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Obviously the baby has learned to urinate and defecate, why does he always pull "deliberately" to the pants with you?
I believe that many new mothers have encountered such a problem, which is too maddening, looking at the baby who is full of excrement, the gas is simply not a hit, eager to "throw" this dirty child into the trash can every minute.
It just so happened that some time ago I encountered such a scene:
On Sunday, she went to the park with a few good friends and the children for a picnic, and in the middle of the way, Li li repeatedly reminded the baby that he wanted to pee and call his mother, or just crouched there to solve it by himself.
Other friends joked that your children are so old, there must be no problem in going to the toilet by yourself, and you are always staring at what he is doing.
Li Li smiled sheepishly and said, "Our children will be able to go to the toilet by themselves when they are one and a half years old, so I am particularly proud of this, thinking that at least when they go to kindergarten, they will definitely be able to go to the toilet by themselves." However, during this time, I found that the child always peed his pants, obviously just asked him a second ago whether he wanted to go to the toilet, and the next second he directly solved it into the pants, which is almost three years old, you say angry is not angry."
Before she could finish speaking, Li Li's baby tugged at the corner of her coat and said, "Mom, La Cang!" ”
In an instant, I felt Li li's hair stand up, gritted her teeth and pulled down the child's pants, slapped her ass twice, and said viciously: "I really want to stuff you back into my stomach!" ”
The disgusting behavior of the baby's desire period, the mother has to endure even if she complains, which is related to physical and mental health
To tell the truth, seeing such a "disgusting behavior" of the baby, I really can't suppress the anger in my heart, slap a few slaps and then reprimand, for children have long become a common thing.
However, have mothers ever wondered why their babies behave like this?
The reason is simple, babies are going through sex period, just like they go through the oral sex period between the ages of 0-2 and like to put everything in their mouth to taste it.
At this time, through the physiological behavior of holding back feces and holding urine, they make the anus produce a strong sense of muscle contraction stimulation, which brings a high degree of pleasure.
This is a very normal reaction of the baby in the growth, mothers should not blame the baby, and should not beat and scold and intimidate them, this way of dealing with it will not only not correct the child's behavior, but even cause more serious consequences.
What are the manifestations of your baby entering the period?
Generally speaking, the desire period occurs about the baby's 2-4-year-old age group, of course, each baby's development will be slightly different in different time periods, but as long as the mother finds that the child has these performances, then it is likely that they have entered the desire period.
1, the baby began to have obvious urinary behavior, blushing, clamping legs, saying that he wanted to pee, but went to the bathroom but could not pee, and in the blink of an eye he peed in his pants.
2, some babies will have frequent urination, always want to go to the toilet for a while, but there is no urine when they get to the toilet.
3, in addition to holding urine some babies will also have the phenomenon of holding stool, they will always secretly hide in small corners, motionless with them, when parents call him to the toilet will also refuse the parents to come closer.
When the child has mastered the ability to urinate and defecate, but suddenly there is such a phenomenon of peeing pants, pulling pants, and urinating frequently, parents should consider whether they have entered the desire period.
The desire period usually ends in about two months, only a few babies will last a little longer, and only parents can use the correct treatment to let the baby get through this difficult time as soon as possible.
What should a baby mother do in the face of desire? Remember these three points to do more with less
No hitting, no scolding, no criticism, calmly change the dirty clothes of the child: for parents, it is inevitable to reprimand the child for such a disgusting behavior, and even after education, those who do not change repeatedly will start to do it. In fact, this will aggravate the psychological pressure of the baby, making the original physiological and psychological development stage more nervous. No hitting, no scolding, no criticism, calmly change the dirty clothes of the children and tell them that it is okay.
Holding back urine is one of the processes of psychological development, let the child experience this pleasure: a child will experience a lot of sensitive periods from birth, including the sexual bud period that will occur at 4-7 years old, the incubation period of 7-12 years old, the genitals of 12-20 years old, these are one of the manifestations of the baby's growth, parents do not need to worry about the bad impact on the child, when they are familiar with this behavior, there is no desire to explore then these behaviors will naturally disappear.
Learn to guide the child correctly, let the child slowly change: for the child's behavior of holding back poop and holding urine, parents are not good at having a positive conflict with the child, they can attract the child through the toy next to the toilet, or through the picture book story, alleviate their anxiety. Secondly, when the child has this behavior, we should also remind the child to wash his hands before personal hygiene, and not to touch his own excrement, so as to avoid causing bacterial infection to bring harm to the body.
In the face of desire baby, does the novice mother know how to deal with it?