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For the vast majority of mothers-in-law, most of them treat their daughters-in-law as if they were their own, even if there are some contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law when they usually get along, the mother-in-law will wave her hands generously and be willing to forgive the daughter-in-law's faults with an inclusive attitude.
Of course, as a daughter-in-law, I will also remember the hardships of my mother-in-law, and I will also understand my mother-in-law, and only this harmonious way of getting along with my mother-in-law is the greatest guarantee of a happy family.
However, this situation is only a minority, for many families, there will be many unpredictable mother-in-law contradictions, and even some mother-in-law will take the initiative to intervene in the affairs between small couples, and even lead to a series of family problems.
01 The husband listened to the advice of his mother-in-law and began the AA system
Xiao Wu couldn't imagine that her carefully selected husband was actually a full-fledged "Ma Bao Man".
Xiao Wu and her husband met through the introduction of a matchmaker, in fact, at the beginning, Xiao Wu did not have much feeling for her husband, but in the end she could not stand her husband's unremitting pursuit, and finally Xiao Wu agreed to agree to be his girlfriend and tried to communicate for a while.
In the process of communication, Xiao Wu found that her husband, who was still a boyfriend at the time, was very attentive to himself, not only taking good care of Xiao Wu in life, but also giving Xiao Wu great help in work.
Therefore, Xiao Wu decided to marry him.
However, what Xiao Wu did not expect was that it was not until after marriage, after experiencing getting along with her husband's family, that she slowly discovered that her husband seemed to be too obedient to her mother-in-law's opinion.
Xiao Wu's mother-in-law is more powerful, she always "teaches" Xiao Wu as an elder, at the beginning, out of respect for her mother-in-law, Xiao Wu also nodded her head from time to time, but after a long time, Xiao Wu had some rebellious emotions against her mother-in-law.
However, at this time, the husband continued to do Xiao Wu's ideological work, trying to make Xiao Wu obey her mother-in-law, but this behavior of her husband did not change Xiao Wu's thoughts, but it further aroused the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
And the mother-in-law saw that Xiao Wu did not answer her love, and she was a little angry in her heart, so she found her son and let him and Xiao Wu start the AA system life.
The mother-in-law's original intention was to try to put pressure on Xiao Wu with her own son, but unexpectedly, Xiao Wu agreed without thinking after hearing her husband's proposal.
02 The mother-in-law is taken care of by her husband alone after she is old
As a pillow person who gets along day and night, when her husband takes the initiative to put forward the request of the AA system, Xiao Wu looks at his constantly flashing eyes, and his heart is roughly clear, perhaps all this is the attention of her mother-in-law.
However, at this point, the cause of the matter has long been less important, so Xiao Wu agreed to her husband's request without thinking, and since then the husband and wife have started an AA life.
When the AA system was implemented for many years, Xiao Wu gradually found that in addition to being a little uncomfortable at the beginning, it is now much better, before he was caught in endless housework all day, at the end of the day, there was almost no space for himself, but since the AA system, he was busy with the part he should do, and the rest of the time was at his disposal.
On the other hand, after the AA system, his rhythm of life has obviously been disrupted, and he not only needs to work, but also has to do housework after returning home at night.
At this time, Xiao Wu can also justifiably draw a line with her mother-in-law, and no longer need to be disturbed by her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law was obviously aware of this problem, so she began to slowly withdraw from Xiao Wu's life with her husband.
Time flies, and soon, the mother-in-law will reach the age when she needs to be taken care of.
Therefore, the husband took the mother-in-law to the house for convenience.
03 The mother-in-law regretted that she was wrong at the beginning
The mother-in-law originally thought that after coming to her son's house, her life and living were taken care of by her daughter-in-law, but except for the first day of her arrival, Xiao Wu said hello to herself, and After this, Xiao Wu never said a word.
And the whole process is taken care of by the son, ask the son the reason, it turned out that Xiao Wu and her husband had agreed at the time of the original AA system, about the future of the two parents to provide for the elderly, whose parents are responsible.
The mother-in-law was silent after hearing these words.
Especially when the mother-in-law sees her son after a hard day's work during the day, he has to take care of himself when he returns home at night, in order to make the meal as rich as possible, after work, his son also has to go to the vegetable market, and every day he has to be busy until very late to rest, and the daughter-in-law is on the side No matter how busy her son is, she is not moved.
It was only at this time that the mother-in-law woke up to the fact that it was not a wise choice for her son and daughter-in-law to make AA system, but because of her wishful thinking, it led to the strange road between the son and the daughter-in-law, and the feeling of home no longer existed.
So after dinner, the mother-in-law said to Xiao Wu: Daughter-in-law, it is the mother who is sorry for you, it is the mother who is wrong.
In the face of her mother-in-law's confession, Xiao Wu was moved in her heart, but she could not see any expression on her face, and she said lightly: I have returned to the house. He got up and left.
Conclusion: Years of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law grievances can be easily solved with a few words, especially in the case of Xiao Wu, when the mother-in-law is young, she always interferes too much in the affairs between the small husband and wife, and even requires her son to implement the AA system, which is really a bit unsatisfactory.
Therefore, as a mother-in-law, we must know one thing well, that is, the children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and not interfering too much in the affairs between the little couple is a wise mother-in-law who must understand one thing.