Lily broke up again, and this is the fifth time she and her boyfriend have broken up! Divided and combined, lily began to despair: why did she try her best to save it, but finally broke up?
It turned out that Li Li's boyfriend would pull Li Li every time she quarreled, and then threatened to break up, Li Li was unwilling to break up, so she unconditionally agreed to her boyfriend's request, compromised, cried, pleased...
Tu Lei, a well-known emotional mentor, once said:
Seven points for lovers is enough, and the remaining three points are enough to love yourself!
Digging out your heart and lungs will eventually lose yourself, and selfishness will eventually only be left with yourself!
Love more and love less, not as good as love, give more to give less, but also want the other party to give, this is a framework!
Frameworks are ubiquitous and ubiquitous in the process of human interaction.
In the process of interacting with the opposite sex, the role of the framework cannot be overemphasized.
Even to some extent, your value is attached to your framework. Once the framework is lost, the power of value is greatly reduced.
Only women who know how to establish a framework can pursue the love they want.
The essence of love is attraction, the essence of attraction is value, and value is the key to determining who dominates the relationship between two people.
Many problems in relationships actually revolve around the premise of "value", and the premise of establishing your framework in love is no exception.
So, how to establish your own framework in marriage?
Establish a reward framework that makes you valued, and be a high-value woman that men can't explore.
High-value display can increase the number of your suitors several times, and at the same time, it can also release sweetness to men, so that men have the strength to pursue you, thus creating a "you are high and he is low" love framework, so that men feel that it is an honor to have you.
High value can be one or even two of the external values, internal values, economic values, and if you have all three values, then you are definitely a treasure girl that any man is reluctant to give up.
Second, establish a framework of obedience that allows men to increase their investment, and be a woman that men are reluctant to leave.
Obedience tests can guide men step by step to surrender to you.
The simplest "obedience test": you first make a small request for the other party to obey and agree, and then slowly make a slightly larger request, and use a step-by-step approach to make him accept more of your request.
When small obedience develops into large obedience, he will invest more and more in you, will naturally love you more, and you will naturally occupy the initiative.
Third, establish a push-pull framework that makes men's sense of need explode, and be the master of love.
The so-called push and pull technique, "push" is to push away, expressing no interest in the other party, such as ridiculing him; "pull" is to pull closer, express interest in him, such as praising him.
When you have mastered the overall idea of chatting, learned to avoid mistakes in the chat, and become familiar with the skills of leading the topic to find the topic. With a push and a pull, you can stir up a man's mood swings and make him endlessly interested in you.
Fourth, establish a chat framework that men can't resist, and let him revolve around you as soon as you open your mouth.
You have to focus on the conversation itself, not the topic of the conversation.
It's not a question of what to talk about, it's a question of how to talk about it. Because, when chatting with men, the most important thing is not the content, but the atmosphere.
Maintaining a framework is when men can't do what they say, we have to stick to the framework rules that we preset for ourselves.
When we have practiced the framework countless times, we will find that as long as there is a framework in our hearts, there is a framework everywhere, and there is no need to deliberately maintain it, and the framework itself jumps out.
Some people have given four principles for maintaining marital happiness: respect each other, maintain independence, accommodate tolerance, and keep the bottom line.
The framework is the bottom line, and only by sticking to your own bottom line can you manage a happy marriage and love.
Some people change for the sake of love, until they finally lose themselves;
Some people are willing to abandon everything in order to love;
There are also people who silently tolerate love, even if they are injured, they do not say a word;
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Such bottomless "love" cannot last long after all.
May you have love and a bottom line, to be nourished in marriage, and to embrace sweetness and warmth.
Focus on the emotions in happiness, let us teach you methods and techniques to maintain the relationship between the sexes, so that your love becomes sweeter.