Beautiful love can not be sought, it is very fortunate to be able to meet the right person, everyone is also eager to talk about sweet love to get married, but marriage is not a child's play, there is not so much freedom and romance, more is responsibility and pressure, if after marriage, two people do not have the heart to manage marriage, then with the passage of time, the feelings between each other will also come to an end.
Moreover, the world of feelings is very complicated, some people have not yet stepped into marriage, they need to go through various tests, such as bride price and house, all say that pure feelings are not mixed with any interests, but in real life, feelings will be linked to material, after all, the economic foundation determines the superstructure, sentient drinking water is only based on the ideal state, the essence of marriage is still chai rice oil and salt.
Wang Hao and Xiao Qian met in college, because in the same community, over time there are feelings, and then the relationship between each other was determined, after graduation did not run to each other, but stayed in the same city, four years of interaction, rarely quarrel, even if there is disagreement, it is mostly Wang Hao making concessions, Xiao Qian will go down the steps, the two people are holding the purpose of marriage in love, there is more tolerance and understanding.
Later, the work of the two people stabilized, and also reached the marriageable age, the parents of both sides began to urge marriage, but if they wanted to get married, they could not do without the bride price and the house, and the woman's family also put forward three requirements, the first is that the bride price should be 300,000, the more given, the more the woman's parents will have face, the second is that the house should add the daughter's name, and the third is to give the in-laws a pension in the future.
For the dowry of 300,000, Wang Hao feels that it is unlikely to be completed, his family situation is very general, although the monthly salary is now tens of thousands, and he has saved some money over the years, but it is not realistic to take out 300,000 at once, not to mention that in addition to the dowry, there are three gold and banquets that also cost money everywhere, and the girlfriend said that before marriage, the deposit will be given to the mother's family to repay the grace of parenting, so there is no way to help.
As for the matter of the house name, as long as the bride price can be lowered, he does not matter, anyway, it is the home of two people, but what Wang Hao can not understand is the problem of helping his parents-in-law to provide for the elderly, if Xiao Qian is an only child, then he will not say anything more, but the problem is that Xiao Qian still has a younger brother underneath, and he is already working, in this case, why ask the son-in-law to go to the pension, Wang Hao does not oppose his girlfriend to do filial piety after marriage, but he cannot take all the things of the mother's family on his body, and in the end it is not himself who pays. The pressure after marriage is too great.
The three requirements put forward by the woman's family also made Wang Hao retreat, the main reason is that Xiao Qian not only did not oppose, but stood on the side of her parents, Wang Hao let her discuss, at least reduce the bride price, otherwise there is money to buy a house, but Xiao Qian resolutely refused, but also said: The bride price and the house are originally responsible for the man's family, why do I have to compromise, my parents raised me is not easy, the bride price money I do not plan to bring back.
After listening to Xiao Qian's words, Wang Hao was completely dead hearted, and originally wanted her to help her do the ideological work of her parents-in-law, but in the end she had a heart with her family, and finally Wang Hao could only choose to break up.
Marriage is a matter of two people, meet the right person, should be cherished, for the future life and more efforts, but some people's feelings are often interfered with by the elders, especially in terms of material aspects, although the parents have walked longer than you, have seen more scenery than you, but the advice made is not 100% correct, sometimes need to be carefully screened by themselves, if there is no their own opinion, they will only blindly obey, and eventually they will only miss.