share the knowledge they have learned with every friend in need around them, encourage them to learn together, work together, be wise parents together, and promote the happy and healthy growth of their children. Come on! Come on! Come on!