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Any long-term marriage is inseparable from the joint efforts of the husband and wife, only based on the concentricity of husband and wife, life will get better and better, and the feelings between each other will be more harmonious.
However, in real life, almost all couples will encounter more or less family conflicts, some of which are rooted in the husband and wife, and some of which come from their respective original families.
In fact, for most couples, inexperienced, when they face the intervention of their respective original families, they will always be a little hasty, and they do not know which way to face it.
For this situation, the husband and wife should first make it clear that the small family between the husband and wife is not a derivative of their respective original families, but a new family that has nothing to do with their respective original families at all, and is not controlled by the original family. If this can be clearly understood, it will greatly reduce the contradictions between husband and wife.
Therefore, for the younger siblings of the original family, if you can help, you can help, you can't help and don't reluctantly help, if this leads to the impact of the husband and wife's feelings, it is obviously not worth the loss.
01 Fell in love for many years and finally became a couple
After Xiao Wu graduated, he went to a company for internship, and finally ushered in the opportunity to turn himself positive after half a year, and his income naturally increased greatly, in order to celebrate, he took his girlfriend Li Li to the restaurant to rub a good meal.
This seems to have become a tacit understanding between Xiao Wu and Li Li, whenever he encounters something happy, Xiao Wu will go straight to the restaurant and order a few favorite dishes, which is a disguised celebration.
After many years, whenever Xiao Wu thinks of this scene, the corners of his mouth always unconsciously raise a smile, but when he thinks of the state of the husband and wife now, that smile gradually turns into a bitter smile.
Xiao Wu and Li Li experienced the most difficult period of graduation, even so far, Xiao Wu is still grateful for Li Li's inseparability in his heart, perhaps it is in response to that sentence: surviving graduation is a lifetime.
Xiao Wu did not live up to Li Li's expectations, nor did he let Li Li wait in vain, he only took three years to enter the middle position of the company, as the career gradually got on the right track, Xiao Wu began to discuss marriage with Li Li.
In the end, under the witness of both parents, Xiao Wu and Li Li finally had lovers and finally became dependents and entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
Xiao Wu originally thought that he and Li Li would be happier after marriage, but the reality was like a blow to the head, and many things happened that Xiao Wu did not expect.
02 The wife prepared a dowry of 160,000 for her brother
After getting married, in order to make the family get a better life, Xiao Wu worked harder, and with it, Xiao Wu became more and more busy, so everything in the family was entrusted to Li Li to take care of, including Xiao Wu's own salary.
In fact, in Xiao Wu's heart, it has always been very clear that Li Li is impeccable to everything she does to herself and even to her entire family, but in the same way, Li Li also takes meticulous care of her mother's parents, even if when she was getting married, Xiao Wu's bride price was withheld by her for her son's marriage, and Li Li did not have any half a word of complaint about it.
However, nian in Li Li's efforts over the years, even after marriage, under the premise that Xiao Wu knew it, he also had a closed-eye attitude towards Li Li's subsidy to her mother's family.
The appearance of the final event made Xiao Wu feel very regretful, if he had stopped his wife in the first place, perhaps this matter could be completely avoided.
Xiao Wu quit her original job and prepared to go out with her friends, but when she urgently needed to use her savings, her wife said that the family did not have so much money.
Xiao Wu was very confused about this, because over the years, his hands were also counted in his heart, and although the family's expenses were large, they were not so unsaved, and after constant questioning, his wife told the truth.
It turned out that just a few months ago, the brother-in-law got married, and Li Li secretly prepared a 160,000 dowry for him.
After listening to all this, Xiao Wu suddenly realized that at that time, he was still wondering, the conditions of his husband's family were not too good, how could he suddenly hold a marriage for his brother-in-law, you know, the bride price and the house are not a small amount, as everyone knows, all this is supported by his wife behind his back.
And all this, Xiao Wu did not know.
03 The husband did not say a word, and finally the wife regretted it
After listening to his wife's story, Xiao Wu looked at her for a long time without saying a word, until Li Li was uncomfortable, and Xiao Wu silently got up and walked away.
Seeing the figure of Xiao Wu silently leaving, Li Li was very uncomfortable in her heart, she knew that this matter was not right for herself, but when she remembered the way her parents interceded with her, she couldn't help but feel a pain in her heart, after all, her parents had the grace to nurture her, and her only brother could not marry his wife because of the bride price, as a sister, it was also a dilemma.
But the husband's silent appearance made Li Li feel very uneasy, even if the husband reprimanded himself a few words, Li Li would feel better in her heart.
After returning to the house, Xiao Wu thought a lot, although he could understand Li Li's difficulties, but she should never do these things behind her back, but when she remembered the beautiful past of the two, the two words "divorce", Xiao Wu still could not say it.
Helplessly, Xiao Wu had to use this way to make Li Li realize her mistake.
Since then, Xiao Wu's income has never been handed over to Li Li for safekeeping, and he is usually only responsible for some of the family's expenses, and Xiao Wu does not ask about the rest of the matter.
And Lily's attitude change towards her husband is also self-aware, since then, she has never hidden anything from her husband, but even so, Xiao Wu's attitude towards her is not as good as before, there seems to be an invisible wall between husband and wife, a wall that cannot be crossed and cannot disappear.
Even if Li Li has more regrets, it will not help after all, after all, everyone is responsible for their own actions.
Conclusion: The originally harmonious family was stirred up by the affairs of the original family, even if Li Li had more grievances and regrets, it was useless.
In fact, marriage is like this, the most feared thing is that the husband and wife hide from each other, especially about their respective original families, and the degree of blow to the small family can be imagined. Therefore, no matter what decisions the couple makes, they must think twice and put the partner first, only in this way will the married life be more harmonious.