Men are the rakes that hold the money, and the women are the boxes for the money.
This sentence tells us that if a family wants to live well, it must have both a rake and a tooth, but if there is a problem with one party, then no matter how hard it tries, it will end up being empty.
The husband earns more than 10,000 yuan a month, never has more than 200 yuan in his pocket, and the wife has been in charge of the family for 10 years, but the deposit is not a penny
Xiao Wei and Li Li, who live in Shanxi, have been married for 10 years, the husband and wife have two children, the eldest daughter is 10 years old, the younger daughter is 3 years old, the feelings of the two are relatively stable, it has always been Xiao Wei who makes money to support the family, Li Li is at home to take care of the children, as the saying goes, men and women match, life is tasteful, work is not tired, but this period of time, Xiao Wei resolutely proposed divorce.
Xiao Wei's move really made Li Li panic, and she sincerely said to her husband, I want to live a good life with you, is it okay not to divorce? However, Li Li's confession did not move Xiao Wei, but made Xiao Wei even more angry, he roared to his wife Li Li: I will live with you again, sooner or later I will be dragged down by you.
Why did this come about? Then Xiao Wei talked about the hard life of the past ten years, which made him also haggard. Xiao Wei said that in the past ten years, I have been making money outside to support my family, and the economic power of the family is controlled by my wife, she can buy whatever she wants, spend it as much as she wants, and I have never stopped my wife.
But what about me? A big man has never had more than 200 yuan on him, not only that, it is more difficult every time he asks his wife for money, but also depends on her mood, after saying that Xiao Wei angrily took out a stack of money from his pocket and threw it on the ground, counting only a hundred dollars, he accused his wife Li Li, this is all my savings for 10 years.
Words outside Xiao Wei is full of many complaints about his wife, the mood is also more and more excited, after a little relaxation of emotions, Xiao Wei once again accused his wife, he said, I wear a pair of cloth shoes broken, buy a pair of only ten dollars, I have no money to ask my wife to want, she procrastinated not to me, I saw her wallet on the table, I took 20 yuan by myself, and then shouted my wife to go to the store to buy a pair of cloth shoes, the price is 12 yuan, the remaining 8 yuan was given to my wife, unexpectedly, to the factory, My wife called and said I stole 20 bucks from her, and she was so outrageous, so excessive.
For Xiao Wei's accusations and accusations, Li Li admitted that there was indeed something, but Xiao Wei said angrily, this is not too much, more excessive is still behind, my grandfather, uncle, grandfather, and a younger brother are all in the same year, 4 families, a family with gifts of 100 yuan, a total of only 400 yuan, this money is not much, there is money at home, I asked my wife to ask for money on human affection, but my wife does not give, why not give it? It is because I did not give her a courier, she was in a bad mood, so she did not give it to me, no way, I went to ask my friend to borrow money to follow the favor, is this what a wife should do?
Speaking of this, the wife Li Li who was sitting next to her also had something to say, she did not think that there was anything, and at the same time complained that her husband did not say good things to herself, nor did she coax herself, she said that Xiao Wei did not give me a courier at that time, and when we were in love, we quarreled, I gambled and waited for him to ask for money for me, but he did not open his mouth, I did not give him.
Then Li Li hurried to explain, she said, this is all a few years ago, I am a little bad temper, afterwards my husband because of this matter and I had a conflict, I am not like this, I have changed a long time ago.
Just for Li Li's words, Xiao Wei is not recognized, he raised the decibel said, Li Li did not change at all, I married a wife, I will be responsible for my wife, I am responsible for my wife, my wife has become more intense, unscrupulous, a few days ago my mother's legs hurt, lying there can not move, our three brothers each shared 500 yuan to my mother to see a doctor, the result of the wife because of a bad mood, do not know whether the eldest brother and the second brother have shared this money equally, so 500 yuan is not given to me, As a result, my mother lay there unable to move.
My father-in-law is not in good health, my wife takes money to go to the doctor, I did not say any undesirable words, what I said was to let my wife go to filial piety, my mother-in-law was hospitalized, my wife took money, I did not say a no, I am very much in favor of filial piety to my parents, but my wife has a double standard, when she uses money at home, she does not drag mud and water at all, and when my family has money, she is in a bad mood, all kinds of reasons to prevaricate.
Hearing this, Li Li seemed a little unable to sit still, and began to argue, she said that at that time, the eldest brother shared the money equally, the second brother did not share the money equally, and I was relatively tight on hand, there was no 500 yuan, so I did not give it.
Li Li's defense also angered everyone, as a woman can't look at it, since the husband has handed over the money to you for safekeeping, there is no money, borrow money to see the old mother, how can you not give money because the second brother did not give money, this is not a reason at all. When asked how her husband treated you, Li Li did not hesitate to say that her husband was very kind to me, and the money was bought as much as he wanted, and he spent it as much as he wanted.
But when asked how Li Li was doing to her husband and in-laws? Li Li was dumbfounded for a moment, and after thinking for a while, she said: I am also very good to my husband, this year I have increased a lot of pocket money for my husband, at least a hundred, sometimes hundreds.
Li Li's "generosity" made everyone present laugh, but what could not be laughed out of was Xiao Wei, who said that my salary of 6900 yuan a month would be handed over to my wife, and if she did not let her manage the money, she would make trouble with me. Since having a little daughter, I also know that the burden is heavy, after work also did a side business, selling fruits every day in ten miles and eight villages, a month also has an income of three or four thousand, these two years of hard work, I also have my own sales group, a car of fruit can be sold out in two days.
At first, my wife found that after making money with fruit, she also supported me, when I couldn't send it, she would also help send it, but before long, she began to dismantle my desk, the principal was buckled and not given to me, I couldn't even buy the goods, many people persuaded to give the profit to my wife, the principal I kept the purchase, this wife is not willing, not to her, she will make trouble with me.
Not to mention, hearing Xiao Wei's accusation, Li Li felt quite aggrieved, she said, I gave the money to my husband, and Lent him money back. But before he could finish speaking, Xiao Wei was impatient to interrupt his wife's words, and he said dissatisfactorily: You are borrowing money, borrowing 600, I use 100, I still have to pay back 600, borrowing 7000, I use 1000, I still have to pay back 7000, the rest are spent by you, what I said.
What I can't accept most is that my wife is so preoccupied with money, but in the past 10 years, our family has not added anything decent, nor has there been a penny of savings, where the money is used and where it is spent, I don't know.
Li Li was a little anxious, and quickly explained, Xiao Wei had not worked well for the first 8 years, and his salary was only 3,000 yuan a month in the glass factory, and he rested for half a year in the first half of the year. How can such a large family save money? It is the efficiency of the glass factory in the past two years that his salary is higher.
But no matter how Li Li explained, Xiao Wei did not believe it, he said that the account is not calculated like this, 10 years of time, even if you save 10,000 a year, there are 100,000 in ten years, even if you fold half of it, there is 50,000, it is really impossible to fold half, there is 25,000, why not even a penny of deposit now.
Saying that Li Li also laughed, she said that last year she still kept an account, but there was no accounting behind, and the account book was also lost, but the words were not finished, Xiao Wei interrupted her again, saying that you can't do the bookkeeping, 100 yuan is still here, you can remember a 600 yuan up, even if the family's money management is not good, why I am lucky to make money back every day, even if the mouth is hot and can't eat, the whole family is also a mess inside and outside, the yard is overgrown, and the two children are also sloppy.
What makes Xiao Wei really unable to figure out is what his wife does at home every day, what he has paid, so he once again resolutely put forward the request that he does not want to live with his wife again, and at the same time said, I want to fly, my wife does not give support every time, and will also tie iron chains to my feet, drag my legs, and do not work together, how can this family live well?
Husband's revenge
When she heard her husband raise the idea of divorce again, Li Li proposed that her husband's is not, she said, the reason why my husband said that I am so much not, is to pick a fault, in fact, he has long changed his mind, and his female colleagues in the factory chat every day, he said that he broke off contact with the female colleague, but now he is still in contact.
After saying that, Li Li also took out her mobile phone and opened the call record on it, she said that her husband would call this female colleague every day, the longest time can be played for half an hour, the shorter is a few minutes or ten seconds, and no matter the time, regardless of the location, in front of my face dare to fight.
Xiao Wei was very angry after listening to it, it seems that Xiao Wei's marriage in the past ten years is indeed quite suffocated, and he is very angry at every turn, he said that his wife has always been like this, no matter what, as long as there are two words in it that are beneficial to her, she will take out these two words to say things, and the rest will not say anything.
It seems that Xiao Wei is selling medicine in the gourd, there are words in the words, at the same time, he said that this female colleague is just an ordinary colleague who works in the glass factory, because he has a conflict with his wife on money, and his heart is not happy, so he will talk to a female colleague.
But this statement has not been recognized by Li Li, she said bluntly, I told my husband, far away from this female colleague, I also personally sent some messages to this female colleague, let her stay away from my husband, but the two of them are still obstinate, wanton, this is obviously not to take me seriously, to do it with me.
At this time, Xiao Wei was also a little anxious, he raised his voice again and roared: I want to live with my wife, I will converge, I will not do this at all, the key is that I don't want to live with my wife at all, fed up, I belong to revenge, what I said to my female colleagues is, help, make a phone call, don't say anything, even if the phone is put there, I want a call record, I am angry with my wife.
Then Xiao Wei said that he really did not contact the female colleagues now, the purpose has been achieved, but also requires the wife to take the initiative to call the female colleagues to ask about the situation, the wife also did not hesitate to dial the female colleague's phone, the female colleagues even explained, we are just ordinary colleagues relationship, now I have left, no longer in this factory, perhaps empathy, just talk to Xiao Wei, some uncomfortable words will talk to each other, and then feel that it affects his family, there is no chat anymore.
But the explanation of the two Li Li still did not believe, she also said, when the husband said to divorce, I quickly went to find a job, wanted to have a common topic with him, who expected that the husband did not let me go to work, but also to me, resulting in my head is now sore, the wound on the hand is not good.
Seeing that Li Li pulled up this topic again, Xiao Wei was angry again, his anger was really full of stomach, as long as Li Li said a word, he was very angry, Xiao Wei said dismissively: Recently, when the farm is busy, parents are worrying about 20 acres of land every day, there is no flawless care for two children, I am not against you going out to work, you only have 75 yuan a day, I am 260 yuan a day, you take care of children and fruit stalls at home, I will help you sell after work, is this not what we discussed? Why do you have to mess with me, my salary is more than three times yours, you can't settle the account? With your 75 yuan salary, our family can't get by.
After experiencing so much, Xiao Wei was really a little overwhelmed, bluntly said that he did not want to go over again, out of helplessness, Li Li could only find her mother-in-law to help persuade her husband.
The mother-in-law returned home at 9 p.m. after a busy job, and she also said that she did not want her son and daughter-in-law to divorce, indicating that Li Li was actually not a lazy person, or had no opinion, and then went to her son's room to talk to her son, but at 9 p.m., her son was still setting up a fruit stall outside.
Speaking of Xiao Wei is indeed quite hard, Li Li had to call her husband Xiao Wei again, Xiao Wei listened to it and rushed back, after many people persuaded, Li Li took the initiative to apologize to her husband Xiao Wei, expressing her belief in Xiao Wei, don't contact the female colleague again in the future, and at the same time, she will no longer cut the money so tightly, and support her husband more in her career.
Xiao Wei breathed a long sigh of relief after listening, he said that in fact, I never thought of separating from my wife, what I said before was to anger my wife, that is, I hope that my wife can realize the problems and work with me to live this family well in the future, and I will not use this way to deal with the problems encountered with my wife in the future.
In the end, the two of them said that they were good, which caused more than a month of contradictions, but also disappeared, I have to say, this is what is going on, the way to deal with the problem is more than one extreme, fortunately there is no big problem.
Money is a woman's security, but it is also a man's guts
Now many women are in charge of the economic power of the family, after all, this is the need for some sense of security, it is understandable, but many people can not grasp a degree, that is, to give their husbands pocket money is very little, even the money to buy a pack of cigarettes is not enough, which will cause a problem, when you pull the tighter and tighter, as long as the other party let go, the pain is still yourself.
Therefore, as a wife in charge of economic power, we must find a check and balance between her husband and how much pocket money to give so as not to make her husband faceless. If you think about it, a man who has no money and no face can have, what else can he have? As the saying goes, money is a woman's sense of security, but money is also a man's guts, you can't have a sense of security, so that your husband has no guts.
A man in the absence of courage, will become more and more inferior, many careers can not let go of the hands and feet at any time to fight, this will not be a good thing for a family, between husband and wife, should work together to make the small days flourish, when you do not have the ability to control the economic power, it is better to let go, for this family, is also in a good direction, married for ten years, there is no deposit, this is undoubtedly a bottomless performance of the box of money, enough to prove, Li Li is not suitable for the economic power of the housekeeper.
It is not difficult to see that Xiao Wei is actually quite down-to-earth and capable, not only that, but also a very filial piety, filial piety to his parents at the same time filial piety to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, there is not too much complaint about life, although he handed over the money, nor did he say that a wife did not do anything in the work, and will help with children in her free time, if it were not for Li Li's excessive, I think he would not have such a big temper.
This also tells us not to take the kindness of others to you as a matter of course, everyone has a temper, just where the point of this temper is, once touched, it will explode in an instant. The husband works hard outside, as a wife to make a hot meal, the home is well organized, which can make the husband feel that all the hard work is worth it.
At the same time, such a good man, do not hurt him, otherwise this life will spend all the luck, may not find a person who is so good to themselves, everyone should also have a scale in their hearts, the heart to the heart, do not let the people who pay chill.
What do you think of xiao wei and Li Li's relationship? What do you think about your wife's economic power?